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RUERUECHIKA SparkPoints: (99,497)
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1/30/12 10:14 P

Just remembering where I've come from and why I don't wanna go back there.

SWEETSUGAR7 Posts: 2,450
1/30/12 7:05 P

Decide where you will feel comfortable. At home or outside or a local gym. Cost is a good thing to check also what is the best for your buck.

Also do they have someone that can help you with what you need. Like what to eat and what to work on for yourself.

Do you do best in classes or alone. Once you get started and get a schedule it should come easier to you. You may even check where your friends or co workers go. Or see if your work has a discount with a company.

Going through stuff at home and freeing up space and cleaning house could help also. Room by room. Start over and get out and do things you like.

The more time you free up the better chances you have on focusing on you.

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1/30/12 6:28 P

Sometimes I just have to do things day by day.

I was focused and on task for 3 years and lost 125 pounds.

I started focusing on others and have gained 80 pounds in 2 years.

I am working on balance now so that I can focus on myself long enough to at least try to eat the right things.

Be willing to make changes. Pay attention to what you are doing when you eat. Stop saying "I can't" and say "I can and I will"

128PERFECT Posts: 3,026
1/30/12 4:41 P

I just try to remember I feel so much better when I workout and eat right.

1/30/12 4:11 P

I am the person who always helps other people create their dreams. I have helped companies make lots of money, helped other people find the courage to do what they love, etc. Like you, I have always had a weight challenge, except mine didn't start until I was 9.

Over my life, I have learned from helping others how to help myself. I am really good at being able to 'plug-in' to the best part of a person and to 'energize' that part of them so they can be that in the world. I also noticed that most people don't like to do what they need to do to get where they want to be, but if you can get them focused on what they enjoy right now, then things change permanently bit by bit.

In September 2010, I decided that I wanted to do for myself what I've helped all my clients do! From there, I've enjoyed a fun adventure of moving from one new experience to another. I've lost nearly 40 pounds and many other things have come together in a magical way.

When you ask 'how do I...' the most important thing to remember is that when you are in the 'how' then you are in the intellectual mind. The mind wants to know the 'info' of what to 'do,' but inspiration/motivation are not found in the mind...they are found in the heart. When you focus on what you enjoy/love, then the 'how' takes care of itself.

Let me share an example:

My dog LOVES to go for walks. I used to LOVE to workout when I was younger, but for some reason, I really didn't feel like it when I 'committed' to getting back in shape. I would 'do' it, but it was only because I said I would do it (the mind)...not because I wanted to or felt inspired to (the heart). Everyday, I would force myself to go for a walk. I knew from working with clients that this would only be sustainable for so long (the reason most people fail is that they are TRYING to make BIG CHANGES at this level of 'will' power), but I didn't know WHY I didn't WANT to go for a walk. I identified what 'wasn't working' - forcing myself to DO something I NEEDED to do. That's the first step. Then, I thought about what I WANTED. What I wanted is to feel GOOD about walking each day. I wanted to wake up and feel GOOD about moving in my body. The next morning, I woke up and felt different when I went for a walk. Instead of focusing on a walk as 'exercise I HAD to do to get to a goal' (the mind), all of a sudden, I started to have FUN walking. I enjoyed how the sun felt on my skin and I could REALLY feel the joy my dog was having walking. Soon, I felt the same way he did! And, NOW, I walk and ENJOY the pleasure of the walk.

The 'click' that most people are talking about is in their hearts. No one has enough 'mind energy' to keep themselves WILLED to accomplish something. The inspiration must come from within, and when it does, there's an ease that accompanies it.

Now, having said all of that, here's the 'secret' behind most success...this is what my clients pay me thousands to share with them. I want to share it with you.

It is this. Who are you inside your mind? What do you 'picture' when you think of 'who' you are?

Whatever that 'picture' is ... will be what you create in your life. That's just how the subconscious mind works.

AND, the GREAT NEWS is this! You can CHANGE your whole self-image in just minutes each day.

Here's how to 'do' it. :)

Step 1 - Imagine the BEST 'you' you can picture. Really 'see' in your imagination the BEST you...what you look like, how you act, how you talk...where you live, what you do with your life. Just imagine that and let your mind 'show' you what is inside of you.

Step 2 - Now, think about how you think of yourself currently. How you picture yourself right now. This will show you what you are 'unconsciously' creating without 'willing' yourself to create something different. This is the answer to 'why' you keep stopping/starting. Isn't the mind so funny?

Step 3 - MERGE the 'current' you picture into the BEST you picture and step INTO being your VERY BEST.

