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LOVES2RUN08 Posts: 553
11/24/11 4:10 P

This has probably already been said but time management is HUGE! When I went off to college 8 years ago, it was a big adjustment to me.. Back in high school your schedule is very structured however in college it is typically very flexible and it may take some time to find your way, manage your time and get everything done.

SHERRIE59 SparkPoints: (54,049)
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11/24/11 8:12 A

Be mindful of how you treat others, don't take up drugs and bad company as it may come back to haunt you later.

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11/24/11 1:09 A


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11/24/11 12:59 A

1. Buy books online. Yup, stick it to the campus bookstore :)
2. International book editions exactly the same as US editions, AND cheaper!
3. Scout sites you can resell textbook and look for the best offer. Or sell textbooks on amazon or ebay.
4. If you have healthy choices at the food court/cafeteria, great. If not, pack your lunch.

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11/23/11 11:45 P

Get involved in something- anything.

If you can pass the class without attending, don't bother going. (For real.)

Sometimes, having a good schedule is better than having the exact class you want to take.

Use the campus gym.

Use protection during sexual activities. Don't get herpes in your throat!

Start building your resume now.

You DO have time for a part-time job. Even if you've got a full course load. I did it with a DOUBLE course load (thirty credit hours per semester) while I was living on my own and supporting myself. And I still had fun.

Debt isn't the end of the world, but crushing debt is. I'm a twenty-seven-year-old home owner because I worked through school and went to undergrad and graduate schools that I could reasonably afford.

UMBILICAL Posts: 12,786
11/23/11 10:32 P

Listen to your kids.

SONICB Posts: 4,381
11/23/11 10:27 P

It's okay to have fun, but make sure to do your work first.
Fit activity into your schedule every week. (You're probably paying for gym access anyway!)
Explore what the city has to offer!

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11/22/11 4:36 A

That as parents you are just a phone call away and would want them to reach out to you if they need any emotional or other support day or night
It is normal to have a lot of emotions and to feel homesick

THOMS1 Posts: 13,294
11/21/11 11:25 P

Make the most of your time there.

ONLINEASLLOU SparkPoints: (73,365)
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11/21/11 11:20 P

I teach a college level course.

READ THE SYLLABUS ! Then, review it regularly throughout the semester. Ask questions about anything in it that you don't understand.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,530
11/21/11 8:05 P

I totally agree with read the Syllabus. It is your best friend.

BRITTANYC3 Posts: 2,803
11/21/11 7:12 P

Just keep pushing yourself to get it done! It sucks soooo bad and is soooo strenuous but walking out of your last final ever is the best feeling in the world. To say you have a Bachelors or Masters.... or even Associates.. it's a great accomplishment and a great feeling so don't screw it up :o)

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11/21/11 7:07 P

Call on Sundays!

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11/21/11 6:10 P

Work hard
STUDY ABROAD!!! This is one of your only chances to explore new places without having the responsibility of a family or full time job. I really wish I had done this.
Work while you're in school - employers look for people with work history even if you're fresh out of school.

11/21/11 4:44 P

Dipping deep into my pool of wisdom I would advise the following:

1. Never get into a political debate with your professor, it can come back to bite you. (hmmm how do I know this)
2. Don't fry bacon in the nude.
3. Don't drink and drive
4. Go to class, that's why your there
5. Be nice to the geeks and nerds, you will be working for them someday
6. One word, "Condoms" nuff said

BABYBELL3 Posts: 23
11/21/11 4:19 P

my son just started his freshman year in college and he is very far away, about a thousand miles. It makes me sad to think about it. But I am worried because he does not communicate - does not return phone-calls, e-mails, messages etc., either to me or his younger brother and sister. He says he is working very hard and does not have the time. I am worried there could be something else going on. Any ideas anyone?

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3/22/11 7:01 A

Hubby told the boys one thing when we left them at college. "Be Smart". That covered everything in his eyes, and they made good choices. They stayed healthy, got good grades, stayed safe. It worked for me.

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3/21/11 10:46 P

I'm in my second semester of my freshman year at college...and the best advice I can think of is: don't sweat the first grade in your class(es).

I didn't do so hot on my first exams in *most* classes, but I learned the teacher's testing style, and it only went up from there. I remember being at home one weekend devastated and crying because I made Cs on my first 2 exams. My dad told me rather blatantly that I needed to get my head around everything and realize I can't just breath and succeed like in high school. Lo and behold, I ended up with a 3.625 gpa even after all of the bad beginning grades. :)

So really, don't sweat a bad grade. It happens. It's life. There are more tests to be had and even more time to study!

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3/21/11 7:13 P

My advice would be to burn their candle at both ends, meet a wide variety of people of every nationality, religion and political viewpoint, question authority and protest everything they disagree with. If you can't be an idealist in your 20's when the heck will you be able to? When you are older you will find that you often have to do the practical or expedient thing but as a young person with little to loose do what you know in your heart is right. Work hard and have fun but don't go crazy. There are more than 2 food groups and they aren't beer and pizza.

