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JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
3/2/13 7:12 P

Good news! I went to the bridal salon today and tried on the next size up (above the one I ordered) and it zipped right up with no it is only one size I need to lose by June!!! Surely I can do that.

JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
3/1/13 9:02 P

Thanks Lum...I am going tomorrow to see when my drop dead date is to order another size and pay the rush fee.

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3/1/13 2:18 P

I feel your pain. I just had to order my bridesmaid dress and it is already too big 3 weeks later because I ordered the size they measured me for even though I am actively losing weight. I was going to do as you did and order a size down but I was afraid my sister-in-law (the bride) would kill me if it didn't fit. I couldn't handle the pressure haha. It is frustrating to have to order these dresses so far in advance!

What worked well for me though in the past was doing Jillian Michaels 30 Day Shred every other day for a month (as well as generic cardio and good eating). I lost almost 6 inches from my stomach (around my belly button). As others have said already you can't spot reduce so there is no guarantee. I also personally lose weight in my tummy first (which of course I would prefer it to come off in a different place) and I had just had a baby 6 months prior at the time so my belly was pretty expanded still (weak core muscles). It might work for you though :) I would definitely take others advice and shop around or order a backup dress just in case. Good luck!!!

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,320
2/27/13 10:06 A

Personally, I agree with Archii's suggestions. Now is the time to "get religion" with tracking your food, sticking to your calorie ranges, and being sure to get your cardio and some strength training every week. There are a ton of exercise videos here on Spark, for free, where Coach Nicole will lead you through 10 or 15 minutes worth of stuff targetting your abs. Don't skip the upper or lower body, but I'd be religious about the abs for sure.

It is possible to lose inches off your waist before the wedding.... but we can't really target one area, where we'll lose weight. There is no "surefire" plan, to get 4 inches off your waist. So a backup plan is probably in order. A second dress, or foundation garments for the first dress, plus it may be possible to let the first dress out a bit too. You might be able to get an inch or so out of letting out the dress, plus if you lost a bit, and wore a heavy duty foundation garment.... Celebrities routinely will wear 2 pair of Spanx to hold everything in-- while I can't imagine it's the least bit comfortable, on the other hand it's only one day.

If it was me.... I'd track every morsel of food and drink that passed my lips. I'd exercise-- 30 minutes of walking or some other cardio, plus a 10 minute strength training video 6 days a week, alternating upper body, abs, lower body (so I'd be doing each body part twice a week). I'd do what I could, to increase my chances. And I'd have a Plan B ready, just in case. Second dress, alternate off the rack dress, corset, Spanx... something I knew could gain me the few inches I'd need.

JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
2/26/13 5:13 P

Wow that's great Slimmer, on downsizing.

Can't wait too long on these custom gowns...they have to be ordered several weeks ahead. They come over on a slow boat from China.

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2/26/13 4:09 P

Here is another thought regarding fitting into MOB dress. Why not wait till a little bit closer to the time so that you KNOW you will have a good fit. Sometimes when we lose weight the style that looked really great before, may not look so great with the weight-loss. I also meant to say that altho' I have lost a lot of weight, my waist is only less than an inch smaller than prior, BUT my hips are a lot smaller, as is everywhere else. My stomach isn't as protrudent, tho'! The funny thing, is that even tho' my waist hasn't altered too much, I have gone from a NZ size 20-22 to a size 12-14 top and a size 14-16 bottom.


SWIMOM Posts: 366
2/26/13 2:47 P

Ohhh...I have no idea how to get my pm's then......anyone? Oh, it!

SWIMOM Posts: 366
2/26/13 2:46 P

Ohhh...I have no idea how to get my pm's then......anyone?

JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
2/26/13 12:48 P

Swim Mom, I did send you a PM. Not sure how it works, so hope I did it right.

Hmmmm. The Jasmine Jade dress I ordered was a size 16.