Step 4 - Spend some time in your BEST. Look at what you do from this place...what do you eat, how do you exercise, what are you inspired to do?

Step 5 - Feel how you feel in this place. Notice your entire body and how you feel. Let that feeling get bigger so that it is as big as your house and just 'be' in your very best. Really let this feeling wrap you in the love you truly are.

Do this in the morning before you get out of bed and then do it before you go to sleep. This seemingly SIMPLE thing will change and alter what you 'do' in your waking hours because what you 'see' yourself as inside is what you 'do' in your actions.

This is beyond WILLING yourself to do something. This is energized from within.

And, remember, like my example...anything you DON'T like, you can quickly flip it by determining what you DO like and want!

Plus, always remember you can ask for Divine help...I've kicked many addictions by asking for divine intervention! That is probably the 'easiest'...everyone is different, but just know that if you TRULY want to change, YOU totally can!

Best to you on your journey. :)



MOM2ACAT SparkPoints: (190,535)
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1/30/12 3:58 P

I am living with stage IV breast cancer; I know that healthy eating and exercise won't save my life, but it will make the quality of my life better; I want to feel the best I can so that I can try to enjoy the time I have left.

THINJIM1 Posts: 3,030
1/30/12 3:18 P

I thought that when I started having medical problems it would be easy to talk myself into eating and exercising properly, but no I had to work hard motivating myself. I kept telling myself if you keep doing eventually it will be easier. After a while I found my shopping became a healthy routine, exercise was not a burden, and smaller portions became enough to overcome the need for more.

TKISNER Posts: 493
1/30/12 2:54 P

I used to struggle with finding my motivation but not anymore. What's changed? I no longer do exercise I hate. I strength train and I'm more focused on my lifts. My goals are lift related as well as body related. Ex. I will do a pullup, I will squat 1.5x my bodyweight, etc...

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1/30/12 2:01 P

Losing weight for health/fitness is my motivator. It takes discipline, but over time new habits are formed. I find when I deviate from eating kids had some Bugles & I ate some (too many) the next day I swelled up due to salt content. The junk food does take a toll on the body and it isn't worth it. Feel better eating healthy. Feel lighter keeping the calories down.


MARITIMER3 SparkPoints: (216,039)
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1/30/12 1:30 P

I joined SP just over a year ago because my son was getting married in 4 months and I was going to see my ex-husband for the first time in several years. I lost pounds, and sizes, before the wedding and was pleased... but wanted to lose more so kept at it... I'm still here. It hasn't been easy and it hasn't been all smooth sailing, but I've learned a lot and believe that this year I will reach my goal weight. (20 lbs. to go).

TOTALPACKAGE12 SparkPoints: (15,326)
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1/30/12 1:03 P

It's mind of matter. You need mind control. This isn't easy. Keep in mind if you do any method there is maintenance. If you do the lap band, gasteric, or HCG anyone of them will require that you change your diet.

Start small start changing the way you eat. It doesnt have to be absolute healthy 100% but a larger percentage should be healthy. You have your daughter to live for. Take some time to really decide what you want and how you want to go about doing it. You might need to speak with someone. This journey is difficult. Most addictions are a manifestation of other things going on or past things that happen in our lives. Start journaling about your life and start identifying the different changes in your life. Go from there and then determined that you want to be free from the hold that overeating is having on you.

Good Luck!

ODIEJO2 Posts: 1,179
1/30/12 12:50 P

Just the fact that I wake up and workout, make better choices for myself and feel better is motivation enough for me. Sometimes I might slip but it feels so good to get back on track again. I love sparkpeople and it in itself offer much motivation.

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1/30/12 12:44 P

I'm not sure if I'm one of the people who woke up one morning and something "clicked". I have been on this website for three weeks. I can honestly say emoticon and all of its tools. Seeing my fitness points adding up and spark point trophies really does motivate me. For example, I really didn't feel like working out today but then saw I only needed to 29 minutes to get my 500 fitness minutes in a month and that was enough to get me off my butt! I also am sooo motivated by the feeling of accomplishment that I get from taking the time and doing something that I know is good for my body as well as my mind and spirit. I still have to wake up every morning and find my motivation, whether it be a goal that I'm closing in on, a spark success story, an encouraging blog, looser pants, or even an obstacle that needs to be taken down. This time around its not just about losing weight but gaining control of health and confidence in my abilities to reach goals in weight loss and in life! Good luck to you and keep using spark to find what works for you! I think the fact that you reached out to the community for advice is pretty motivational emoticon

DMR023 SparkPoints: (6,712)
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1/30/12 12:33 P

I've been in the position where I say to myself "Ok, today is the day that I'm going to start living healthier" I try for a while, and then slide back into old habits.

