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MBHRD27 SparkPoints: (3,051)
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2/11/12 9:53 P

Don't give up. you have a long journey ahead of you and you can do it! Once someone has had enough of being overweight, they tend to do something about it and you are a step in the right direction.
there was a time when I use to eat and eat because I had no self worth. Something clicked in my head and I decided enough was enough. I got tired of being between thick and fat while being surrounded by cute tiny girls in skinny jeans. instead of crying over it, take a walk

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2/10/12 12:27 A

I know how it feels to think you're wearing a fat suit. It didn't matter how often my husband told me that I was beautiful and that I wasn't "fat"-I knew that I didn't like how i looked. It took me a while to be able to change it. I got up to around 200 and that's when I started using SP about a month ago.

what really inspired me to start was this girl:

She has an amazing story. She had to overcome her weight, her binge eating addiction, and even a really, REALLY serious injury to get where she is-and she did it. You can do it too. When I feel discouraged I do two things: 1) I come to SP and read and post and 2) I read her blog.

Remember-this isn't an overnight process. It took more than a day to put the weight on and it will take more than a day to take it off. It's a lifelong commitment to being healthy and happy. Don't get yourself down-you can do this :)

2/9/12 5:06 P

Having a Spark Page has done wonders for me in the support area. It gives others a place to find you and your goals and to take part in supporting you.

Are you on any teams? Teams can be great.

I know this is a hard time for you, but crying doesn't burn calories. Set your goals. Get support where ever you can. Focus on the fact that you are changing things. You just finished a bike ride! Trying shifting your focus away from the things you don't like and toward the fact that you are taking action to change those things. Changing the way you think about this isn't easy and it isn't instant. Like any process, it will take time.

Best wishes to you,

KRISTINL88 Posts: 44
2/9/12 4:27 P

You're exactly right, Peedie.
I work from home as well. I thought it was going to be SO awesome, but really, it gets kind of lonely. Although my job involves answering phones and talking to people, it's about work, and I don't get as much socialization as I would working in an office.
I had to make myself get dressed and go to the gym for about the first month, but once you start a routine, it's weird when you don't do it.

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2/9/12 4:23 P

Working from home can be a lot more isolating than most people realize. It sounds so good, and it IS good in lots of ways, but I've found that, like you, if I don't make an extra effort to get out it leads to depression.

You do sound depressed. Have you considered treating your depression? It might make the rest of it easier. Sometimes you can just treat it for 6 months and then wean off any meds you are on. Also, you might want to consider finding a low stress outlet that gets you out and about--a knitting class, a book club, anything you might enjoy.

Life is more than weight and weight loss. It sounds like you are putting off having a life until you weigh what you want to weigh. But you deserve a life NOW, not later.

Good luck to you and please hang in there. I really related to your post, as I also work from home most of the time and it all really resonated with my experience as well. emoticon

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2/9/12 4:13 P


Welcome to Spark People ! You are being much much too hard on yourself ! Give yourself credit for doing that first mile on that bike. As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Start with small changed. Take baby steps literally and figuratively.

Everyone here at Spark People has been where you are. We gained weight. lost weight. regained. lost and gained again. However, there came a time when we said enough. We wanted to make a change and we wanted that change to last.

You can make that change too ! BUT, you have to be patient with yourself and your body. You can't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and don't dwell on the negatives. We all have negatives in our lives. the goal is for the positives to out number the negatives. However, that's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year.

Thus the need to be patient with yourself. If you're looking for inspiration, look no further than the blogs from member INDYGURL. She once weighed over 400+ pounds ! Well, she's lost over 150 pounds and is still losing. If she can do it, so can you.

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2/9/12 4:11 P


I am so sorry you feel so lonely. While I have never been in a situation like that, when I was at my all-time heaviest I did isolate myself from the world. So much easier than to deal with the stares.

Have you checked out some of the SparkPeople Teams (see link below)? What about SparkPeople's Buddy Finder? These may give you a few more options to find someone you can connect with close to your new home. I hope this helps!

Coach Nancy

KRISTINL88 Posts: 44
2/9/12 4:09 P

I know how you're feeling. Once I started college and had to work, I didn't have a lot of extra time and found myself eating quick instead of healthy and wanting to just watch tv instead of doing something healthy with my precious extra time.
None of my friends get it because they are all naturally small, and I find myself feeling alone about the issue.
I am now the heaviest I have ever been. I finally realized that I needed to do something about it about a month ago when I had to buy a pair of pants that were a size bigger than what I have been buying. I don't talk about it with anyone, not even my boyfriend knows how I feel about all of this. In fact, he doesn't even know that I'm on a diet.
I haven't been doing this program for long, but it seems this place is extremely supportive.

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2/9/12 3:51 P

I just finished a mile or so bike ride to try and lift my spirits and I feel worse. A little background to help anyone reading this understand my situation - I just moved across the country. I have no friends here, no family (besides my husband and son) and I work from home. We don't have a lot of money so getting a gym membership is out of the question.

I am struggling and have reached 250 lbs. The highest weight I have ever been. Every time I think about it I start tearing up. About 2 years ago I was the fittest of my life. I did kickboxing and loved it. With the move and finishing my college degree while working full time I feel like I've gotten myself into a rut and I can't seem to be able to pull myself out of it.

My best friend has been patient with me, but I can tell even she is sick of hearing me fall to pieces. My husband is beyond sick of seeing me cry and get upset over my weight. I feel very alone in this huge battle and don't know where to turn. Its getting to the point where I don't even enjoy going places anymore b/c I feel so uncomforatble in my fat suit.

If anyone has some ideas or motivational story, I could really use a pick-me up or a friend that knows what I'm struggling with.

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