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SWEETSSS10 Posts: 21
9/11/12 12:04 A

Hello everyone,loving this site,helpful.New here,hope to share and meet more sparkspeople,

9/10/12 8:39 P

several yrs ago, i watched both my parents go thru open heart surgery, and it was awful. i knew i was headed in the same direction if i didn't change. i quit cooking fried foods, but that was about it.

i went thru a stomach thing for 3 months this year and couldn't hardly eat anything. after the 3 months, i had lost 11 lbs, which typically it's almost impossible for me to lose ONE lb. and i knew i had a decision to make: either go back to eating like i used to (lots of meat, comfort food, almost no veggies) and gain all that weight back, or try to continue eating more veggies than meat, almost no comfort food and keep the weight loss & hopefully lose some more.

so i decided to try continuing to eat healthy. a structured diet doesn't work for me. i just try to eat more veggies than meat every day, and am finding healthy sweet stuff to eat. i've lost 8 more lbs, so wooohoooo!!!!

then i realized i wasn't getting enough protein, so i added whey protein to my breakfast smoothies, and added turkey burgers at lunch sometimes. (i wasn't eating any meat at lunch).

these last few weeks, 2 of my grown step-children have been acting out. i'm the step-mother, so they immediately judge & condemn me without checking out a situation. the step-son's gfriend regularly stirs the pot b/c she has unhealed wounds & therefore, likes problems & chaos.

it's been extremely stressful, to the point that if i had had a job to support myself, i might very well had left my husband. i even thought about it again today. i just don't know if this will ever end, and really don't want to deal with this for the rest of my life.

these 2 have NEVER welcomed me into their family or accepted me. they barely tolerate me, despite the fact that i have made their dad very happy for the past 12 yrs we've been married.

i stay at home, and we have a small "farm" 2 miles away. i have a horse there, but i'm not confident enough to ride her by myself. she can be a little stubborn, and right now, i just don't want to "fight" anyone/anything else. so, even she is a stressor when this other stuff is going on.

and b/c of all this stress, i've been eating more comfort food again. dang it. i don't want to go back to what i was doing, but don't know what else to do to relieve the stress.

i have a energy/strength/stamina issue, so i'm very limited in what i can do physically, altho it's much much better than it used to be. there is soooooo much i want to do at our farm, but my physical condition limits me.

i have a couple of ppl i can talk to on the phone about these things, but i don't usually do it. i don't have anyone to hang out with. my closest friend is my cousin in Texas. the other friend lives on the other side of the county and she's always talking about how she doesn't go anywhere b/c of the cost of gas.

i've actually considered getting me a small indoor dog, just to have some positive company & something postive to focus on while my hubby is working shift work. even when he's home, he's busy doing stuff. i found one i'd like to have (a Yorkie--they are SOOOOO cute!), but it cost $175, which is cheap for that kind of dog, but...... not happening.

SWEETSSS10 Posts: 21
9/9/12 12:53 A

I am new to the site message board,was here on this site for recipes and I would love to chat with more than just family.I live alone so its boring with planning without this site.

HIGGS02 Posts: 44
8/26/12 3:49 P

I will be your friend if you want!!! I don't have anyone in my family who has diabetes but my mom's side of the family has high blood pressure. So far, even tho I'm about 50 lbs over weight, my blood pressure is still the ideal pressure. However, I know that if I keep at this weight and eating what I do, I will eventually have high blood pressure also. I know you can do it if you want to!!!

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8/23/12 11:34 A

My father and mother are both diabetic, my mother had a massive heart attack and my dad has atrial fibrillation both have high blood pressure and cholesterol. As I get older and my weight yo yo's it scares me to. So I am trying to change it b/c I dont want my kids not having their mother. Both of my parents are obese, my mom watches what she eats but cant really exercise because she has so many other health problems. back issues and hip. My dad has to have knee replacement surgery I guess I am seeing my future in them and it makes me want a better one for me and my kids. My dad and I have been riding bikes every evening and I think that is helping him he said that the other day when he was trying to go in his house door and had a his hands full his pants fell and his belt is as tight as it will go so I think he is benefiting from my changes too.