This time, having SparkPeople here as a resource, I feel like there's no turning back. I've gotten myself into the habit of tracking my calories, exercise and water. I'm feeling more energetic and healthier already, so that definitely helps. I'm extremely motivated by reading other people's success stories and looking at their transformation pictures, which serves as a reminder to me that I can do it.

Also, I last night I watched the documentary "Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead" (you can watch it for free on and it really put some things into perspective for me. If you haven't seen it - I highly recommend checking it out (especially if you're having a rough made me feel very hopeful about the changes that I've made so far).

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1/30/12 11:53 A

My hugs to you. This is a hard path. When food has become something besides fuel for your body it makes it hard to shake the old habits of comfort and loathing related to food. I have been in the same boat. I have lost weight only to gain it back many a times. What is different for me this time is that I found SP! At first, I didn't know it would be the difference for me so how pleasantly surprised I was when I realized how much easier this was all getting each day.

I have found motivation in tracking. Tracking food, exercise, water, etc. By reading the motivational posts of all the other members, You are not alone! There are literally thousands of people on this journey with you. They are struggling, losing, gaining, staying on track, falling off the wagon just like you! The biggest thing is to keep on tracking. Keep on trying new things; food, exercise, etc. Read the articles about nutrition, exercise, etc. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Focus on each day, as you meet your goals day by day as you post and track you will start to feel more powerful, in control and above all a part of SP.

And give yourself a break!!! You deserve whatever you want! We are not entitled to happiness, we have to make it for ourselves! It is work for everyone to find true love and happiness with themselves. Being honest about your relationship with food and exercise is big must! Blog about it, post about it, get it all out! Do not beat yourself up, your weight is not a measure of your value as a human being. Your spirit, soul, family, etc those are the measures; you are okay and you deserve the time and energy it takes to be healthy, you deserve to run and jump and play with your children, you deserve it all! Just give yourself the space to have bad days, bad moments and allow yourself to rejoice in the good days, the good moments. We are all worthy just for the simple fact that we are here on this planet! Be forgiving to yourself.

And one last thought, I also believe that one of the reasons I'm starting to feel successful in my journey this time is because I got off the sugar. Not until I removed all refined sugar and simple carbs did I realize the horrible mood swings and depressing thoughts I was having. Living without crashes and cravings has definitely made a difference in my perceptive about myself - - which as it turns out is the most important perspective!

You can do this!

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1/30/12 11:20 A

I think it's always a struggle and always starting again, and starting immediately, not waiting for Monday, the first of the month, or next year.

I have a motivation board on Pinterest and it is my homepage so I see it first thing when I get on the computer. That has helped to remind me to keep trying.

1/30/12 11:11 A

I have failed many times but I am here trying again. I switched a few things in my life like making room for more comfortable exercise now I just need to do it. I'm going to on youtube to do the subliminal weight loss videos that are free. Good luck I know I need some.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,583
1/30/12 10:49 A

I see some of the things that my family suffers through and I know that I can keep it from happening to me.

1/30/12 10:47 A

I just remind myself that even if I don't lose weight from exercising I will not GAIN which is just as important if not more important. I'm slowly realizing that now that I'm in my 30's my body is not going to be as it was in my 20's. I'm still working on getting back into my old jeans and tone up, however, if I don't get there that's ok the main thing is I will not have to buy a bigger size this year, or the next year, because I'm watching myself closely.

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1/30/12 10:43 A

There is a lot of great advice on here! Tracking to me has been the most important. That makes me think (do I really want to eat that I will have to count that in my calories?) That really works for me! I don't get to go exercise very often but I make my everyday chores a work out, If I have to walk across the hospital to take paper work to somebody I do it fast and take the long way. Anything I can do to give me a little more exercise. I am starting a dance class tonight, finally taking some me time and getting exercise at the same time. Find little things that you like to do and track track track! I hope all works out well for you! YOU CAN DO IT!!!!

SCHMITZ84 Posts: 301
1/30/12 10:03 A

So helpful!!!

MONTREAL12 Posts: 4,191
1/30/12 9:54 A

Doing well; starting my fourth week and still with it! Yeah, we have our challenges; however, promising results so far. Need to up my physical activity; am conscious of it; now have to "Just Do it" Thanks for the post! emoticon emoticon

JASTAMPER11 SparkPoints: (57,593)
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1/30/12 9:54 A

You have to start feeling good about yourself first. Being depressed does not get you anywhere. Including out of bed. I dont go to a gym or walk. I track exercises here on Spark and do the Challenges. Seeing the points and minutes exercised is good for me. I did something.

