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UPBEAT551 SparkPoints: (28,516)
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8/12/13 5:35 A

It's standard procedure. Don't fret about it.

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8/12/13 5:06 A


SIFUMARY1 SparkPoints: (7,898)
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8/11/13 11:58 P

I agree, I think she was just responding to you saying "oh no"..

KNITTINGNAN SparkPoints: (18,076)
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8/11/13 11:48 P

Under the distress of having an ear infection and not feeling well, you most likely were not receptive to anyone making comments to you. Actually, I thought her suggestion of closing your eyes while she weighed you was rather funny. You could have responded that you'll be closing your eyes when you see the bill.

CHOPPER74 SparkPoints: (13,224)
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8/11/13 11:45 P

I think you read too much into her comment. I could see myself saying the same thing to you just to break the ice and get you to relax a little. There was nothing wrong with her comment, but I know what it is like to spend all day wondering what someone meant by a comment! I hate when I do that.

STARSHINE671 SparkPoints: (0)
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8/11/13 11:36 P

I have several nurses in my family and weighing everyone is standing operating procedure, each time you come in to the Doctors office.I am sure it was an off hand remark ,not meant to offend.

Edited by: STARSHINE671 at: 8/11/2013 (23:36)
JBALDWIN29 Posts: 5,136
8/11/13 6:58 P

I don't think I would be offended

CANDIK48 SparkPoints: (0)
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8/11/13 5:32 P

If you have an ear infection or anything that requires medication, your weight is an important factor in prescribing the correct dosage. They have to weigh you. The amount of medication you take is based on a per kilo rate. It's a necessary issue not a "only if you feel comfortable and want to" issue. By refusing to do it, you also refuse to allow your medical care provider to give you adequate care. Many people are loathe to see what the numbers are on the scale or to let someone else see the "shame" of the number. Perhaps the nurse felt your reluctance was due to discomfort for you on a personal level. In a medical situation, weight denial can be more hazardous to your health than a number on the scale can be to your sense of comfort zone or ego. I would say she was NOT trying to be insensitive rather she was trying to make you feel more comfortable while she did a task necessary to ensure you received the care you deserved.

Now if she had said something negative about your weight after you stepped on the scale depending on what was said, that would be a different story.

GEVANS7 SparkPoints: (310,643)
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8/11/13 5:25 P

I think her comment was innocent. I have to get weighed every time I go to the Doctor's - it's for their record keeping. There's a big sign that says your shoes have to stay on.

You are a new patient, the woman weighs every patient and many react negatively, so I think she was trying to make it easier for you. She had no idea of your weight loss.

JRRING Posts: 1,534
8/11/13 1:31 P

I had a dog who hated getting weighed at the Vet's office.....I knew the feeling!

PENNYSAVER2 SparkPoints: (144,077)
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8/11/13 1:15 P

No, I don't think anything insulting occurred in this particular situation. Embrace yourself for all your hard work!! emoticon

ZENANDNOW SparkPoints: (68,476)
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8/11/13 11:08 A

I was never insulted to be asked to weigh at a doctor's office. My possible embarrassment was from the doctor not having a set of scales that would weigh someone my size (back then).

Now I'm happy to step on the scales when the nurse asks. I'm always excited to see if I've lost anymore weight since the last time I weighed. emoticon

FATTYBOY230 Posts: 1,112
8/11/13 11:04 A

not an insult. emoticon

DWROBERGE Posts: 367,701
8/11/13 9:47 A


SIRENSONGS SparkPoints: (57,040)
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8/11/13 9:39 A

I wouldn't be insulted. Like most others here, I think it was an innocent reaction to dealing with women who are often sensitive about their weight. Congrats on losing all your weight, that's awesome!

Now as an aside, I don't go to the doctor very often, and when I do, he never weighs me. However, I have been seeing this doctor since I was about 15 (I'm nearly 36 now), and he hasn't mentioned anything about the fact that I've lost approximately 100 pounds give or take (my weight's been fluctuating over the past little while) in just over a year. Maybe I need a more attentive doctor, lol!

ERICREH Posts: 4,160
8/11/13 7:32 A

Being weighed at the doctors office is part of every visit, along with bp and pulse.

SUNSET09 SparkPoints: (554,649)
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8/11/13 7:18 A

Ithink it was innocent as she was responding to your reply totry and make it "easier"for you. We already know and no matter what you go tothe doctor's ffice for, they will take your weight and blood pressure,at least my doctor does and i'm glad about that emoticon emoticon

8/10/13 8:20 P

I agree that it was a innocent comment.

JPRSAVETTE SparkPoints: (5,268)
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8/10/13 7:39 P

i agree with the last several folks who posted ;o)

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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8/10/13 6:53 P

Don't read anything into it. The nurse was just trying to make it an easier experience or you. I really don't know of anyone who likes to hear their weight out loud no matter what their size.

KEEP_GOING247 Posts: 2,350
8/10/13 6:51 P

It was likely an innocent comment. She was probably just being understanding, being a woman and all. I never look at the scale at the doctor's either. You should be proud of yourself after all your hard work.

