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ANINHA12 SparkPoints: (9,879)
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5/15/11 3:11 P

i´m sorry for your loss... this happens, it´s def not because of something you did, nor because of your age... your post made me cry... good luck to go through this... and you´re right to feel blessed to have had your christian...

WRITEFROMHOME SparkPoints: (21,466)
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5/8/11 12:16 A

So sorry to hear of your loss. I, too, lost a baby very early in pregnancy after trying for a few years and I did become pregnant again. I was younger but I don't think age matters as much these days as it used to.

All the best to you in your decisions for the future, whether you may now decide to try again or not. You are in God's hands if you place yourself there. May he bless you and your husband in many wonderful ways.

JO88BAKO SparkPoints: (317,327)
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5/8/11 12:06 A

I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a child, no matter what the age is heartbreaking. I know. I feel your loss. God bless you.

JANIEWWJD SparkPoints: (577,728)
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5/7/11 11:38 P

I had my one and only child, a girl, at the age of 35. It was a wonderful experience!! Good luck to you and may God bless you!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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5/7/11 11:10 P

RDYNow, I'm sorry for your loss - and the time that you spent concerned for your little angel. 22 years ago I had a miscarriage at 10+ weeks. Since then, it took 7 years after the miscarriage but I've had two healthy, wonderful children but I have always mourned my 'little boy'...I never named him but I gave him back to God about 7-8 years ago when my children were young. I'm SO glad that you have named him and seem to be mourning the loss of this life. I pray that you find peace in this situation and greater faith in God. He will heal your heart. Blessings to you on this journey of health and fitness...and blessings to you and your husband as you mourn what might have been. Tomorrow may be a hard day for you, pls be gentle with yourself and know that I'm thinking of you. Karen

5/7/11 10:58 P

I am so very sorry for your loss, but glad you have had so many Spark friends reach out. I agree, Christian is a beautiful name!

HEALTHY14REAL Posts: 2,549
5/7/11 7:43 P

So sorry for your loss. Am glad that you have the Lord to keep you going through this.

FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,868
5/7/11 2:52 P

very sorry for ur loss.... u know miscarriages are very common, but it doesn't mean they don't hurt and my heart is heavy for u and ur husband! it's nothing u did, things just happen...
i wish u all the best in life! emoticon

5/7/11 12:20 P

Thank you for posting again. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope this all works out for the best in your life. Good luck

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5/7/11 10:45 A

I am so sorry for your loss. I was lucky enough to not have to go through this, but have a very close friend that did. It can be a very trying time, but if you continue to put your trust in the Lord you will be just fine.

Christian is a beautiful name.

You are in my thoughts and prayers. emoticon

RDYNOW Posts: 511
5/7/11 10:28 A

Hello friends,

I just wanted to update my post today. Also, to thank all of you who came and gave me support. It seems like this week has been the one of the longest of my life. With a heavey heart I am sad to say that our baby did miscarry. Some people may not understand this but in a small way I am at the very least happy to have had at least a second in time of knowing that I had a very tiny living being inside of me. I was at five weeks and already deeply in love with our little angel. I didnt realize that until they were gone. I decided that even though I did not ever get to hold our baby I didnt want to refer to it as it or baby. Our little angels name is Christian. I know that that sweet spirit now is in the loving arms of our Lord so that gives me a bit of peace. I feel so very very blessed that certain people and you know who you are were put in my path during this time. I do want to offer a very deep felt thank you to one of my new friends Dwan. You are a very special person I greatly appreciate all of what you have done for me as a stranger in need. May the Lord bless you and your family on this very special weekend.

There is no way of knowing why these things happen but I am greatful for my faith in Christ for it is He that will carry us through this. Just on a side note I feel a little different as now my eyes see all creatures as someones baby.

Love you all and pray that you too will reach out to Him in your time of need.

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5/5/11 12:46 P

I would call the office back and ask questions...ALWAYS best to get information straight from the horses mouth.

JOANIEBUG46 Posts: 4,214
5/5/11 10:34 A

Take a deep breath . . . you will soon find out. There can be many reasons for this, and unfortunately, you cannot find out instantly, but you will and you will do beautifully with it.
Hang in there!!!

5/5/11 10:23 A

Whatever you do stop worrying. That isn't going to help anything at all. Good luck to you!

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5/5/11 9:20 A

My mother had my little brother at 40 (10 years after me).. You can do it! Congratulations!

BAYSIDE07 Posts: 7,534
5/5/11 9:19 A

As others have said. age 41 is not so old for a baby these days. Good luck.

ANINHA12 SparkPoints: (9,879)
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5/5/11 7:33 A

well, first of, the age is not a problem, it is so normal to have kids after 40 today. my mom even had twins (me and my brother) without any treatment, at age 40.

it is normal to worry, cause they called you telling you ou should come in soon, but then again there is nothing you can do about it until you talk to them, try to stay calm. for now, just eat very healthy stuff, having all your nutrients (tracking them on here will help you) and exercise (low impact).

and like someone else said, it never seems a right time to be a parent, but once you get pregnant your instinct will help you figure out what to do!

good luck!!!! :D and congrats!!!

