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9/21/12 10:58 A

Try not to be too hard on yourself. My daughter has had 2 major spinal surgeries in the past 2 years and it was one of the hardest things I have ever gone through. You just do the best that you can do, don't beat yourself up if you do not stay on track. My daughter was in the hospital for 9 days for both surgeries, I stayed with her the whole time, so I was eatting hospital food all the time ~ not good when watching your calorie intake. Maybe ask people to bring you something healthy to eat when they come to visit at the hospital?? Best of luck to you and your family during this difficult time. Try to stay strong, you will make it through :)

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9/19/12 7:15 P

You do the best that you can do. But remember, our children's health and safety come first. I put mine on hold for 20 years and am now just doing great after 7 months of getting my act back together. I do think I could have done better in finding time for myself, so I don't blame my kids for my slacking off ALL those years. But I wouldn't trade it for anything knowing that I was there 100% for my kids. At no time did I ever allow myself to be in the position that "I should have been there or payed more attention to them". They come first, that's the responsibility of parenting.

HEATHOG Posts: 65
9/19/12 2:37 P

Thank you for your response! I've put out a 'save the date' for my husband's family (mine live too far away), so hopefully they will rally and help us out (they didn't help when my twins were little and I really needed assistance, so I'm not betting on it).

WHOAMI9999 Posts: 48
9/19/12 2:30 P

I've been through a couple of major surgeries with a young kid. I don't know what the doctor told you to expect with this particular type of surgery - but I hope he won't have pain for more than a few days. All kids (and types of surgeries) are different, but my experience was that the hardest part was keeping my son from being too active during the recovery period, because he was feeling fine. If he can't leave the house for awhile, make sure you have a plan for how to get groceries, take your other kids to school or wherever else they need to go, etc. - you will need help from family or friends.

As for exercise, once he is feeling well enough to be sleeping OK, can you work out either before or after he goes to bed - do you have a spouse or anyone that can watch the kids? Or anyone that can come over for a short time during the day to watch them?

If you can't get out of the house, find something you can do at home. If you don't have any exercise equipment, get a few inexpensive workout DVDs, or try some of the videos on Spark. You can even improvise - do some jumping jacks, running in place, pushups, crunches, dancing, or anything else you can think of. You can even do these while your son is engaged in watching cartoons, or doing some other quiet activity with you nearby.

HEATHOG Posts: 65
9/16/12 11:52 A

Next month my youngest son (he's 3 years old) has to undergo foot surgery. I'm incredibly worried, but I know this is for the best for him in the long run. But how the heck am I going to exercise (which helps me fight off depression) when my little guy won't even be able to walk for up to 6 weeks afterwards? I know he's going to be super needy (I would be, too, in his situation). I can't take him with me because his foot will get jostled too much. I also have twin my boys to take care of. Any ideas?

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