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MISSRUTH Posts: 4,299
4/3/14 6:46 A

Bottom line.... men's testosterone levels give them more muscle mass to begin with, and the ability to build muscle mass faster than women. Which is one of the reasons why strength training, for a woman, is not going to make us look like the Incredible Hulk. We do not have the hormones that would allow us to do that. And muscle is going to give them a higher metabolism and they'll burn more calories. It's just the way it is.

It is not a competition. Plus I'd have to say (jmho here, based on what I've observed) over the long haul, it seems like women do a little better with the weight loss than men. So... while they may start out going gangbusters, when the going gets a little tougher, I think we women may be a little better at the calorie counting and sticking with it. I could be totally wrong... but that's what I tell myself, and it makes me feel better.

SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (253,367)
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4/3/14 5:05 A

Statistically, men manage to lose weight at a faster rate than women do.

Don't be disheartened that he is losing weight faster - don't let it become a competition. Instead, focus on eating healthily, within your ranges, and get exercise. Then the weight will come off - even if it is slowly, you are still succeeding, and as a side benefit, you will be less likely to get saggy, baggy skin and be more likely to keep the weight off, than if you lost it quickly. Be guided by how your clothes fit; your general energy levels; your level of fitness; the condition of your hair/skin; the quality of your sleep; your improved BP; and your improved blood results, if they were problematic.

It took me 16 months to lose the first 50lb. Had I given up by putting it in the 'too hard' basket at the beginning, odds are I would have been even heavier than my starting weight, which was a little bit heavier than what is showing in my ticker. As it is, I have been maintaining for 3 years. THAT is success!

Good luck,

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 4/3/2014 (05:05)
LUANN_IN_PA Posts: 26,670
4/2/14 6:20 P

"Has anyone else overcome this?"

Unfortunately, you cannot. Men have more muscles and lose weight quicker.

HERBICIDE SparkPoints: (16,402)
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4/2/14 4:31 P

I agree with JLK, don't let his success discourage you or undermine yours! But I have to offer my solidarity here, my boyfriend joined SparkPeople at the same time I did because he was really busy and hadn't been eating enough and had lost weight. He set his goal to gain it back and has been eating a bunch and he somehow has only managed to LOSE 2 pounds. IT'S NOT FAIR!! emoticon

LEC358 SparkPoints: (11,135)
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4/2/14 4:16 P

I'm in the same boat except that we have the same goal weight and he is trying to *gain* to his! emoticon

Men and women handle weight/gain loss much differently. Guys can gain muscle mass without too much effort and we're stuck straining just to lose a single pound. My BF and I don't focus on weight as much as gains in strength or a new healthy recipe that we want to try next time we're together.

Keep it going!

JLKCAMPER SparkPoints: (26,178)
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4/2/14 12:43 P

That commercial is funny, but also unfortunately true for many couples (myself included). Every person is different, and therefore will lose weight differently. Try not to compare your weight loss to his.

You've lost almost 10 lbs & that's awesome! I know it's frustrating (my husband is the same way) but try to focus only on YOUR success. It really frustrated me, until I quit comparing my progress to his, and tried to focus more on myself.

It's great you're both in this together, but it's not a competition...unless you've made it one. emoticon And in that case, try comparing percentage lost per person, not pound-for-pound per person.

Keep up the great work! emoticon

Edited by: JLKCAMPER at: 4/2/2014 (12:44)
DOTTYANNE93 Posts: 17
4/2/14 10:01 A

My long term boyfriend and I started a diet and exercise plan at the same time a few weeks ago and he's already lost almost 30 lbs!
I know, I've seen the Slim Quick commercial where the couple start a diet and the guy slims down completely and the girl's boobs shrink. That's hilarious as a cartoon, but it's real!!! And it's super discouraging and I feel a lot of pressure to catch up.
Has anyone else overcome this? How do you stay positive?

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