Slipping... Falling Back

I just wanted to say thank you for everyone replying and it all made me feel better . I am doing much better now, and am being careful not to fall back into bingeing or emotional eating (even if it means having an indulgent treat once in awhile).
Thank you to all

While I'm a firm believer in being able to eat cake on occasion (because life is too short to not enjoy some cake every once in a while), the idea of having "big pack of jelly beans" in my house sets off alarm bells in my head.

Don't torture yourself like that. Small bag of jelly beans? Sure. Big bag? No way...There's no place for a big bag in your house or your life.

I've lost 165 lbs. I have not lost anymore weight for a few month, but have gained 4 lbs. Yikes! I am freaking out because I am going north not south. I have 10-15 lbs left and I cannot give up now. I need re dedication to my new lifestyle. I've joined SP earlier last month and want to take full advantage of what it has to offer. Any suggestions to get me back on track using SP or anything else. Thanks, Mary

JJ625JONES,

Don't worry ! One over indulgent meal or even day's worth of over eating WILL NOT make or break your healthy lifestyle. As long as this doesn't happen every single day, you'll be okay.

I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. So, if you find yourself stress eating, then you need to find other ways to reduce your stress that don't involve food. Take a walk, sit and have a cup of tea, go to the gym and have a workout, listen to some relaxing music, take a bubble bath. These may not seem like much, but they are simple things you can do to reduce stress.

So, don't beat yourself up. Instead, let's find better ways to vent your day's stresses that don't involve food. You might find this article helpful.

www.sparkpeople.com/resource/wellness_arti
cles.asp?id=1396

One step backward does not negate this journey!

It may help, on occasion, to say to give yourself "permission" to have a certain goodie - something really worthy. Eat it, enjoy it, and move on - guilt free. I know for me, if I deprive myself, that just won't work.

As for now, what's done is done. You now get a choice: keep yourself down and continue what you're doing, or lift yourself up and eat healthy for the very next meal you have coming up.

It's that easy, and that hard. But for long-term success, you have to learn to do it.

I know no other way around it....and trust me, I've been in similar shoes.

You can do it! Come on!! We all have bad days...and there's bound to be more throughout life. We all slip up. Just move forward. You can do it!

Wow, sorry you are feeling this way. Stop telling yourself lies. The negative self talk will keep you captive. You will need to find something to occupy your time when you get in those moods. If you need to reach for food healthier options would be better.

Now get rid of the cake and the jellybeans and don't bring them into the house. I find if I have those things around I am going to indulge and tell myself it's ok. That binge is done, so now onto healthier alternatives and working your meal plan and your exercise plan.

Good luck!

Today I find myself emotionally eating. Almost a big pack of jellybeans and just had a slice of cake. I got into a disagreement with my friend over something stupid and I feel like as soon as my feelings shift, if i go from feeling ok or normal to an emotion like anger or hurt... it may not be my FIRST reaction to go to the fridge but it's there. And I go. And i eat. And then I hurt worse. And i knoooww i shouldnt but i do. I come up with excuses I tell myself like Oh just a little , You're hungry aren't you.. I need to find tools to avoid this.
On a good day, I'm soo much better today than i was even a few months ago. But on a bad day like today... I find myself thinking I'm no better than I ever was.
And it doesnt help that none of my friends are trying to lose weight so I'm going all on my own!
Please , help me get my head screwed back on straight!