DOCSGIRL624 SparkPoints: (0)
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8/23/12 10:50 A

He will eventually get tired of being left behind and hopefully start joining you in your activities. I love bike rides with my kids. We have always been a very active family. Which is why I couldn't understand why I have been stuck at 251 for 8 months. But I think my body just got used to what I was doing and I needed to do more or change it up some. Diabetes is no joke for sure! It can go bad very fast. With my dad he went in to the ER one day because his feet were hurting and the stupid idiots gave him pain meds and sent him home. They never checked his blood sugars. Only 2 days later my dad couldn't get out of bed he was in so much pain. He was admitted into the hospital that day with heart and kidney problems because of his leg which was because of diabetes. My mom has it too. But my family health history is scary. My mom has had double knee replacement surgery, high blood pressure, high cholesterol. Arthritis in her hips now, diabetes....the list goes on and on. My dad actually had a heart attack and a stroke but he got to the hospital fast enough that although dangerous wasn't life threatening. So my dad is not only a double amputee but is also legally blind from the stroke....So to say that I am scared out of my mind to continue to be overweight is no joke.

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8/23/12 8:56 A

I have the same problem with my husband I have been encouraging him to walk with me and eat better, so I make me and the kids meals and if he wants to eat something different he has to fix it. And we all go for a walk or bike ride and leave him at the house. Sooner or later he will get with the program or have to look at us skinnier and healthier while he is at the house not. And we are enjoying life. I want my kids and I to live a healthy and long life and have fun.

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8/23/12 2:48 A

I am like u, I have a family member who is a bad diabetic, so I am seeing how bad it's taking a toll on her body, I found out 4 years ago, I'm diabetic too, So for that reason I am starting to try to lose over 100 pounds, 14 down so far.....I will be glad to be a friend to u, if u want to add me, Wish u the best!!!!!

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8/22/12 10:44 P

This is by far the hardest journey I have ever taken. My problem is with working out I get so sore. I am forcing myself to push threw it and recognize pains that aren't normal. Never thought my butt would hurt so bad in my life LOL. My big problem is that I get so impatient with it all. My family is very supportive so that is a good thing. My husband is in the military and is a very fit man. One of my goals is to one day be able to go on a run with him and keep up. My girls are actually excited for me and will join me on my work outs. It makes me feel good knowing that I am inspiring them to have a healthy life style. My mom is over weight as well and something I told her is that this weight issue is going to stop with me. I am going to get my girls on board and get them as healthy as possible. 2 of my girls are on the chunky side while my youngest is an itty bitty little thing. I just want things to be different is all. I am tired of hurting all the time.

LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,754
8/22/12 4:10 P

"However its hard when you are eating steam veg and he is eating burgers with fries."

PLEASE do not do that Amanda! That goes against everything Spark is about.

You CAN eat a small burger.
You CAN eat potatoes.

This is a lifestyle change, not a diet. There is no way you are going to eat "steam veg" for the rest of your life while he eats regular food, is there?

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8/22/12 1:32 P

I myself watched family memebers become very sick because of health and that is why I started this journey. I was up to 250 pounds myself and had admitted defeat. But now I am forcing to go workout. (must nights I want to, other nights I almost have to handcuff myself to the treadmill LOL). I wanted for years for my husband to do this with me and I finally decided that I had to do it on my own. However its hard when you are eating steam veg and he is eating burgers with fries. I am always looking for friends on here for support.

8/22/12 8:46 A

pick up hobbies that YOU enjoy and you will meet people who share your interests

DOCSGIRL624 SparkPoints: (0)
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8/21/12 7:56 P

I was on spark people 6 years ago. I stopped getting on here when my family moved back to the United States from Italy (Military family). I had stomach surgery in 2009 to lose weight and successfully lost 100 pounds, However, I have been stuck at 251 for 8 months now. Frustrating? YES! I had pretty much given up and excepted that I was doomed to be 251 forever. Until I got news in June that my dad was in the hospital. He is a diabetic and was having complications. My dad ended up losing his right leg. With losing the leg it ended up saving his life as his heart and kidneys were failing. 1 month later he lost his left leg. Sitting at my father's bed side begging God to not let him die really opened my eyes. I don't want that to happen to me. More important I don't want my 3 daughters or my husband to go threw that. So I started taking steps to move forward. I was eating right before but my portions were off so I really focused on eating smaller portions. I also started working out with my best friends and a neighbor (who is a Marine). But I realized really quickly that working out with 2 people that are amazing people but aren't over weight that I needed a support system that understood what I am going threw. So here I am with all my baggage laying my heart out on the line, making myself vulnerable to find some friends to help me along the way.

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