Think I will go somewhere this weekend and try on a Jasmine Jade 18, and if does not zip comfortably, maybe I had better rush order the same dress again in an 18. In January, a 20 in Jasmine Jade was a tad loose...would have had to be taken in but an 18 would not zip. But I have lost some in the belly since trying those on.

My weight has not come down much in February, but my belly looks flatter in my clothes. that we have discussed it, 4 inches sounds like a lot!

Edited by: JRWELL58 at: 2/26/2013 (12:49)
ANGIEN9 Posts: 3,753
2/26/13 12:05 P

I think you can do it!! Determination and support from your Spark friends will help.

That being said, it is not possible to spot reduce. However you do have a chance to lose weight and inches in 16 weeks. You can do it! Increase your exercise. Work on your core. And eat healthy.

Good luck and I hope the wedding is beautiful!


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2/26/13 11:53 A

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The others are right. We can't spot reduce areas of our bodies we don't like. However, with a healthy diet and some regular exercise, you can lose weight off your entire body by June. Could you lose 4 inches off your waist ? It's not out of the realm of possibility, BUT it is going to require a lot of diligence and hard work.

Let's say eating right helps you lose 3 inches off your waist. Like the others said, a good foundation undergarment can help you suck in that last inch. Lots of women wear (dare I say it) girdles. They've worn them for years. Although these days, your mom's girdles are now SPANX and Body Slimmers.

What to do ? Don't get rid of that dress yet. You will need to start reforming your eating habits. Take things slowly. Spark People encourages its members to start with some simple changes first. So, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. If you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. If you've been sedentary, don't try to workout for an hour a day, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

I don't know your current statistics, but theoretically, you could lose 12-24 pounds in 3 months. this assumes a 1-2 pound loss per week. Here's another thing to consider. Even if you didn't lose enough weight to get into that dress and had to buy another.... if you lose some weight as a result of a healthier lifestyle, you'll go to your daughter's wedding with the GLOW of good health !

The problem with going on a crash diet is that a person might achieve their weight goals, but they'll look sickly from the rapid loss. Lose the weight slowly with a healthy lifestyle and people will rave about how good you look even if you were to only lose 5-10 pounds.

And I'm going to encourage you to start some strength training exercises. Don't be afraid to lift a weight or use a resistance band. a good strength training program can help you lose 1-2 clothing sizes AND inches off your body.

If you're not sure where to start, check out the fitness section. Coach Nicole has some short 10-15 minute strength workouts you can try at home. Do what you can to start and make modifications where you need them.


SWIMOM Posts: 366
2/26/13 11:46 A

Hey hey hey....I am a short 5"4" and weigh 190 and I sure don't consider myself fat! I can hold my own in a male occupation and yes, carry too many pounds. I prefer to call it muscle insulation emoticon

Snoopy, our brides get married on the same day! How lovely you will be. Please PM me if you're looking for a MOB buddy between now and June.

Edited by: SWIMOM at: 2/26/2013 (12:21)
JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
2/26/13 9:12 A

Thanks for all the good and interesting replies. I even got a chuckle about the bride who would want to kill me. LOL.

I am the MOB, so I guess plan B is to buy another dress off the rack somewhere. The one I ordered was custom ordered from a salon, and it is too late to order another one and it get here in time. It is Jade Jasmine style 4425.

I think my first comment showed that my bust and hips exactly fit into the size I ordered, it is just the waist that is the issue.

And my ticker shows my weight...but I am 5 feet 5 inches. Short Fat Fanny...ha ha.

I will defintely focus focus focus! And get that girdle!


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2/25/13 10:15 P

Unfortunately we can't lose size in such a definitive way :-( There are things that you can do that will HELP you tho', and that is apart from wise nutrition.

Going to a Pilates Class and learning how to do this properly is a very good way to improve your core strength, which will also improve your posture. Sometimes the way we stand can cause our abdominal area to be more 'protrudent' than it should be. You can actually downsize clothes because of improved posture. The other thing that you can do, and I would suggest it in your case, is to get one of those "body trimmers" - I have one and even tho' it doesn't appear to have much strength, it really DOES make a difference between clothes fitting and looking good, and being a bit tight on - even uncomfortable. Mine flattens my tummy area quite a bit and aren't visible at all. They aren't expensive, either! I got mine via a 'daily bargain' website.

