I'm working to use the SparkCoach program daily and my Fast Break goals include journaling and using a daily planner. So, I am using the SparkPeople version. That is a good reinforcement; I want to log on to make sure I'm aware of my doctor and other appointments and needing to make sure I know when my appointments are, will keep me logging on each day!
However, also explains how diet and exercise don't explain the whole picture, why women who diet and exercise for 2 years do not lose much more than the 10%; the set point biology stuff comes into play (why the people on Biggest Loser have to continue to exercise 5-6 hours a day, a not practical activity for most obese people).
"When life and your mind are full of troubles, when things seem out of control, you’ve got to take control of what you can. When confidence is low, that’s exactly when you need to be at your healthiest, your strongest, your most energetic. There’s no better time to create your own little corner of sanity and positive feeling."
Mike Kramer in "Going Through the Emotions" (SparkFavorite)
My mother would "close" the kitchen every afternoon at 4:30 :-) so we wouldn't ruin our dinner; we had to get our snack after school before then or we'd miss out. Our cookie jars were glass with cut glass knobs that "scraped" when you withdrew them from the jar and my mother could hear them two floors up where she was usually sewing. "Get out of the kitchen; it's closed!" she'd yell when my brothers or I thought we had been so quiet withdrawing the top to snitch an extra cookie.
My mother's recipe box/tin (a meatloaf tin so it could hold more and larger-sized recipes) had this poem in the front:
A house should have a cookie jar For when it's half-past three And children hurry home from school As hungry as can be
There's nothing quite so splendid For filling children up As fluffy, spicy ginger cake And sweet milk in a cup
A house should have a mother Waiting with a hug No matter what the boy brings home A puppy or a bug
For children only loiter When the bell rings to dismiss If no one's home to greet them With a cookie and a kiss
Fitness Minutes: (29,341)
197 7/10/11 8:23 A
My mother was and is the same way. Each meal would have the main course and bread and veggies and fruit and dessert. We were not allowed to snack between the meals though. So we came hungry. Now with my kids she just feeds them nonstop. At least when she was feeding me it was healthier as it was all homemade. Now she is feeding my kids fruit snacks, Yogo balls, etc. She does feed them tons of fruit and yogurt as well, but this is all inbetween the actual meals. I realize she has made food represent love, but how do you tell her that this type of love is not the best type of love?
7/10/11 4:58 A
Learned behaviors can be such problems. Eating, for other reasons than being hungry, can indicate a true need for mindful, personal review and change. When I was growing up, my mother used to offer second helpings of everything that she cooked. If you said no, thank you, she would go into the response of "you must not like it." What she was looking for was love and approval. She looked at the food as her love and nurturing of us. My sister have joked together about the vision that both of us would be bigger than houses, if we had not had said no, thank you to overeating,
Fitness Minutes: (54,048)
3,151 7/9/11 3:30 P
Thanks for all these links, I am reading a couple right now!
"The finding makes sense in terms of human evolution, Aarts said. For example, in situations where there is limited food, people who associate food with anger and become aggressive in order to obtain the food are more likely to survive.
"If the food does not make you angry or doesn't produce aggression in your system, you may starve and lose the battle," Aarts explained."
So, does that mean that "angry" people eat more? If I have an eating problem could I also have an anger (or other strong emotion) problem? I know I was not overweight before 25ish, when I was anxious. But getting treatment for my anxiety, I began to gain weight.
I'm just back from vacation and working on feeling I'm dehydrated, what with this weather and the crazy difference between Maryland and Florida in weather (and driving 22 hours straight to get here yesterday from Ft. Lauderdale). My hands are chapped too and DH's face is all broken out; he says he feels like he looks like he has leprosy.
But going back in February for the month to such a great place and already having a 10% thing in process and seeing the doctor for our quarterly checkup February 1 and wanting to use January to get ready to have a fabulous February vacation, etc. is really exciting me and giving me a lot of motivation and ideas of things to do, some of which would normally be boring but which, in light of what's coming up and preparing, seem much more doable and more likely to get done in light of the future. Good motivation is under rated :-) I'm glad it looks like we'll be doing Florida every February for the next few years, it makes a different, interesting pattern to the year and adds challenges.
We end up eating more, whether through false rewards or because we think the exercising is doing more than it is.
I'm not advocating not exercising, but only if it is a part of your lifestyle you want to keep. I want a more active lifestyle but do not want to exercise. Yes, our body needs to be used, that's what muscles and arms, legs, etc. are for.