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SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (250,466)
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3/23/13 12:48 A

Congratulations on reaching your goal. That is a major achievement in itself :-)

What you are experiencing re your struggle with accepting your new weight, is NOT uncommon. Heck, I have been at my goal for over 2 years, now, and I STILL feel I should be losing, but then I remember where I came from, and that I am now where I should be. My Dr actually wanted me to stop losing weight a couple KG earlier - even tho' I was (and still am) slightly over the 'so-called' healthy BMI.

What I remember is that I am no longer in my fat clothes - I can now go into a clothes shop and buy clothing off the rack that not only fits, but also looks good on.

Perhaps you need to keep reminding yourself that you ARE there - you DON'T NEED to lose extra! In fact, this is often where it can be tricky and cause some people to slip into some form of eating/dieting disorder!

When I was in weight-loss mode I allowed myself whatever I wanted one day every 2 weeks. I never very often went overboard, but I enjoyed the things I would otherwise not have - an ice-cream and/or some cake - some higher calorie meals foods, etc. etc. Now that I am at my goal, I allow myself to eat whatever I want one day per week - sometimes it may be a bit longer, and occasionally a wee bit sooner. The rest of the time I eat like I did in weight-loss mode. It works well and I have had no problem with maintaining.

This is merely a healthy lifestyle - it is not about deprivation or starvation. If you continue to totally deprive yourself, you will find that you will derail the longevity of this lifestyle. It is about wise choice of food most of the time, and good portion control, as well as getting in some exercise. Continue along those lines and you will continue on this journey in a healthy fashion :-)


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3/22/13 7:43 P

Congratulations on reaching your goal! emoticon

when i reached my first goal, i was still in the higher end of a normal weight for me, so i set another goal. now that i am in maintenance, my goal is to maintain.

i am for moderation in eating. you should be able to have cake, whether you are losing or maintaining.

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3/22/13 6:28 P

Congratulations on hitting your goal weight!

I'm not maintaining yet. I'm still losing slowly (on a diet that includes cake, or at least lemon chickpea muffins), but I'll probably still have "diet goals" (other than maintaining) when I start maintaining, as well as fitness goals.

I'm always on the lookout for recipes that are even quicker, easier, more delicious and more heart-healthy, joint-healthy etc. than the ones I can already manage, and that allow me to eat sustainably and with the seasons. Your specific priorities might be a bit different, but you'll probably still be eating for health and for fun even when you're no longer eating for weight loss. Long-term maintenance will probably be easier if you keep on expanding your repertoire of really delicious, healthy, filling stuff you can get on the table real fast, so you might still want to play around with goals and set yourself little challenges like being able to knock out a meal or three like a cook in an Indonesian or Lebanese or Ethiopan restaurant.

If you're completely happy that you've already found the food that will sustain you forever and don't want to experiment, I'd say move on to fitness goals or just use the motivation you seem to have in spades for other things.

CILER11 Posts: 265
3/22/13 3:33 P

I agree that a new fitness goal would give you something to work towards. Once I hit my goal weight I'm going to start training for a tough mudder.

AHUVAK1 SparkPoints: (11,919)
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3/21/13 10:58 P

I really liked what everyone said. Even though I definitely have the "lifestyle" attitude and not the "diet" attitude, it is still an adjustment. I definitely love the idea of having a fitness goal and redirecting my energies towards working on something else. I have a hectic week approaching, so right now my goal is staying sane and taking care of myself and family, but as soon as that is over I am going to work on that!

TANGOKATE Posts: 662
3/20/13 9:46 P

I am in the exact same boat. Having recently reached my goal and then gaining a few pounds by going away for a weekend, then managing better I am back to my goal and today eating 300 calories too many. Whew! I am thinking I too, need a goal or two and I know I will always have to watch my portions as I am one of those people... that if I look too long at food, I seem to gain. LOL. I didn't beat myself up over today's extra calories from hot chocolate and a chocolate bar, but I know I can't do that tomorrow. I am a sugar-aholic and if I indulge too much, I will completely fall off the wagon. So as you go, you learn these things about yourself and you manage them.

You did the right thing by asking and I thank you for your post as it made me rethink my own eating day today. emoticon

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3/20/13 8:59 P

Just wanted to say congrats on achieving your goal! That's wonderful and you should be so proud.

Take some of that energy you used in focusing on weight loss and redirect it. You can still have it tie in to health or have it be completely different.