By looking at your weight-loss tracker, I can see that you are well on your way to a smaller new you - congratulations :-)

Take care, and enjoy this time :-D

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2/25/13 9:38 P


Congrats on being the Mother-of-the-Bride!

While it's true, you cannot per se "spot reduce," you can help to lose overall which will help your mid-section. Also true is Murphy's Law of Fat Storage: the first place you want to see it leave is often the last. We also don't know how overweight you are to start, and that has something to do with the rate in which you'll lose. If more you have overall to lose, the faster it will initially come off. I don't know your height & weight, but you might be able to make a pretty good dent by June. Just leave yourself some time to either get alterations or find another dress.

What to do? In the spirit of being helpful, I'd suggest this:
I'd really, really focus on your eating. Losing weight is about 80% to do w/ what goes in your mouth. You are going to have to have laser beam focus. Lots of veggies will absolutely help you get there. Aim for nine - yes, you read that right - servings of fruit and veggies and IMO, I'd make at least 50% of that from veggies. Get a food scale of you don't already have one. Know exactly what you are consuming. Make sure you get enough protein and healthy fats.

Have you entered your starting weight and goal weight in the trackers? Do it and get the calorie range that Spark gives you. Do not, whatever you do, go below the lowest level of calories suggested. It will not help you - it will stall your efforts and your body will grab hold of every calorie. Focus on eating clean foods (hardly any processed stuff) and I'd ditch alcohol or cut way, way back.

As for exercise, I'd aim for fast walking / add some jogging at least 30 - 40 min a day and do strength training a few x's a week as well. The strength training will help save you and you can really change your shape but with just over 3 mo, you've got to focus (not a lot of wiggle room).

Any way you can order that dress a size larger & rtn it if you don't wear it (assuming that's in the store's rtn policy)? Just to have as a back-up? Is there any extra fabric that could enable the dress to be let out in that area just a bit if you need it? Or is there another "plan B" dress you could get?

Lastly, don't forget Spanx or some other "industrial strength" undergarments. I love for some real good foundations. They make all kinds of waist-cinchers nowadays. I haven't tried them, but some are stronger than others and you can read user reviews. If there's a Nordstrom near you, they have knowledgeable salespeople to help you.

Good luck!

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2/25/13 9:07 P

You can't spot reduce fat. Even if you took extreme, dangerous, absurd measures and lost 50 pounds or something ridiculous like that, there would be no guarantee whatsoever that the inches you lose will come from your waist. If you carry fat in your waist, it's probably the LAST place you'll lose weight from, since that's where your body likes to store it.

If I were you, I'd see if there's time to change your dress order. Ordering a dress that much smaller than what you need was, to be utterly frank, not smart, and if I were the bride (and I was a bride, just last summer), I'd want to KILL you when, in 16 weeks, your dress that you PURPOSELY ordered a million sizes too small doesn't fit you and you end up having to wear a different dress from the rest of the girls or just not being in the bridal party at all.

Edited by: BEANBYDESIGN at: 2/25/2013 (21:15)
JRWELL58 Posts: 1,429
2/25/13 6:51 P

Okay...I'm ready for the attacks....but surely someone will see it as a possibility.

I ordered my MOB gown too small...the wedding is June 15...and I need to lose 4 inches in my waist to fit into it. My waist is the problem area. The hips and bust will not be hard to do.

Right now my measurements are: 45-40-46

To fit into the measurements of the size I ordered they need to be: 45-36-47

Obviously, as I continue to lose, when I get the dress I'll have to have the bust taken in probably. It is an A-line skirt so not a big deal about the hip size.

Any ideas how to get that waist from 40 to a 36 in 16weeks?

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