Edited by: GIANT-STEPS at: 3/21/2011 (19:15)
DMJAKES Posts: 1,635
3/21/11 4:07 P

Yes, your mom was biting her lip and trying not to cry as she said goodbye and left you there......don't make fun of the person that's paying the bill!!!

LBRYSON26 SparkPoints: (617)
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3/21/11 4:02 P

Remember how you were brought up, and follow your heart
and you will make the right choices!!!!


3/21/11 4:00 P

I am just about to graduate in May and I would say:

1.try to make at least one buddy in each class, so if you ever have to miss they can fill you in.

2.get to know your professors and have some chit chat. You will need references and recommendation letters one day.

3. Try to do the reading the professor asks of you each day for class.If you wait until right before the test, it's likely you'll have a huge stack of papers to read beforehand. It's easier to just get them out of the way day by day.

Good luck to them! It goes by so fast!

ELBALL Posts: 156
3/21/11 3:54 P

1. Be yourself and make some amazing friends.

2. If you have the opportunity to study aboard, then do so! This is one of the things I wish I had done during college, but I couldn't fit it in without staying an extra year.

3. Find a balance between work and fun. You don't want to look back on your college experience and realize you spent all your free time in the library. However, you don't want to spend so much of your free time partying that you're throwing your tuition money down the drain. Your parents are working hard to put you through college, and after graduation, you will be working really hard to pay off student loans. Ensure that there's a return on that investment.

4. Use the buddy system when going to parties or bars. You arrive together and you leave together; it's that simple. When there are no adults around, it's important to look out for one another.

5. Do your laundry regularly. Your roommate and friends will appreciate it. emoticon

LITTLE1DER Posts: 934
3/21/11 3:50 P

1. Credit Cards are the root of all Evil!
2. Forget about spring breaks in Florida save that money and take a semester abroad (biggest/only regret of my college education even tho I never did go on a spring break)
3. Find a job on campus or a part time job off campus(not in a bar)This work experience will pay off later.
4. ALWAYS use a condom-period
5. Drink water.
6. Learn to listen to your gut and trust your instincts, about situations, about people, about opportunities.
7. Don't use "I was drunk" as an excuse for anything. If you did something, own it.
8. If you are struggling in a class or emotionally talk to someone who can help.
9. Take a class or two about things you are interested in past your major, I know money is an issue but you never know what will egnite a passion you didn't know you had.
10. NEVER mix antibiotics and booze

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3/21/11 3:27 P

MRSDRAEGER had some terrific answers and I'd say ditto.

It is odd. I have friends who are brilliant, who went to college early in life...and while they are smoothed out, well read, smart thinkers, great writers...all the things we really want...they did not move on career wise due to school. Oh ya...they played round too(drugs, sex episodes - though rare[wink], and roaming around in the seedy parts of town- often with someone like me - an uneducated being working for a living)

As an older (returned to school in my late 30's) student I often thought many these kids that are expected to go to school...well I am not sure they ought to be there...maybe they should work for a while and figure life out first. Rather than running up big bills for parents and acquire their own debt through credit cards. Belling aching and moaning about philosophy and math, and not caring about any of it.

Don't get me wrong there were excellent student who thrived in classes who started making decisions about their life, and loved it.

As I did, later in life.

Make sure they really want to be there.

Art in Pairs, surfing in Hawaii, surviving in New York, running your bum off making a living and building our own community can also be an education.

This could just be me. I would have been a terrible student out of high school. And I loved what I did, I lived a good youthful life. Later in life following goal unrealized earlier in happens.

Edited by: 3RDTIMEISACHARM at: 3/21/2011 (15:36)
MAURMAUR Posts: 548
3/21/11 2:35 P

instead of telling kids not to drink or have sex or anything else, parent should tell them how to handle these situations safely. it's college, and kids are going to experiment, and drink, and maybe do drugs. but it they have a strong support system at home and they are educated on the consequences of these actions, they maybe be less likely to do them as often, if at all.

i am not a parent, so i can't speak from expereince. but i was a college student, so i know how things went for me and what i could have used before i left for campus.

3/18/11 5:31 P

My advice:

1. I went to a large university and spent two years in weed-out classes. Don't go big unless you're willing to put up with that.

2. Stay on top of homework/readings/projects/etc - especially in the beginning of the semester. If you're ahead in the beginning, you'll be right on time in the middle, and just a little behind at the end. (Instead of the people who get behind at the very beginning... and have to drop or flunk out.)

3. Visit each professor at least once during their office hours. Get to know them as best you can, and ask them however many questions you need to get your work done correctly.

4. Don't blatantly correct a professor in front of everyone. Some professors have a chip on their shoulder and take offense to this. If you need to point out a mistake, raise your hand and say "I'm sorry, but could you explain how you arrived at that conclusion?" They'll correct themselves and you won't have to worry about them 'hating' you for 'embarrassing' them in front of their students. (If they still don't get it, e-mail them or talk to them after class.)