I agree with the small goals. It has taken a good year and a hot summer for me not to eat as much of anything. I ask myself, do I need that? Why? What will it give me?

There is an article here on Spark on goal setting. It may help you.

DMJAKES Posts: 1,635
1/30/12 9:43 A

Nirerin gave you some great advice; start small and don't try to change everything at once. Don't start anything that you're unwilling/unable to do for the rest of your life.

Are you tracking your food, every day, HONESTLY? If not, I'd start there. Don't try to change anything right now, just track what you eat. Over time, you'll be able to see what changes you can make that will give you the most "bang" for the least amount of pain. For me, a HUGE eye opener was how many calories I was drinking every day. Full flavor soda and juices were not all that hard to give up, and it made a huge difference for me.

Try marching in place in front of the TV during the commercials, or whatever you can do for now. Start where you are, and go from there.

I think for some people it's ONE factor--one final straw--that makes changing their lifestyle more attractive than continuing the way they are. Something has to tip the scales for everyone, and it's going to be different for each person. Whether it's a medical issue, a picture of themselves that shatters their illusion that things "aren't that bad", or the inability to zip up a favorite pair of jeans (that was mine), something has to hit you hard enough to make it stick.

Some of the thoughts in your original post make it sound like you may be suffering from depression. Do you think that might be the case?

You can do this!

EOWYN2424 Posts: 9,108
1/30/12 9:43 A

All I know is : my belly roll is driving me crazy!!!!! it's gotten so bad that ppl have been commenting on it!

NIRERIN Posts: 14,331
1/30/12 8:42 A

there is one really big issue with not losing it the healthy way. because most of the not healthy ways are just variants of starving it off. which means that once you have starved the weight off, you only know how to eat the same way that made you gain weight in the first place. which means you put the weight right back on.

while water and paying more attention to your food is a good start, you do need to work on at least some exercise. get yourself a timer. and remind yourself how you want to play with your daughter and be there for her as she grows up. walk out your front door, start the timer and when it gets to a minute, note where you are, turn around and head back. if you can get used to to actually doing that a couple of times a week, you can start trying to make it farther in that 2 minutes it takes you to go there and back or you can only turn around after a minute and a half. and once you actually do it, the same way you choose to brush your teeth or take a shower or do anything else that you do throughout the day, you can start slowly going faster and longer. you just have to do it. tell yourself why you want it and go.
another thing you could do is walk in place while watching tv. start out by walking in place every other commercial during the break. then work it up to all commercials during the breaks. then you walk in place during your program and rest during the breaks. and you can do this with any activity really.

you've just got to want it enough to do it. and that's the click that takes place. it means that even though you don't like walking and you have medical issues [that you have checked your exercise plan over with your doctor beforehand!] and you have spent your life making excuses for how you don't like doing it and it makes you tired and sweaty and it is unpleasant and so forth you still head out for a walk. and you try get better every time you do it.

and if you're falling off after 20lbs, you're making too great of changes. you need to be making smaller changes and the kind that you can live with for longer. it's really unreasonable for most people to be able to do 180s with their diets in weeks and keep it off. if you usually eat two cups of pasta for dinner, cutting back to an actual 1/2 cup portion is going to be painful and if you rip it off like a bandaid, you're going to be craving it the whole time. if you cut back 1.75 cups as a starter for a few weeks your body isn't going to have that great of a shock to work through. once you've been at 1.75 cups long enough that it feels like a normal portion, cut back to 1.5 cups. and once you've gone through the adjustment on that amount, try 1.25 cups of pasta. and this is the point where you may want to consider adding 1/4 cup of veggies. zucchini or summer squash can be cut into noodle-like shapes and mixed in with the pasta. broccoli and cauliflower florets also mix in well. so you're still getting 1.5 cups of food, but you're having less pasta and half a serving of veggies. and from there on you can keep slightly cutting the pasta you're using and/or keep adding veggies to give the meal bulk.
and if you're making adjustments like that around the board that's what is going to teach you how to make what you like better for you. things like cutting jarred alfredo sauce with milk to bring the calorie count down; when making sauces that require 2 sticks of butter, start omitting a Tablespoon or two at a time and see how much of it you can get the recipe down to [for me it's a half stick of butter or two or three Tablespoons of olive oil]; reducing the added sugars in your diet [it makes fruit much tastier, along with eating in season fruit]; slowly bringing the portions of higher cal items down; and bulking up portions with lower cal veggies.
if you find ways to make the bad foods better, you can fit them in easier. and don't start by comparing them to some fictionalized ideal diet. just ask yourself if this time is better than it was last time and add up those small victories. don't compete with where you want to be in an idealized future, compare where you are today with where you were yesterday and the day before that and the day before that. don't sweat that you don't have a serving of fruit with four meals a day. just be happy that you have found a fruit that you like and that you have found a way to incorporate it into your diet.

and i should note that when i use the word diet, i am using the primary definition of the word, which is simply what one eats. so if you want to eat twinkies, they can be included in your diet and that happens simply by you eating them. none of the secondary definition fad diet nonsense.