MAMA_CD Posts: 1,507
8/10/13 5:14 P

I think her comment was appropriate in response to the "oh no". It's likely only you that thinks you're "fat" but none the less, if the comment inspired you to work on losing the last 10lbs then it's all good. Congratulations on the 50lbs lost, that truly is a success worth celebrating with those who celebrate with you and if they don't celebrate with you, what matter, you're still a success and can feel very good about that.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,484
8/10/13 5:01 P

I think you can sabotage your self esteem if constantly suspect people are being critical
or you can feel encouraged by expecting people are being supportive.

getting weighed is normal at the doctor's office....especially these days.

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 8/10/2013 (20:15)
FIRYMIST35 Posts: 1,154
8/10/13 4:22 P

She probably meant it innocently!

SCHEALTHNUTT SparkPoints: (49,055)
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8/10/13 4:11 P

No it is just a part of their routine. Actually apart of office assessment. I hate it too.

YELLOWDAHLIA SparkPoints: (94,861)
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8/10/13 3:41 P

I think her comment was innocent, don't let it bother you.

Also, in your situation at the doctors that day, you did not have to get on the scales if you didn't want to. I skip the weigh in all the time if I'm at the doctors for something like a cat bite (that was the last time). They have never argued with me about it, we just move on to the important stuff- like the real reason I'm there.

ATHENA1966 Posts: 3,989
8/10/13 11:59 A

No, I agree with others that, "you can close your eyes" is the way she can get folks on the scale. I am guessing most people don't like to get weighed.

8/10/13 11:45 A

I would say that probably the majority of people do not like being weighed at the doctor's office. Most of the time, their scales show that you weigh more than you do at home. I'm sure they get so many negative comments when it comes time to get weighed, that the nurse or assistant had a ready comeback to make light of the situation.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
8/10/13 10:01 A

No, I would not have been insulted. They say that all the time in medical offices when people act like they don't want to be weighed. It's just something to say.

FAITHP44 Posts: 8,745
8/10/13 9:52 A

No, you said 'Oh no' in a jokey way and she responded in the same vein. No problem.

8/10/13 9:48 A

Looking at the bigger picture, I would love for you to just fall in love with your body and the amazing things it does for you every day. (The scale is just a number) You have changed your life with the weight you have lost. You did so great, OWN IT!!
Why don't you look inside and tackle the complex, Sparkie? Change the self talk.
It could be what you need to get rid of the last couple of lb.
Best wishes to you.
I pray that you can find a way to heal that little 5 year old girl's heart too.
(By the way, I am with you on the same journey)

MOLLYSGAN Posts: 481
8/10/13 9:34 A

No, my weight been up and down from the time I hit big 40, all my life I were size 0 and 1, but after 40, it just keep on going up, it slow down in my mid 40's, than I find out I had diabetes, I guess when my late husband took sick in the 90's, some time he got discharge from one hospital, on our way home, he would get sick again, we have to go to the near hospital, what ever it is; many nights, I just get what ever I can out of the vending machine, and sleep in the chair, he past away in 1999, and I just can't do anything about it; and I don't worry about it, am comfortable with it, and many people told me it's about time that I put some meat on it.

If you love your self, there is nothing any one can do or say to hurt you.

LAURIEANDBLUE2K SparkPoints: (57,133)
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8/10/13 9:22 A

No I wouldn't have been insulted.

I never want to see my weight when I go to the doctor whether I am heavy or thinner. The nurse always laughs when I close my eyes. However, on June 1st during my physical this year I did open my eyes, which really "opened my eyes" and the next day I joined Spark! Best decision I ever made!

HSHEAJ5 Posts: 3,214
8/10/13 9:03 A

You're being overly sensitive. Joking or not, your comment put it out there that the number wasn't something you were looking forward to or proud of. I'm sure she wasn't judging you or trying to put you down. I'm also a nurse, I can guarantee you she was just trying to get her job done and couldn't have cared less what number popped up on the scale.

Also, she has no clue you just lost a bunch of weight. Congrats, btw! For all she knows, you could have just gained 20 pounds and actually been concerned about what the scale would show.

Women are so critical of themselves. My female patients are always apologizing to me for their hairy legs... I'd never notice if they didn't throw that out there. Haha.

Edited by: HSHEAJ5 at: 8/10/2013 (09:19)
JENNILACEY SparkPoints: (81,972)
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8/10/13 8:42 A

I don't know... a lot of people (especially women) are just sensitive about their weight (at any weight). Maybe that's all she was thinking and was just reacting to your hesitation. I wouldn't read too much into it. I like JANCARD's suggestion to tell them your former weight. Not only for medical reasons but the chance to "boast" (haha) might help you increase your confidence about yourself and remind yourself about your achievement.

You lost 50 out 60 lbs! That is AWESOME! Especially for someone who has struggled with their weight as long as you said you have. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. I know exactly what it's like to still nit pick at yourself. I'm at my goal weight and still nit pick. We need to remind ourselves how much we have seriously accomplished instead of focusing on those problem areas or the last 10 lbs to go. You can be insecure about yourself at any weight, just as you can be confident in yourself at any weight. It's less to do with the scale and more to do with your attitude toward yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself, you've done an amazing job. Something many people couldn't even accomplish.