5. If the professor has a chip on their shoulder and you need their help, approach from a humbling "I am so ignorant and thou-art-so-smart/amazing/etc, please honor me by imparting your wisdom" stance. It works, you get what you need, they will sometimes adopt you, and they will get their ego's appetite satisfied.

6. If you miss anything out of illness, get a doctor's note! Seriously. A $40.00 Doctor's visit is worth it if you're missing midterms/finals that eat half of your grade. Same goes for immediate family emergencies and funerals.

7. Actually learn. Try to do a little bit more than memorizing. It's tempting to just pass, but you'll be surprised by what you'll actually be called upon (at a moment's notice) in the real world.

8. Learn to write. (I mean it. College level.) If you have to spend hours at a writing center, fine. You'll need it because you will eventually have to pretend you are smarter than you actually are. A nice vocabulary never hurt anyone.

9. If you're asked the question, "What's the answer?", and you don't know, don't try to make up an answer. Just say you don't know. And if they ask you something about the reading you didn't do/finish, say you haven't read it yet. Honesty really is the best policy.

10. Exercise regularly.

11. If you don't know what degree you wish to pursue (or are still unsure about college), stay as local as you can and start small. There's no use throwing away much needed money toward a degree you don't want.. especially if you aren't sure you even want one, period.

12. Don't be afraid to call Mom or Dad or Grandma, etc. They'll cry with you.

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3/18/11 5:00 P

have fun but with limitations

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3/18/11 4:41 P

One thing I have seen a lot of students mess up on is getting the credit cards that they inundate you with offers for. Make sure your kid is finacially smart!

3/18/11 3:12 P

Be wary of technology.

Fun photos of yourself partying today may be viewed by a prospective employer 4 years from now.

In the past, a person could make a dumb decision and do something stupid, but over time the people who saw them would forget about it. Nowdays everyone has a camera/phone and photos of your indescretions may well end up all over the internet.

There are always those people who will leak your supposedly "private" texts/tweets, etc to places where you don't want them. Never type anything you wouldn't actually say aloud in a public place.

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3/18/11 3:06 P

1. Work hard
2. Make friends you can rely on
3. Use the money you get wisely
4. When you make money make heaps of if and forget the hardship I had..

MATREXX Posts: 579
3/18/11 1:02 P

Take your education seriously but at the same time learn outside the class room too. Get involved, learn about yourself and the world around you. Be passionate about what your studying and who you are becoming. If you're not it won't be a true learning experience. Also take the time to be stupid and do stupid things. That is part of learning your limits and if you don't make mistakes you can't learn from them.

CHOOWY Posts: 4,240
3/18/11 12:41 P

get a part time job, develop a professional work ethic about that job and school...and for heaven's sake save a good chunk of that money.....

Hello! Start saving early can turn into mucho dinero by the time you want to retire. I know, I know....what college kid is going to think that far ahead!

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3/18/11 12:33 P


3/18/11 11:39 A

I agree with funky_chicken. Start acting like an adult and being responsible. Take yourself and your life seriously.

Yeah, you should be able to have fun while in college (and throughout your life!) but I watched so many people waste their time away because they didn't care about the fact that they were spending $$$ to get an education. Like it wasn't their real life yet. Then they graduate, and still haven't developed mature coping skills.

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3/18/11 11:00 A

Find a doctor. Marry him,then divorce and come back home and share your loot with me.

MACKANDME Posts: 6,107
3/18/11 10:55 A

Start being responsible.

RAINWHITE88 Posts: 99
3/18/11 10:54 A

Enjoy every minute!

Study abroad if you can. It's the only time you will have to just up and leave the country for months at a time and what a learning experience! emoticon

KLPEFFERS Posts: 987
3/18/11 10:50 A

Explore your life and who you are. Take the opportunity to push your limits and see what / who you really are and who you want to be.

Don't worry about impressing me.. it's not about me, its about you.

Always have an "escape route" or a back up plan when you go out.

JASTAMPER11 SparkPoints: (57,593)
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3/18/11 10:38 A

Be yourself. Yes, you can do things that your parents won't know about, but why would you. Make your self proud of yourself.

Most of all, tell them you love them, not what they are doing. It can be lonely at college even with everyone all around you.

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3/18/11 9:59 A

Make a reasonable schedule that meets your needs and always go to class. Don't schedule an 8am class if you are not an early riser.

3/18/11 9:45 A

Aside from the "ususal" stuff we'd say to them like, don't drink, don't party, don't stay up late, don't have sex, don't hang out with bad people, don't forget to call home for reasons other than financial shortfalls, don't wait until the last minute to do research for projects, don't protest anything or go to protests, be sure not to roll your eyes at your 45 year old "CREEPER" professor, don't loan money to your party friends, don't sleep in till NOON especially since all your classes start at 8 am, ya know ALL the usual stuff they're gonna do ANYWAYS!!!!

What wise words do have for them?

#1) College is for learning and establishing yourself, NOT a place to find a rich husband!!!!


#3) Pizza is NOT okay as a 3x's a day meal supplement, they don't call it the "Freshman 15" for nothing!!!!

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