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ON2VICTORY SparkPoints: (47,763)
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4/1/13 9:33 A

yup, been there, done that... much wiser now.

GLOW8211 SparkPoints: (69,786)
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4/1/13 9:05 A

Yes and now it's a day at a time and keeping off what I've lost

DIDS70 Posts: 5,368
4/1/13 9:04 A

Sure I have. I have been doing this forever or at least what seems that way. Who wouldn't want to lose 20 pounds in a month. Who wouldn't want to just be able to sprinkle something on their food and lose weight. Who wouldn't want to eat anything they wanted and still lose weight. Who wouldn't want to work out on a contraption and see the inches melt off. TV, radio, and the celebs really hurt the health of this world more than anything else.

So, yes, i had unrealistic goals that only lead to unreal expectations and then ultimately failure.
It wasn't until just a little more than 2 years ago that I got my wakeup call. I realized that being fit and eating healthy weren't enough. Those are just the perks. After speaking to my chiro, I was more than determined to be healthy. Health to me isn't being fit. It isn't eating clean. It isn't getting a good night sleep. No Health is 100% function of body, mind and spirit with no evidence of disease. Because you see, once that is achieved-- weight and fitness will be right there.

PSCHIAVONE2 SparkPoints: (20,650)
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4/1/13 8:51 A

I started out with the plan that I would work out for 30 minutes 5 times per week. The first day I went to the gym, the guy at the front desk said, "Is that it for today?". I replied, this is all I need. For my diet I used 2000 calories per day but cut out all added sugar. Friends would watch me eat and said, your eating too much to loose. That was one year ago at 240 pounds. I now weight 165 pounds. Consistent performance has been the key.

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4/1/13 8:44 A

Baby steps are definitely the only way to go! That is coming from one who has set unrealistic goals too many times, even after knowing better.

I no longer set unrealistic weight loss goals, (finally learned after 20 or so years of doing it, lol) but I do set unrealistic fitness goals. Trying to get back on track after long periods of not exercising, and thinking I can just pick up where I left off type of thing. Or even just wanting to cram too many workouts into a day, leaving myself unable to move a couple days later emoticon

GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
4/1/13 8:37 A

Totally, KJ. I remember setting goals wanting to lose 15lbs a month. Now I'm happy if I AVERAGE 3-5lbs a month. I went WEEKS, this whole month, not losing and not losing and not losing, and then *plummeting sound* in just a couple days all my hard work showed up on the scale. The goal is to be healthy. Losing weight is just a perk. We've been there before. We have done the leg work and some research. We know a little something about something. However, it does not surprise me about the unrealistic goal setting. It's a journey, and sometimes, part of the journey is learning first hand what's going to work and what's not. Hopefully, too, people who discover that you're not going to healthily lose 20lbs of fat in one month, don't just throw in the towel.

4/1/13 8:28 A

@BN63: well said!

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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4/1/13 7:38 A

You know I was just thinking of this exact topic yesterday and wondering how many people will be starting over again on April 1st due to unrealistic goals. I always comment on new peoples blogs about starting with the basics first as baby steps lead to strides.

If do find that those who set big unrealistic expectations have no idea how fitness and weightloss work togther yet eating is 90 percent and working out is 10%.

EMILYMARGO SparkPoints: (12,060)
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3/31/13 10:23 P

When I was much younger I set them

GOOSIEMOON SparkPoints: (238,138)
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3/31/13 10:20 P

yes, when I was much younger

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
3/31/13 10:07 P

so living on 800 calories a unrealistic........? I did that one thinking I could live that way.....We think we are super human and can do things like that. We are in a hurry to get the weight off........not realizing that it didn't go on that fast either.

JO88BAKO SparkPoints: (319,438)
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3/31/13 9:46 P


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ETHELMERZ Posts: 20,711
3/31/13 8:46 P

Blame the celebs appearing in magazine articles, and women's magazine covers touting all kinds of nonsense eating and exercise plans, promising quick results. But this has been going on for over 50 yrs. at least, and will continue to do so, no one wants to know that it's a lifelong thing, eating less and moving more. Even the "Biggest Loser" show can take some blame, no one I know can take off from their jobs and personal life to do hours of exercise and have food hand picked for them for several months. It ain't happenin' folks!
Let us just press on......................

JIACOLO SparkPoints: (558,951)
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3/31/13 7:47 P

Don't we all? (Expect maybe GF77 who doesn't need to).

It makes me crazy when I see people set goals that don't seem possible and then they struggle, falter, and give up. It makes me sad and I want to shake them, but sometimes they have to learn for themselves. I just hope they learn before giving up on their journey towards a healthier life.

3/31/13 7:14 P

@GF77: LOL!

But seriously, just check out all of the folks (new ones especially) who post about their starting of the journey, way too many set unrealistic goals and it's disheartening because we are helpless, we have to fall/fail on our own before we can make progress, I just wish they could hear our stories and learn from them.

GLITTERFAIRY77 Posts: 8,023
3/31/13 4:41 P

No. Absolutely not. I'm perfect and I meet every single goal that I make for myself.

No seriously.
Stop laughing.
Why do I get the feeling that you don't believe me?

*throws shoe and runs away crying*

3/31/13 4:35 P

Not this last effort (circa 2006) but in the many attempts before that I had set goals that were really just unrealistic, I wish someone had told me that losing 10lbs in a week was stupid and unrealistic (keeping it off). I also joined an expensive gym that I made a hundred excuses never to use, too.


The pitfalls of unrealistic goal setting; never again!

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