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11/4/12 3:05 P
You might also consider visiting a psychologist and looking into cognitive behavioural, or talk, therapy. I go every two months and find that it really keeps me on track and enables me to deal with things constructively rather than through food.
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6 11/4/12 7:02 A
Thank you all so much for all your kind and encouraging words. I will definitely try the challenges on SP and try to take advantage of this site more. I think I need an online group to help, since I don't have much support around me, maybe this is what I need, to sit down and write what I feel, since I don't really have anyone to talk too. Again, thank you all so much and I will keep everyone updated on this progress.
U will get through this, advice given here is very good and true, take one day at a time. Have you thought of joining a challenge like the the 10 minute exercise daily exercise offered here in SP? check challenges, I learnt that if I do even 5 minutes of exercise the drive to eat all the time diminished a little.
Also every time you feel like eating a snack, drink a glass of water first.
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11/3/12 5:56 P
When I start feeling that way, it's like it's almost time for a reboot. If I can't get through a whole day eating right and staying on top of my food logging, then I break it down...get through the morning, get through the afternoon, then get through the evening.
I try to look at motivational stories, read some "fun" blogs, etc. We are not perfect, no one is...and some of us need to work just a little harder at being healthy than others.
You can do this! You are not alone, we are all here to help cheer you on!
I'm 30 years old and have two small kids. My husband can eat anything and lose weight. I feel what you're going through. What I finally had to do was sit down and think: ok, do I want to change? If the answer is truly no, then you're not going to change. If the answer is truly yes, start writing down every reason why and revisit your reasons daily.
Don't try to change everything all at one time--you'll drive yourself crazy. I started by increasing activity only--8 minutes a day. Did that until I got comfortable with it and then started to work on increasing the amount of workout time and working on getting 5 servings of fruits/veggies into my diet. Did it work overnight? No. Did I have setbacks? Absolutely. BUT I wanted to change and had my reasons written down. The hardest part for me was taking time for myself--I'd never done this before and it was HARD to learn how to do it! You'll get there--be patient with yourself! Check out SP Mind over Body series--it helped me a lot!
One last thought, and I hope you don't take it the wrong way, but maybe check into depression or anxiety issues? I suffer from both and when off of my medication, I feel much like you describe: something inside of me is falling apart but I can't figure it out. Medication doesn't solve the problems, but it makes them more manageable and clears my head so I can think, sleep, etc. You might not need medication but just someone to talk to: a clergy person, a friend, parent, etc. Feel free to send me a SparkMessage if you'd like!
I wish you the best on your journey--when you get to the top, you'll look back and smile at what you've overcome! :)
11/3/12 11:51 A
I hope that you can focus on the importance of feeding yourself well.
I would suggest speaking with a health care provider. Perhaps you need to have some tests and things to put a finger on issues that need to be addressed, too.
Stress, if that is the underlying problem, can lead to a lot of problems
11/3/12 11:48 A
Hi, Chilin. What are you doing for yourself? I know that when I'm stressed, but not taking care of myself, I eat more. It looks from your spark page that you are a sahm. Can you build an out-of-house support network so you have people to take your mind off food?
Your page doesn't discuss your process: what are you doing to help yourself control your eating? On weeks when I'm blitzed, and going nuts, I even resort to little gold stars on my calendar to show that I exercised, or drank my water. For me (and we are all different) it's gotta be a balance between positive reinforcement and discipline.
Don't try to fix it all at once. Make a single small change; build it into a habit. Then make another.
I wish you success.
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22,836 11/3/12 10:58 A
When my motivation was lagging I made a Contract for Success and found it a great tool.
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6 11/3/12 9:55 A
As I sit here and write this message, I have tears rolling down my cheeks. I have no idea how to overcome what I have become. I feel like there is something inside of me just tearing me down. No matter how much I try to control my eating, that seems to be all I do. My body is telling me no every time I walk down the stairs to the pantry, but something else inside me is over-riding it, and I continue to eat. My knees are starting to hurt on a daily basis, as long with my back and my ankles. I am only 31 and feel like I am falling apart and I know I am doing it to myself. Why can't I stop, why I can't I love myself enough to make my brain work. My husband is no help, my kids watch my unhealthy eating habits. I feel helpless. I feel like an alcoholic, who wants their damn alcohol, but knows its the wrong thing to do, but just can't stop.
Please if you have any advice on how to get over this, please share.