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SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (250,105)
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11/22/12 10:04 P

Remember that we are here to help to support you - to help you reach your goal. Just keep in contact on the message boards so that others can get to know you better, and provide the support AND friendship - it is one of the most effective tools you can use :-)


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11/22/12 6:56 A

Thanks for the support, it's not easy asking for it. I'm crawling back toward motivation. I have a lot of things that are not working out so well right now, it seems that weight loss would be the easier challenge to tackle.

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (250,105)
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11/21/12 3:46 P

You aren't a failure - if you were you wouldn't be here asking for help!

Below are a couple links which you may find helpful:

If, after trying the suggestions in those links, you find you are still having difficulty, then I suggest you talk with your Dr about what you are wanting to do and what is happening, and ask for a referral to a Therapist who can help you get to the cause of the problem. Often there is unrecognized baggage which interferes with our healthy life's journey, and the Therapist can often work wonders with this.

It might also be beneficial for your Dr to do some bloods to see if there is anything going on - Hypothyroidism and PCOS as well as other conditions can impact on our weight and health overall.

Good luck,

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11/21/12 12:23 P


You're definitely NOT a failure ! I'm going to give you a piece of advice that I give to all new members to help them shift their focus.

Don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality. If the only healthy thing you did for yourself was to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change takes time. Thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

Good health isn't "all or nothing". Every little bit does make a difference. You can't beat yourself up every time you over eat or do something you think is unhealthy. It really does take time to change. That's why Spark People encourages their members to start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some simple goals. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not used to regular exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

If you find it difficult to log, start by logging one meal a day. How about breakfast ? For one week, all you do is log your breakfast. Next week, you log breakfast and a snack. The next week, you log breakfast, lunch and a snack. Over the weeks, you keep adding meals until you are logging. Studies have shown that people who log their food lose more weight than those who don't. Logging helps you to be more mindful of what you are eating as well as how much.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others. Remember, one small change can change your life.

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11/21/12 10:13 A

I'm sorry you're feeling down. The thing is, you're not a failure. This is your journey. You have to find what works for you which takes trial and error. I've found that a combination of features from this website-such as the calorie-counter, along with knowing what works for me food wise has helped me drop weight. My method may not work for someone else. Be patient as you continue looking for what works for you.
You can do this! You're already doing well to keep on trying.

The "who are you kidding"? I had (and sometimes still get) that other voice in my head that tells me the same thing. I've worked towards drowning it out in exercise and ignoring it, and while it still surfaces, it is better managed.

Feel free to sparkmail me! You can do this!

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11/21/12 9:04 A

Hi Courtney,

None of us are failures. We are just learning how to navigate through the trials of poor choices and replacing them with healthier ones. Remember you do not have to have a perfect life to have a healthy lifestyle. Starting with small, doable goals will allow you to see success without the need for the scale. Remember weight loss is not a goal, but it is the result of replacing not so healthy habits with healthy ones.

Stay strong!

Coach Nancy

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11/21/12 8:14 A

I didn't want to step on the scale and did and gained weight. This makes my blood feel like there is ice water running through my body, I feel emotional, and wonder why I'm doing this in the first place. I know I need to track my food, but I don't. Then I feel worse. Through it all, I do exercise, but at times, I recognize my mind saying, who are you kidding! I feel stuck, sad, and then comes the emotional eating.

My plan is to just try. Each time I dont do my fast break goal, I feel like a failure, then I slip further away from my goal and start to think of other failures. I'm going to stop and do some deep breathing now.

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