Edited by: JENNILACEY at: 8/10/2013 (08:49)
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8/10/13 12:29 A

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Her comment was uncalled for.

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8/10/13 12:07 A


JANCARD SparkPoints: (120,280)
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8/9/13 11:09 P

First and foremost, congrats on your accomplishments!!! Since you've been fighting this since you were a child obviously you have come a long way and should be very proud!!

I don't view you as having any complex since I'm also sensitive about my former weight and weight loss. I might, however, suggest that there is a *bigger picture* perspective here that you might want to consider.

Since my weight loss (of 80+ pounds), when I've dealt with a couple of new doctors & health care providers in the past year or so, I always make SURE to advise them what I USED to weigh when they take my current weight. That's because I want to make sure that the loss itself doesn't impact or shouldn't be a consideration in my current diagnosis/treatment/prescriptions.

Frankly, so far when I've shared the information of my weight loss and how I've achieved it healthfully, I've found that the doctors have been extremely impressed and curious how I've accomplished it. I expect the majority of people they see are, unlike you, more than 10 pounds away from where they should be. So you might want to think of this as an opportunity to make sure the healthcare provider is fully informed but also share your success. Again, congrats on what you've done and I wish you continued success.

SIMONEKP Posts: 2,764
8/9/13 10:32 P


GRAPHICS2 Posts: 13,944
8/9/13 10:21 P

I also think it's a standard response to us folk who don't like getting on a scale. I don't believe she meant to be insulting.
Congratulations on your weight loss. emoticon

OKIEGIRL561 Posts: 2,362
8/9/13 10:09 P

They have to have your weight if they give you medication. She's probably heard that from a lot of people and didn't mean it to be directed specifically at you. It was probably said in an effort to be witty. A standard response to something she hears a lot. I wouldn't be offended by it.

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8/9/13 9:47 P

Wouldn't read too much into it, if you know you look great that's all that matters

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8/9/13 9:22 P

Thank you for your comments. I now understand why they have to weigh and the answers available for them to say as a professional. I now see it was my complex about feeling or looking overweight that I took it that way.

When I said Oh No to the nurse it was said in a kidding way. I jumped on the scale without hesitating. I guess she did not get that and thus her comment.

Edited by: GOALWTIN7 at: 8/9/2013 (21:25)
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8/9/13 9:15 P

I have lost 90+ pounds and now weigh less than I have since I was 20 years old. People are still telling me that I can't or shouldn't do things because I am too fat. Strangely, I get that more now than I ever did when I was very large.

I think that you just have to accept the number, deal with it and be secure enough in yourself not to care what anybody else thinks or who else sees that number. It's easier in some moments than in others.

I agree than whining and trying to avoid the weigh in really doesn't do anything but make the situation more awkward.

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8/9/13 9:13 P

She shouldn't have made any comment after she asked you to please step on the scale. If you refused, all she has to do is document patient refused to be weighed without any comment, only an okay and a smile. Checking height, weight, blood pressure, pulse, temperature, asking pertinent questions like going over any meds you are taking, etc. That's all a part of her job. The rest is up to the Doctor to follow up on. Don't take it personally. It's supposed to be the same routine with everyone scheduled to be seen by the Doctor. I'm an RN and that was the routine the doctor's office had where I worked for a period of time.

ANARIE Posts: 13,200
8/9/13 9:03 P

When she has to weigh you and you protest, what is she supposed to say? "Oh, quit whining and get your butt up there"? She *has* to weigh you, so she's going to say whatever she thinks will make you do what she needs you to do. There's really no other answer to your "Oh, no." Saying "don't worry, you look fine" is unprofessional-- medical professionals aren't supposed to notice or care what you look like unless it reveals a health problem.

As for why they have to weigh you, antibiotics, pain relievers, and a lot of other medications are dosed by your body weight. You've lost 50 pounds; if they used your old weight to write a prescription, they would overdose you. It's easier and more efficient just to weigh everyone at the beginning of every appointment than to wait until they decide whether you need a prescription and then discuss whether the weight in your chart has changed.

KNUCKLES145 Posts: 16,186
8/9/13 8:55 P

agreed.....and they do need your weight to prescribe and medications.

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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8/9/13 8:27 P

Yes, her comment was innocent. She was trying to be nice. She saw that you did not want to be weighed, so she made a suggestion that is pretty standard in health care for people who have issues with being weighed.

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8/9/13 8:13 P

Maybe I am just sensitive because I have been fighting a weight problem since I was 5 years old. This is what happened. Went to a new doctor's office today (ear hurt) and the nurse asked me to step on the scale. Why you have to get on the scale for an ear infection I will never know. I mumbled, Oh No, and she said, " you can close your eyes if you want." To me you would only say that to a person you thought was FAT. She did not say to me, why worry, you look good or something like that. I lost 50 pounds and have about 10 to go at 5'6". Are you telling me I still look fat? Was her comment innocent?

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