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SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (256,762)
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2/15/13 5:34 A

I just came across this link that you might like to read:


SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (256,762)
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2/15/13 5:29 A

Hi Matt - the fact that you are HERE is a positive. Read the articles on Motivation, and read the articles on Nutrition and Fitness. You may find that in time, you might decide to increase your fruit/vege consumption a little, occasionally, and then increase them again. You may find, also, that you might get the urge to walk that little bit further in the day. In time you may even find that you have made changes without even realizing it, AND that you are enjoying them!

Keep active on the Message Boards - at the very least reading them, but hopefully participating in them too! You never know - you might just end up enjoying THAT aspect of SP, too :-)

Good luck


MISSRUTH Posts: 4,309
2/12/13 2:08 P

I don't really care how many points I've got, either. It's a way to get you to read articles and connect with other people by reading their blogs or joining some teams. Which are all really good things to do. I've always believed that people can make better choices, when they're more educated on a topic. And it's helpful to feel like you've got some support, going through this lifestyle change. Not a lot of us have a bunch of supportive people around us, willing to encourage us every day.

Like a pp said, it's an inside job. You have to decide for yourself what you really want. I lurked around the site off and on for a couple three years, before I was truly willing to make a lifestyle change. Previously, all I wanted was to lose the weight and then go right back to how I was before. Eating a lot of crap and lying around like a slug.

I started small-- quit eating sugary snacks (cookies, cake, pie), drinking water instead of anything else (except coffee in the morning) and eating vegetables at lunch and dinner every day. It took me a while to work up to getting any exercise. Finally did it, when I challenged another woman on a message board to 10 minutes of exercise. I didn't want to look like a weenie, so I got up and got going. Did 20 minutes, just in case she tried to "outdo" me. She never came back and posted whether she did or not. But that's the day I finally got off my butt and got going.

I think Archii had some good suggestions. Start small. Pick 3 things you're fairly confident you can do. Nothing breeds success, like success. Pick one thing to give up for 40 days, til Easter. Doesn't have to be your *favorite* thing. If the thought of giving up, say, chocolate for 40 days makes you feel the fear all the way down in your bones, don't pick that. Pick something like potato chips instead. Something you like, but doesn't give you the willys when you think about giving it up. No point setting yourself up to fail or torturing yourself.

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (201,237)
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2/12/13 1:41 P

Hi, Matt !

Perhaps the reason you keep giving up is because you're trying to do too much too soon. While it's important for a person to challenge themselves, if the goals are too ambitious, that does set a person up for failure. This is why Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple goals first.

Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you're not exercising, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

Too many people adopt an "all or nothing" attitude and that's no good. No one ever became a perfect eater overnight. Remember, you're trying to change habits learned over a life time. That's not going to happen overnight, a week, a month or even a year. Change really does take time. Thus the need to be patient with yourself and your body.

If you're looking for some motivation, now might be a good opportunity. I'm not much of a Catholic anymore, but tomorrow is Ash Wednesday i.e. the start of Lent. During Lent, people make a sacrifice of some kind. For some people this is a time of spiritual cleansing. For others it's an opportunity to make changes to their health by making a promise to God to give something up for the 40 day period from Ash Wednesday to Easter Sunday. I have one friend who gave up smoking for Lent.

In past, I've given up chocolate, red meat, junk food, diet coke, etc. Has it worked ? Oddly enough, yes. For that period, I did make a commitment. Did it last ? yes and no. Some times it did and some times it didn't. However, the point, making a sacrifice for Lent might be a good way to get your mojo (motivation) back.

Just a thought.

Edited by: ARCHIMEDESII at: 2/12/2013 (14:02)
PATHFINDER52 Posts: 754
2/12/13 12:42 P

Dear Matt --
How much are you like so many of us here (me included) -- you know what to do, yet you still persist in old habits!

I can see how in the many years I've been here (on Sparkpeople) I've changed some of my habits, but it has taken a LOT of time and I don't manage to muster the sort of sustaining resolve that the successful people do. I try not to beat myself up about it.

A long time ago I figured out that even "holding my own" or staying even was better than gaining. This year, I know I'm "stuck" but not just in the weight-loss department. It is a metaphor for my whole life right now.

What's got you "stuck"? I think if you figure that out, you'll begin to move forward.
I'm working on those "other things" in my life that feel stuck or cluttered and as I weed out the debris, I have a sense that a more energetic, self-directed and healty me will emerge.

Give it a try and let us know how you're doing!
Head up -- you can do this!



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2/12/13 12:42 P


There is no right or wrong way to approach this journey. If feel you are not ready to take the steps you feel you need to, that's OK. Maybe using this time to educate yourself on the process.

That being said, I think many of us fall to the notion that we must make a total overhaul of our lifestyle in order to get the results we want, but the reality is, healthy living is nothing more than a lot of healthy habits all strung together...some people can advance quite quickly, whereas for me, weight loss wasn't so much of the problem, but keeping it off was. So when I started my journey 8 years ago, I decided I was never turning back regardless how long it took. It took me 3 1/2 years to lose 80 pounds, but I am MOST PROUD to say that I have kept the weight off for longer than it took me to lose it--4 1/2 years now. Making the habits of healthy living a permanent part of my life, led me to giving up the diet mentality once and for all.

Be strong and stay focused.

Coach Nancy

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2/12/13 12:40 P

The key to finding motivation is to have a real, true reason as to WHY you are doing this.

If you can't answer that question, then there will be no motivation.

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2/12/13 12:24 P

I've been on this site for a couple of years now. At one point, I just let the other logon ID fade and created a new logon ID to get a fresh start.

I just can't find the (motivation, drive, mojo...) to sustain any progress. Not to be rude...but I don't find motivation in how many points I got on the wheel. That topic is close to half of the first page over at the Staying Motivated page...the majority of the others have something to do with how your day is going or how you are feeling.

I've spent a bit of time over the past couple of days looking into groups attempting to become more involved and hoping that would help, I only joined one additional group. I'm not really that much of a social person. I post on Sparkpeople more than I do on all of the other forums that I belong to, and that includes Facebook which I only look at once or twice a month.

I've learned a lot of the information through articles. I tried the sparkcoach thing for a week and didn't really see it as a benefit for me.

I don't even know what I am trying to say here...I guess I'm just a bit frustrated and angry with myself. As far as nutrition and exercise goes, I know what to do, I know how to do it, I just don't do it.

Sorry for the jumbled and confused post...just ignore me.


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