This is an important topic and one seen in other posts, other years on SP. I hear you and share some of your concerns. You have my understanding.
My husband gained about 20 pounds over his normal around age 40, but by age 50, he was 60 pounds overweight. Since his "numbers" on blood tests and heart tests all come back normal, he is a healthy guy for being so overweight.
He does not care that he carries the extra weight, but I do because I don't like it on him. Thus, we have a conflict.
He eats any, and everything, in whatever quantities he wants. However, he doesn't bring it into the house, he asks me to get him the ice cream (my downfall) or bake cookies or a pie.
After 30 years of marriage, he still thinks I am too thin or skinny. Actually, I am normal weight for my height and sex. I continue to prefer to be fit and trim, and he eats the "junk" food. The problem for me comes when the ice cream is in the house.
Maintaining my weight would've been significantly easier had I married a fitness nut, instead of my couch potato baseball loving guy.
9/29/12 6:41 A
It took nearly eight months for my hubby to decide that he shouldn't be eating so much junk food, especially in the evenings in front of the TV.
Not sure if it was completely my influence, or partly because he's now begun school, and there's a guy he often has lunch with who is gluten intolerant. Discussing health issues with him, I believe, has opened his eyes to health issues that no amount of my lecturing (which I tried not to do) would accomplish.
Some people just come right out and tell their spouses to stop bringing them "treats" because they are trying to eat healthier/make healthier choices (never mind mentioning the weight loss - especially if your hubby says you don't need it).
Make sure you always have veggie sticks, fruit or whatever else you can use to replace those items, if you need something to snack on at those times.
Other people classify items in the house as "his" and "hers" (or reserved for ...). That way, when the temptation hits; you can say - I'm not touching that - it belongs to ...
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134 9/29/12 12:53 A
So, I'll admit I let myself eat "junk" every once and a while. I try to only purchase these kinds of things in single servings, so once I am done with the treat I can't be tempted by the leftovers.
This works pretty well for me, but my one roadblock that I have a hard time getting over: my husband's eating. I love him, but bless his heart he makes things difficult at times.
He often buy himself donuts and chips at the grocery store, and once they are in the house I am not always that great at resisting a binge. When he wants to surprise me, it's usually in the form of candy or cake. I know he does this because he knows it makes me happy (at least initially), and also because he doesn't think I need to lose weight anyways. I have a hard time communicating to him that although I love when he expresses affection, that maybe this is not the way he should do it, without sounding ungrateful.
I know I'm not the only person who has gone though this. What did you do?
PS. My life would be way easier if he were to join SP with me and try to live more healthy as well, but alas I can not make up his mind on that for him. Hopefully he'll come around someday.