KATHAKU Posts: 1,156
5/4/11 1:12 P

I can't help you, but I'd say just relax and take it one day at a time. Worrying doesn't help anything! Call a nurse and ask, they're pretty nice about answer questions.

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5/4/11 1:02 P

If you are indeed 8-10 days late, a beta hCG level of 14 doesn't sound promising. After ovulation, it takes approximately 7-10 days for implantation to occur, which is when hCG starts being produced by the embryo. After implantation occurs, hCG begins to increase (usually doubling), with the average doubling time being around every 48 hours. Most women will get a positive pregnancy test by 14 days after ovulation. If your dates are correct, your hCG level should be around 1,000 by now.

However, there are several factors that could cause you to ovulate later than normal, so this could possibly just be an early pregnancy. I'm praying this is the case with you. Another blood draw (though preferrably more than 1) at least 48 hours from the first will show if your levels are increasing as they should. Lots of hugs to you.

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5/4/11 12:35 P not to make you worry but if they are talking about a 14 "quantitative hcg" result then that is low (meaning borderline pregnant) and is the reason they want to make sure the pregnancy is viable....that being said...there are other concurrent things that could cause you to have a spike in hcg levels and your body act as if you are pregnant...I'm sure your doctor will go through everything with you. My 1st pregnancy at age 30 was an ectopic pregnancy and in a case of an ectopic (tubal pregnancy) you could have low levels, too...and an ectopic pregnancy is NOT a viable pregnancy.

I am a women's health research nurse and I don't want to cause you to worry....if you are 8-10 days "late" then you would expect to see the hcg levels in the thousands and not at 14...BUT that being said...I don't know what unit of measure they are using....

Good luck and my prayers are with you...I know that no matter whether you were trying to conceive or not the loss of a pregnancy (if that is what happens) is never easy... If you have any questions please don't hesitate to send me a private message....

SWEETSUGAR7 Posts: 2,450
5/4/11 12:32 P


I would call a nurse or nurse line and ask what a level 14 is?
I wouldn't worry to much about it if they are going to see you in a few days. You are early right now and I think just eating good foods and keeping up with your exercise routine is a good idea. Walking.

Well 41 is not that old for getting pregnant anymore. If you are healthy I would just go with the flow.

I hope it is a welcome pregnancy...It never seems to be the right time for kids but once your a parent you will be glad to get the experience.

Hang in there and try not to stress. It is not good for you or the baby.

Edited by: SWEETSUGAR7 at: 5/4/2011 (12:32)
RICCILYNN Posts: 2,454
5/4/11 12:22 P

Be happy that they want you in so soon. In February I for the first time in my life (age 40) had a positive pregnancy test, had it confirmed at my GP's office and then called a new GYN because I hadn't had one in years... they couldn't fit me in for over 2 weeks... well, the day I went in for that first appointment I was in the middle of a miscarriage. Part of me wonders if they had bothered to get me in sooner if it would have turned out differently. Best of luck to you!

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5/4/11 11:55 A

Don't panic, you will have to checked by the doctor and be examined anyway to physically find out how far you are.. Try not to worry unless the doctors says worry..

Edited by: REDSHOES2011 at: 5/4/2011 (11:56)
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5/4/11 11:47 A

Sorry I'm not going to be much help to you because I don't have any answers for you.

I just wanted to wish you luck, being pregnant was the most beautiful experience of my life. I hope you feel all the joy I did and more.

Good luck to you!!

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5/4/11 11:42 A

I was only 20 when I had my daughter so I didn't go through any of that. I know that the older you get the more cautious they are. A friend of mine just had a baby at 40 and at the beginning of her pregnancy they were the same way. I know it's hard but try not to get yourself nervous wondering or reading too much online. Try to relax and see what your doctor has to say. Good Luck!

RDYNOW Posts: 511
5/4/11 11:36 A

help. I have never been pregnant and here recently I missed my period which I have also never done. My husband and I have happily been married almost 19 years. We have had countless life challenges that have made us keep putting off having a family. Well here I am at 41 and I missed my period. I am officially about 8-10 days out. I have the tender breast, one day of nausea nothing bad though just a wave, and very slight cramps. My periods always come with a very heavey flow and very bad cramps. So I went down to the store yesterday to pick up a pregnancy test. Low and behold it says the word pregnant. I immediatly called my GYN whom I am embarrassed to say I have not seen in a couple of years. They fit me in immediatly to run a blood test and said they would call me in the morning to tell me the results. Well this morning the nurse calls me and says the Dr. wants me to come back Friday because they want to make sure it is a viable pregnancy. She seemed a little quick to get off the phone but I did ask her what the levels are like and she said they are around 14???? She could tell me much because they dont know what week I am in. I went on line and started reading what the levels should be at each week. Can anyone tell me did you have them say this to you after your first blood test???? I am so anxious now.

Edited by: RDYNOW at: 5/4/2011 (11:40)
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