UGH! It is annoying for so many reasons, and it's easy to tell some people and not so easy to tell others. Hopefully you can find a way to do it without hurting her feelings. I, personally, would want to be told. Then, I can make a decision to either change it or leave as is and hope the people around me can just accept it. It is a really hard habit to break. I've been telling my 21-year-old since she was a baby, and I still catch her doing it at times.
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644 11/6/12 2:53 P
I normally say, "that (insert food here) sounds good" with emphasis on the "sounds" I always laugh a little and I've got away with it so far. It usually gets them to take notice and chew with their mouths closed,at least for a short while!
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925 11/6/12 1:04 P
It's really annoying to me, I get on my sister about it a lot. I don't want to sit across from someone and see it let alone have them start talking and things fly out...(it's happened)
However...I can vouch that once a friend told me to chew with my mouth closed because it was "loud"...I WAS lol she was not looking at me while I snacked on chips..she felt really bad for opening her mouth and making the rude statement.
As of today I have to chew with mouth open on anything other than soft food because of a dental situation that has had me in pain for a week...dental said NOT to chew with front or right side at all for two weeks until he sees me again so I am eating alone in my office or eating soft foods around others lol. Because even just using left side, I am not used to it and we don't want right side teeth hitting each other if we can help it. I am not giving up my apples just because I can't chew them more politely lol
I would ask myself, "Has this person always done this? Were they raised this way, or is it a change?" If somebody starts chewing with their mouth open in adulthood, it could be a sign of breathing issues or dental problems that they're not even fully aware of. If this loved one is somebody who "should have been raised better," then I would approach it by asking them if they've had a good checkup recently, "because I noticed that you seem to be having some trouble chewing and eating, and that can be a sign of problems. Maybe it wouldn't hurt to go see a Nose, Ear, and Throat doctor."
Changing it up a bit here I also cannot stand TOO much prim and proper. The ones who cut every little thing even up, even a little finger sandwich. Oh I so could not date someone like that, this is usually women so no worries for me since I'm straight and married, but even to dine with someone like that can be nerve racking. It is so annoying when all the dinner party is done and have been sipping wine or water for a while and that one person still has a full plate as they are busy cutting away.
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11/3/12 11:45 A
Yes please tell her in private when she is in a good mood! Or you could do it yourself when you two are eating together; if she says anything to you, the door is wide open for comments.
I used to have a good friend who did that, notice the past tense
11/3/12 11:44 A
11/3/12 10:09 A
Yeah you have to tell her. Better you than somebody else. Just be nice about it. Or send an anonymous e-mail. I'm kidding. I can't stand when people smack or chew with their mouth open. My husband will smack sometimes (but it seems like we are always alone) and I say, "your smacking" and he says, "god you are so obsessive", and I say, " I know. But you are still smacking". And it stops.
I agree, it has to be done "gently" but first I need to make sure I find out what I do that may annoy her (although her mouth chewing doesn't annoy me but I am worried about what others will think of her).
In other words, I have to re-build my house and not make it out of glass this time....
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434 11/3/12 8:20 A
One of the most annoying things in life! My husband doesn't chew with his mouth open and smack his lips - thankfully, BUT... he either inhales as he puts softer foods in his mouth, or else forcefully crunches into things like carrrots, apples, chips (which go in by the handfuls, and he chews his gum with his front teeth.. and chews hard and fast (looks like an obsessed animal). I have told him different times about all three, tried doing it gently, as his feelings get hurt easily (though it comes out more as anger)... he'll do better for about a day or two, and then is right back to it. Now if I say anything he definitely sees it as nagging. Some days it can drive me almost insane. There are times I can hardly stand to be in the same room with him when he has anything in his mouth. Thing is, he didn't always do these things, but I'm thinking it was because I was so constantly harping at our kids to use good table manners, but now that we are empty-nesters, those good manners of his are virtually non-exisistent!! (Can anyone tell that this question was a hot button for me?? =)
11/3/12 8:03 A
I don't have an open mouth chewer but a full mouth talker. It drives me crazy.
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71,320 11/3/12 5:40 A
I am lucky nobody does that
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71,320 11/3/12 5:39 A
I am lucky nobody does that
11/3/12 4:14 A
does my bin in!
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16,717 11/3/12 4:01 A
OMG, I have a friend like that and it drives me crazy.
Definitely deal with it in private and express your concerns that it could hurt her socially and professionally. If it persists, you could try discretely filming it sometime with a smart phone and letting her see just how off-putting it is. You can also decline invitations to dine together - and let her know why (but, again, privately).
It's a tough situation - good luck!
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274 11/2/12 5:06 P
The best you can do is pull her aside and let her know it's a tad...bothersome. HELLENACKERMAN has the right idea.
I think the polite way to do it is in private and as gently as possible. If you just bust it out in the middle of the restaurant that might hurt her feelings.
11/2/12 3:27 P
my ex-brother in law told my ex-husband that he stunk really bad. My ex-husband didn't talk to my ex-brother in law for a whole month after that. It really hurt his feelings, but sometimes you just have to tell people. They will get over it in time.
My sister and her husband brought a couple over to my party that are friends with them. The male friend is a pig, he is hoggish and eats like a sow. It is even worse then I seen. My sister says he gulps his food down before anyone even puts a dent into their plate when they go out, that her husband finally said "Good God are you starving" to him. I loved that he did that. Plus this guy eats with his front teeth, (who does that, he has his side teeth),and then talks with food all over them. He is no longer invited over here. Last party I gave my sis wanted to know if they were invited too. I told her no that I had to keep expense down. At the party he came to of mine he filled his plate twice with just fried chicken and nothing else, that is so rude! A hog! A pig! A disgusting it!
We are friends with a couple and the husband does that. I had no idea for the longest time because we never eat with them, but we went to dinner with them and I sat across from him and it was awful! I will make sure to sit next to him the next time we eat out together. But I wouldn't say anything... I'm sure at his age if he hasn't stopped, he's not going to.
11/2/12 2:38 P
I think that your significant other needs to be told. Hopefully, you can find a way to tell her so her feelings won't get hurt, but, even if she ends up with hurt feelings, I think it's important that she know. While you worry that someone else may say something to her, this may or may not ever happen. BUT, this habit is definitely being noticed by people and it will influence the opinions of many. It could even influence potential (or current) employers to either not hire her or to not promote her.
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11/2/12 1:57 P
I would maybe comment about it in a subtle jokingly way so that it doesn't hurt them!
I have a loved one who chews her food with her mouth open therefore making that lip smacking sound. Ugh,.......I have plentyof faults of my own so I don't want to say anything to this person but when they re out in public I worry that others will chime in and maybe not with kind words.