Example: if you wanted to learn how to cook a certain way, take a cooking class. There are loads of fitness goals you can conjure up: the 5K is great (you can see if there's a charity linked you like that has one); increasing your one minute mile; increasing your weights used at the gym (leg press, curls, etc.), the push's endless. Join a club in the fitness you like (a running club, for example).

Or do something else you've always wanted to do and never did / took the time to do. I used to like going to the batting cages but stopped when I got heavier. Now I am planning to do it again.

And I say, let you eat cake! As long as it's factored in, why not? For me, portioning was my big bugaboo, and I know I still have a ways to go on that and frankly, may always have to be mindful.
But if you can swing it (and you'll know by how your clothes fit), why not have some? Just get in all the good-for-you stuff, too.

Good luck!

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3/20/13 7:04 P

I really thought that with lifestyle changes one would not be bothered with maintenance. The maintenance would have been during the changes in lifestyle. However if you just went on a diet then maintenance is going to be a major issue. emoticon

COANNIE SparkPoints: (9,512)
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3/20/13 3:41 P

I can relate to what you're saying - having a mind-set for so long becomes a habit, and that's hard to break. I think the suggestions to make a fitness goal to replace the "diet" goal is an awesome idea.


KARA623 Posts: 727
3/20/13 3:30 P

Having just made it to my weight loss goal after years of working at it, I have to admit that it feels very strange not to have the mindset to lose weight but to just maintain. I never, ever made any foods off-limits because I knew I needed to learn along the way how to handle eating those things on occasion. I lost 125 lbs while still sometimes having brownies, ice cream, pizza, etc. I had to learn portion control. I've learned that now.

Shifting the mindset into eating more calories and just settling in to a healthy weight is still new for me, and I find myself a little freaked when I see 1600 calories on my tracker, even though I know my activity level would support that and more. I think it just will take time - just like learning the habit of eating in moderation.

Edited by: KARA623 at: 3/20/2013 (15:36)
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3/20/13 3:21 P

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3/20/13 12:47 P

Maintenance can be a real issue because a lot of people "stop dieting" and then start eating like they did before and gain.

There are a LOT of SP resources to help you.

Go to the search box at the top of the page and type "maintain maintenance".

Good luck and congrats!

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (198,623)
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3/20/13 12:38 P


The universe will not implode if you decide you'd like to have a piece of cake or even two. I can't imagine living a life where I wasn't allowed to eat something because I was worried I'd gain weight. that's not healthy. A piece of cake or brownie, fries, soda, fried chicken CAN all be a part of a healthy lifestyle as long as you are mindful of that portion size.

Also, no one should be on a permanent "diet". that's not healthy either. I know it's going to take time, but you will eventually adjust to the new weight. There are a billion books that will teach a person how to lose weight. There are very few that help a person learn to adjust to that change.

What I've learned from my own experiences is this,"I've learned to appreciate what my can do over how it looks". I'll never be perfect and I'm okay with that. I agree that focusing on a fitness goal is much better than focusing on a weight goal. Because what your body can do really is more important than how it looks.

Many people try 5K road races. If you've never done one, that would be a great fitness goal. Another possible goal is the 100 Push up Challenge. Can you do 100 good military style push ups ? If not, that's another great fitness goal to try.

emoticon for reaching goal !

Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 3/20/2013 (12:38)
3/20/13 12:17 P

First congrats on reaching your goal!

Second, if you feel like you need something to focus on, why not switch to achieving fitness goals? Train to run a marathon or something. That could help you fill that void.

As for the cake, of COURSE you can eat cake. You could eat cake before you reached your goal too! It's all about being healthy...not restricting ourselves to the point of misery.

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3/20/13 11:45 A

Hello all. I find personally that I am having a difficult time mentally adjusting to maintenance rather than physically adjusting. I know how to eat, I can order our at a restaurant, and basically live well, but I am psychologically uncomfortable with the idea that I don't have to lose weight. I have basically been trying to get to 135 for so many years, now that I am there I feel like something is missing. I would feel better if I set a new weight loss goal! Is that so weird?

Also, is it a normal part of maintenance to eat cake? What I mean is, is the world going to end if one night I decide to be lazy and eat a piece of cake... or two? I feel like if you do that once in awhile and then watch yourself for the next few days and lose those excess calories you gained, it should be OK. Again, that's something else to adjust to, because when I was losing weight I would feel so guilty abut it.

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