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VATRUCKER SparkPoints: (20,629)
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4/10/13 8:00 P

I agree whole heart with you. You know the answer, and you know what to do, I must admit you have had a trying time of it, and I know you will pull out of it emoticon

SIMPLELIFE2 Posts: 707
4/10/13 3:55 P

Sounds like a terribly stressful time. I think it's amazing that you've ONLY gained 10 pounds. Rather than narrowly focus on losing weight right now, which just adds more stress, I would focus on reducing stress levels and eliminating some of the isolation you feel.

Not sure if joining a gym or taking a class or two would fit in your schedule, but it might be helpful to get more interaction with people outside of work. Making new friends is hard, but sometimes you have to reach out of your comfort zone to do so. Ask someone out for coffee. Plan a walk and healthy lunch with someone. You may not make immediately make best friends, but the more interactions you have, the more likely it is to happen. Do activities you enjoy or volunteer somewhere that means something to you. Actively search out ways to meet people and force yourself to be a little more forward than maybe you feel comfortable with to initiate interactions.

With your food choices, perhaps you can focus on how much better you feel when you eat more healthy. It's easy to get caught up in the sugar, carbs, fat (whatever your vice is) roller coaster, but after just a week off of it, those foods are less appealing and you realize how much better you feel and how much more energy you have.

Lastly, 10 pounds is really not that much and relatively easy to correct. You are entirely too harsh on yourself. You are not out of control (that would be more like 50 pounds in 7 months) or have any reason to be embarrassed, disgusted or hate your body. Pretend all of those things happened to a friend, not you, And then your friend tells you she hates her body and is disgusted and angry with herself. What would you tell your friend? Tell yourself that.

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4/10/13 1:07 P


I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future. So, don't beat yourself up because you've gained some weight. that's something that has happened to every single member at one time or another.

You're stressed out and overwhelmed. I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. if a person could reduce their stress. they'd automatically reduce their waistline.

So, what I'm going to encourage you to do (to start your quest for a healthy lifestyle) is to find ways to reduce your stress that don't involve food. Do you take yoga ? If not, yoga is a great way to reduce your stress. Studies have shown that learning to meditate can also help reduce your stress.

Take baby steps, literally and figuratively.

You can lose weight, but you will need to be patient with yourself and your body.

COANNIE SparkPoints: (9,512)
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4/10/13 12:45 P

You've been through a lot, any one of those things would cause someone to look for comfort, and all of them together are a major life change and disruption. As you said, with no friends to hang out with, food has become the highlight of the day, which is a hard habit to break.

Having said that, you should first commend yourself for continuing to exercise. That is a huge accomplishment, not giving up on that in the face of all of these challenges, especially the physical ones.

The only thing that works for me when I mess up with food is to just start back up. Use the food tracker, eat veggies or fruit when I want junky food, and even though I may feel rebellious and crabby at first, I start to feel better and know that what I am doing is helping me.

I think you are a very strong person, and I admire your committment to your health in the face of your extremely challenging recent history.

TBRENNAN09 Posts: 6
4/10/13 11:58 A

Hello Sparkies--it has been a long time since I've used this site, but I am in need of some serious motivation. Over the past 7 months, I have been steadily gaining weight from my lowest weight of 135 up to 145. I'm so angry at myself that I have allowed this weight gain to get out of control. Every time I step on the scale I see the number going up and it makes me feel disgusted with myself. I have really started to hate and be embarrassed of my body. I'm 5'9", so I know I'm not overweight, but after gaining ten pounds, I just feel really gross. I can feel parts of my body jiggling that didn't jiggle ten pounds ago.

I'm fine on the workout end of things (I exercise at least 5 days a week, and I work all day on my feet), but I don't know why it has been so hard for me to get back on the healthy eating bandwagon. Well, I do know why. I'm a stress/binge eater and I have let that get the best of me. This past year has been incredibly stressful--I made a big move down to CA, changed career paths, got in a car accident, had surgery for cancer (melanoma), BOTH of my parents were diagnosed with has been rough. I think the biggest thing for me is that I haven't made many friends since moving down to CA, so instead of making plans to go out and do things on my days off/after work, I plan to eat. I know I need to change this habit.

So, I need some advice from you all. For anyone who has fallen off the bandwagon, how did you get back on? How do you stop feeling disgusted with yourself (I feel like it's causing me to self-sabotage)? What are ways that have personally worked for you to help stop stress eating?

I feel like I already know the answers to all these questions, I just need a little support from real people going through the same thing (not just some article in Shape magazine). Thanks everyone!

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