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BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
3/22/13 4:57 P

Aww sorry to hear that, Wheat! But yes, tomorrow is a new day! Now aren't you glad you passed on the bagel earlier this week, though!

Work is driving me CRAZY... last night I had to stay late for a meeting - at which there was pizza. Today at work, most of my co-workers got together and did a Friday Pizza Party lunch *groan* - I managed to pass on the pizza both times (bringing me up to THREE declined-pizza events out of the last 10 working days). It's almost getting to be a bit of a game for me, "Tempt Deb with the Pizza!" but I AM GOING TO WIN THIS GAME. Count on that. When i do splurge it will be on something more delicious than soggy-crusted 2-4-1-takeaway greasy pizza!

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/22/13 4:52 P

Lost the battle at work today. Cookies, cake, chips left in the breakroom.

Oh well. Another opportunity to be binge free/wheat free tomorrow. I have control over my weekend!

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3/21/13 3:40 P

So soothing to be able to work from home, even when coordinating meetings (sounds quite challenging!). Glad you had some control over your environment. To aid in maintaining focus, remember the old adage, "One day at a time..."

Sometimes, that translates into just a few moments at a time, but as long as all your effort is carefully funneled in one direction, you'll be home free (so to speak!).

All the best!

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/21/13 2:05 P

Working at home today - wish I could do this everyday, then no workplace temptation!

I do have an important phone meeting with lots of people I have to facilitate at 3pm. I always get anxious about these types of meetings, and today has been rough because I had another one like this earlier this morning. The meeting this morning went well, but I'm still anxious about the next one. It's hard to stay focused with this kind of anxiety sometimes!

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3/19/13 8:55 A

emoticon YEAH!!!! 'Tis the season for goodies of chocolate, and you treated yourself to a little Ghirardelli :::insert swoon here:::!

That's a wonderful, healthy way to treat yourself with love - terrific! emoticon

MLS616 Posts: 157
3/19/13 8:36 A

Ugh, work.

My work has decided that anyone who purchases large bags of easter chocolates can have the $$ reimbursed!
We have TONS of chocolate eggs, cadbury caramilk eggs, coffee crisp eggs, Reese's peanut butter bunnies....

SO not helpful.
plus when you eat a small thing like that you feel like it isn't so bad....then you eat 10 of them.



CATCHPSU Posts: 759
3/19/13 5:41 A

Good for you beating the bagel. You could also see if you could take a small piece of bagel next time by cutting it apart.

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 8:23 P

Thanks Cirandella and bunnykicks - appreciate the extra pat on the back! Hopefully tomorrow will bring less temptations.

I did reward myself with an extra piece of Ghiradelli dark chocolate after dinner tonight. I think that's allowed. :)

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
3/18/13 7:37 P

Wheat, do we work at the same place? Ha ha ha!

I mean, I'm glad everyone is so thoughtful and generous as to want to be sharing and supplying treats all the time but geeeeezzz when you are trying to plan your day within your ranges, making all these good choices, and you go to work and there's curve ball after curve ball....

WELL DONE on a day of dodging those curve balls!

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3/18/13 7:12 P


126 lbs. and victory over bagels emoticon and pizza!! emoticon emoticon

Sending a rousing, thunderous ROUND OF APPLAUSE to WHEAT_ON_TRIAL !!!

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 3:21 P

Hah! and just when I thought the worst was over, there's now pizza in the break room! i'm just thinking how proud of myself I will be at the end of the day when I can say I beat Bagels AND Pizza.

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 2:41 P

LOL I'm stronger than a bagel. I love that so much, it's going on my Spark footer.

Love this message board, thanks for getting me through it!

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
3/18/13 2:36 P

Yeah! You are stronger than a bagel!

I've redefined special. A bagel is just a bagel. But someone's birthday cake, especially yours, is special -- unless there's a birthday a day/week at work. A regional delicacy on vacation is special. A fancy dessert at an expensive restaurant is special. A bagel? Meh.

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
3/18/13 2:23 P

Ha, coincidentally, "fancy tea" is what has saved *me* many a time, at work! I have a little 16 ounce brewing pot for loose tea, and a whole assortment of interesting teas (today is Chocolate Chili Chai, perhaps this afternoon a flavoured rooibos or a minted oolong blend). I love fancy tea at work!

Good job on Bagel Avoidance!!! Now doesn't it feel great, to make a plan and stick to it! :)

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 2:13 P

Thanks for the support! Crisis averted. Even after lunch was gone, I still was debating over the bagel. Then decided today is a great day to try dessert tea - I've been meaning to buy some to have here at work to replace my daily *extra* cup of coffee (and/or hot cocoa - I love hot beverages). So I ran to the Teavana next to my office (which, by the way you can print out a coupon for a free 16oz cup of a delicious fruity tea through March 31) - got my cup of tea, bought a few bags to have on hand, and am feeling satisfied. No more bagel cravings!

