Hi and welcome to Spark People where you will find lots of information and tons of support and encouragement from all our members. You will find that we also have fun along the way. Drink your 8-8oz glasses of water a day (If you only drink one now, add to as you are able until you are drinking your 8 cups or more a day), watch your portion control (measure everything in the beginning...guaranteed it will get easier) and walk, dance or do any exercise you enjoy (start with 10 minutes a day or several times a day and add to it as you are able or have time). Use your fitness and nutrition tracker daily (guaranteed to work if you use them consistently and honestly). Pick one thing to change...one thing at a time. Don't try to change to many things at once as that can be very overwhelming. Just try to take one step, one minute, one hour, one day, one week at a time. They honestly will all add up to the bigger numbers. These tips will definitely help in lowering your numbers and increasing your ability to enjoy life. Don't expect miracles right away...this is a lifestyle change not a diet. You will be much healthier in the long run. Post any concerns, comments or questions you may have and someone will respond quickly. Start each day with a positive thought just for that day. Reading and reflecting on an inspirational thought or message before you start your day can put you in a positive frame of mind. Your thoughts determine whether you have a good day or a bad day. Fill your mind with positive ideas, suggestions, and thoughts. You will find it will change your attitude and changing your attitude can change your life. Sometimes just reading an inspirational quote or a short paragraph helps one see the positive in a situation. Sometimes as your day progresses you just need to take a break...Take a mental break and read or think about a message of inspiration. Never underestimate your power to change and improve! You are a good person, with wonderful qualities, and you can reach your goals! Set up your Spark page so that we can visit and get to know you, send you spark goodies, and leave encouraging and supportive comments to help you along the way. Let me also say that it wasn't your fault nor your weight that caused her to cheat...She did that all on her own...for whatever reasons. Accept that and be thankful that you found out before you were totally committed and married to her. You are a wonderful and very WORTHY person and you DESERVE so much better than that!!! I hope you are able to forgive, forget and move on with your life. YOU ARE SO WORTH IT!!! If I can be of any help to you, please let me know with a spark mail or a comment on my page. I am here for you. God bless you on your journey to a healthier you. Hugs, Helen
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2,097 12/18/11 11:48 A
First of all BLAME HER. Cheating is the result of a lack in her character not your weight. If she was bothered by your weight she should have told you and ended the relationship, not cheated!!!
Secondly, you have to find the discipline to get healthy for you, you are worth it. As you begin to feel better about yourself you will find someone who is worthy of you!!!!
You can do this, REALLY!!! Just start!!!
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12/18/11 11:06 A
The first step to getting healthier is to want to. Reaching out for support is great - have you read some of the SP success stories? That's what I do when I get depressed and am tempted to binge on food. Consider creating a Spark page and joining a team or two.
It took me many years to realize I needed to stop giving other people the power to determine my self-worth. Good luck!
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846 12/18/11 10:59 A
You need to look for something positive in your life each day even if it is just waking up. Putting the positive back in your life will help with all the other areas. You can't move forward if you're always looking in the rear view mirror.
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713 12/18/11 10:31 A
Good luck getting to where you want to be. But honestly, you need to stop beating yourself up for what happened. It's not your fault that she cheated on you, and I can just about assure you that it wasn't because of your weight.
You can be happy again... It's time to move on.. Try to forget about the past... You can do it...
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3 12/18/11 1:56 A
Life is not going well now. Today a girl I found out a girl I had been dating for several weeks cheated on me. I dont blame her. Im sure it was because of my weight. I hate myself. And how I see myself projects to others. The worst part is I haven't always been like this. I used to be an athlete. I used to be the top wrestler in the region and a contender for the state title. I used to power lift. I did rugby. Football. I was confident and full of life. Freshman year of college. At the top of my game, In what was supposed to be the start of one of the best chapters of my life I tore my ACL and destroyed my meniscus. At first I didn't believe it but after falling down repeatedly I was escorted out. At first I kept eating like I always had. Thinking Id be back in the saddle soon. Its been a year and my knee is not fully repaired yet. I kept getting fatter and fatter. Food went from being fuel that I needed to maintain a high work rate, to a comfort. "Hey I had a sh**ty day", at least I can eat a great meal", I would tell myself. Busy with school, I disregarded my health, eating junk, abusing my body. I ended up getting kidney stones. Twice. I was so depressed I didn't care anymore. Honestly I might of been trying to hurt myself on purpose. I was so mad at myself for getting hurt. I told myself " you dont deserve better". I alienated my family, forsook my friends, and my performance in school suffered. Im at a brink right now. This past week of final examinations has got me gaining weight exponentially. I'm at 250. I need to do something. I want to be the person I was. I want to be happy again. I'm miserable right now. Anyways. Sorry for ranting and burdening people with my problems. Just needed to tell someone. Even if it is a computer screen.