BUFFEDSTUFF-- Posts: 2,520
1/30/12 12:43 A

Cyber hugs to you, you are like one in a honest woman wow,I applaud you.

TARADIVYA Posts: 840
1/30/12 12:42 A

My motivation is I don't want to be the fat girl anymore! Besides looking better & being healthy. I tried exercising from home for abt 1 year +. Not motivated enough so I joined Curves. Strength training really helps me get stronger & leaner besides helping me to lose weight - even tho it is coming off very slowly. FYI, my weight was stagnant for some time at abt 75kgs b4 going up to 77kgs while working out from home & I started having knee pain.

There are still days when I don't feel like exercersing or eating healthy & I ask myself how bad I want to reach my goal weight & remain healthy & at the end I kick my butt to go to the gym.

Very important is our mental state of mind. Just forgive yourself when you slip up & move on. Read the motivation pages on SP on how those who lost the weight & are maintaining did it. Very motivating & there are loads of info on SP - do gradual changes & never ever give up on yourself. We are all here to cheer you on!!! emoticon

FITFABME2 Posts: 3,944
1/30/12 12:35 A

Feeling as great as I do keeps me motivated to stay healthy

BANKER-CHUCK Posts: 6,781
1/30/12 12:30 A

I get my motivation from reading many article here on Spark. Also from the results of my blood test that tells me if my numbers are failing. Motivation is the most difficult for me to maintain. I have to work on it daily.

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1/30/12 12:08 A

I lost some weight, then gained it, lost it- lost enough and threw away my fat clothes......only to gain and gain and gain so much that now I can literally only wear my sweats and a pair of tailored pair of jeans that when I sit down, the pockets open up .
I was always the thinner friend. But one friend got the gastric surgery, another got a tummy tuck and another just simply lost it on weight watchers and devoted exercise. She's a size 3!
I will exercise, but I had to quit smoking to do so. Weight gain!
I started getting ground lean turkey. I make meatballs, mix it with Zatarain's dirty rice mix and season it just as I do ground beef.
I eat spinach on my pizzas and other veggies- and hold off on the meats.
I just bought the Sparkpeople cookbook because I also bought unflavored protein powder from the GNC store to really commit to protein drinks and wanted to try some of their recipes.

They say, eat naked in front of mirrors to help you from over eating.....but some of the classier restaurants don't go for that.......

PHAT_N_SASSY Posts: 614
1/29/12 10:48 P

Im just curious to know HOW you all stay motivated. HOW you decided okay, today is the day I try to lose weight. Or HOW you force yourself to go to the gym, or to go for a walk or work out in general. Or HOW you get the mind set to avoid the bad foods. How you learn to accept portion control. How you get the mind set. ANd how a lot of you have said "I just woke up one day and something "Clicked". I dont get it. I have been fighting my weight since I was a toddler and no matter what I fail. Always. I lose 20lbs or so and fall off. Im on Spark, off Spark, on Spark....How do I break this cycle? I have NOOOO motivation. Its pretty depresseing when I can look at my daughter who NEEDS her mother and yet I still let food take over. How do I learn to STOP. Its like it has complete control over me. I dont want to lose weight to look good. I could really care less. I want to lose weight so Im not huffing and puffing just playing with my daughter. I admit it. I make more excuses and the more I make the more I believe them. I have RA and I hurt a lot so...I cant exercise. Im too heavy to do anything with out getting out of breath.... The list goes on and on. Point blank. Im lazy and am not one bit interested in any healthy food. Since I dont like fruits and Going to be honest. I dont care if I do it the healthy way or not, and I know Im going to get a lot of eye rolling or humphs, but its true! I care if I do it healthy, I just want the weight gone and then to focus on maintaining. Im trying to take small steps to make changes....I am drinking the right amount of water and am being more food alert. I havent been just showing my face full of food...Im trying to use portion control. Once I get these two things down ( portion control and the water) then I can move on to something maybe trying some fruit and vegetables. Please, give me your input and let me know what you think....Even if you want to get harsh or whatever, thats fine. I need to hear it. Please and thanks.....say what you wish. I am open to ideas, suggestions an anyting else you may have to say or offer. Thank in advance!

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