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
3/18/13 12:35 P

The bagel won't taste as good as that craving-part of your brain is telling you it will.

It won't taste as good as whatever you brought and planned for!

Nobody is expecting you to eat one. Nobody will judge you positively or negatively based on your choice to eat or not to eat. You CAN make the choice to say no! Just look at them and say hmmm, bagels. Nope, I... don't think i care to eat one today.

I have this struggle almost every single day at work. The amount of food that people put around the office is STAGGERING. At the moment, I am aware that there is a bag of mini-Kit-Kats on the filing cabinet just outside my cubicle. There's almost always something in the lunch room.

But last week was my biggest challenge ever. We had a lunch meeting, and there was to be pizza. I got an email 2 days ahead, asking what kind of pizza I would like. I answered that while i appreciated the gesture, I wouldn't like any, thanks. Then I spent 2 days mentally preparing for a meeting in which I'd be shut into a small boardroom with 12 other people and 3 boxes of pizza. I made a cup of tea and ate my lunch in advance, and then went to the meeting.

"Deb! Have a piece of pizza!"
me: no thanks!
"Come onnn free pizza!!"
me: you go ahead! i'm fine!
"Debbbbb c'monn you know you want to!!!!!!"
me: I might, but i'm not going to! :D

What was funny, was, the more it was "pushed" on me, the easier it became to say no! I will eat what i want when i want and nobody is going to make me do otherwise! (Incidentally, the "food pusher" in this story is a nice person and was trying to be friendly, not sabotagey... so I'm not upset with that part of things, I understand the intent of the offer and it wasn't maliciously done - but it's still hard to stand up against!)

KARA623 Posts: 727
3/18/13 12:08 P

Try to think about it this way: It IS okay for you to eat a bagel. It is NOT okay for the bagel to have power over you. Take the power back by deciding that if a bagel is what you really want, big deal, you can eat. You jsut eat it on YOUR terms, not on a whim. If you eat it now, the bagel has power over you. If you give yourself permission to take a bagel home or wrap it up and have it tomorrow.. or wait until Saturday, work out, and then go get the best bagel there is, then YOU have the power. And the bagel will taste much, much better without guilt.

I know it's not always easy, but I have lost 125 lbs employing this strategy. It's one of my top two biggest tips. I do this with doughnuts at the office. I can't just throw one in on a day without planning it, but if I really want it, I'll take it home and save it for a day that I have room for it. A lot of times, I decide I'd rather spend my calories on something else, but it's a mind-trick. You have the power.

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 11:59 A

You are right, I don't think anybody here is out to get me. It's more about I am afraid of sabotaging my own efforts with how I keep trying to validate that it's ok for me to get a bagel.

Still struggling. I have eaten half my lunch already in the hopes that it will satisfy me enough to resume focus on other things and ignore the bagels!

KARA623 Posts: 727
3/18/13 11:45 A

I don't think it's sabotage; other people should be free to have bagels and share them. You don't have to eat them. If you find them that hard to resist, what I sometimes do is wrap whatever it is up and take it home to have on a day that I can fit it in to my plan. It easier to walk away if you're saying wait rather than no.

3/18/13 11:10 A

It IS special, but that doesn't mean you HAVE to eat the bagels. Appreciate the fact that bagels were brought and that your workplaces is friendly and that you work with thoughtful people who like to share with others. At the same time, don't eat the bagels if you feel you shouldn't.

You don't have to eat them to appreciate them.


CILER11 Posts: 265
3/18/13 11:10 A

Think of how special it is that you have the willpower to avoid foods that are not beneficial and nutritious for you. Think about how special you are and how proud of yourself you are going to feel at the end of the day for resisting that temptation.


BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 10:53 A

Ok. Trying really hard here. I think part of my problem when this happens, it feels "special" - like I should take advantage because they don't do it everyday! But taking advantage would really be no advantage at all to my health and weight loss efforts!

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3/18/13 10:19 A


Walk away and remember what your goal is for today and consider how proud you will be knowing you hold the power over that bagel.

Be strong!

Coach Nancy

BPXDOMINO Posts: 227
3/18/13 9:55 A

They brought in bagels today!

Not good, as it certainly won't fit into my eating plan for the day calorie/fat/etc. wise AND wheat is something I'm trying to eliminate for a while to see if I feel better. Trying to get my mind on something else.

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