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MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (32,853)
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10/1/13 10:10 A

So much focus and money goes into the wedding day, yet not enought thought goes into choosing the right spouse and making sure the marriage will last.

9/28/13 11:25 A

Wedding day

The marriage is a different topic

FIT4MEIN2013 SparkPoints: (144,741)
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9/27/13 11:31 P

A lot of focus goes into the wedding, but the most important aspect is the marriage.

KAYAHSLOANE1 Posts: 10,520
9/27/13 8:01 P

getting married to the right person is the most important thing of course. Being calm and happy is another one!

STRONGERLEANER SparkPoints: (172,241)
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9/27/13 6:47 P

Because we both have huge families and we didn't want to exclude anyone, we had a big wedding. There was lots of stress.

If I EVER get married again, I'll probably elope.

I echo the sentiment that marrying the right person is the most important thing.

BLUENOSE63 SparkPoints: (108,021)
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9/27/13 6:06 P

A sense of humour!

ATHENA-NADINE SparkPoints: (20,812)
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9/27/13 4:44 P

The only thing my husband and I cared about when we got married almost 9 years ago was getting married to each other. The entire wedding ceremony/reception was for everyone else, honestly. As soon as the ceremony was over (we got married where we had the reception), we cleared the dance floor and had the dj start the music and everyone ate, drank, danced, and had a fabulous time.

We had the dress, the bridesmaids, the tuxes, the groomsmen, the whole thing, but neither of us worried about things going wrong or anything else. We paid a bunch of people to do a job and let them do it. As far as we were concerned, our only responsibilities were to show up, marry each other, and celebrate with our loved ones. To us, it was no different than any other family reunion/party. Our relationship and life together has always been the important thing.

MANDIETERRIER1 Posts: 17,529
9/27/13 4:01 P

After picking the right spouse the next most important thing is, the food. I know a wedding where they didn't plan properly and ran out of food. That was 20 years ago, no one has forgotten.

The location. Make sure there are adequate facilities and not to much walking and stairs for your elderly and disabled guests.

KJ you should tune into Bridezillas on We TV. They take the term to a whole new level. I suspect they are always hideous and its not just the wedding that made them that way.

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9/27/13 3:43 P

an easy out clause


LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
9/27/13 3:28 P

exchanging our vows
the people who were there to share the day with us (only family and close friends)
keeping everything small, fun and affordable (only about $2,000)

None of the other stuff really mattered in the long run to me or my spouse. We were very happy with our wedding day.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,459
9/27/13 3:16 P

I change my answer.....

THE MONEY emoticon

CHEETARA79 Posts: 3,915
9/27/13 3:11 P

Celebrating your love and commitment. Make sure everyone has a good time, including the bride and groom. Yes, it's about the couple but the guests are just as important.

For me, it was all about having a meaningful ceremony, declaring my devotion and love for my husband and then having a kicka$$ party!

FEDGIRL4 Posts: 2,182
9/27/13 3:07 P

Just the wedding:

That the bride and groom have the wedding they want. Don't let anyone else dictate to you what you should want. I wore a pink wedding dress bought in a consignment shop. We got married in Unitarian church by a baptist (or Lutheran?) minister. I found our photographer in the phone book. The flowers were simple and cheap(er). We had our reception at my father-in-law's. We rented a park for the party the next day, bought 2 quarter kegs of beer. My hubby knew someone who would provide crabs and shrimp at cut rate price. My Mom bought the wedding cake.

And our honeymoon was a month later. My aunt/uncle owned a condo at Hilton Head and new wedded family couples stay free for a week, provided you clean up.

We've been married 21 years and people still talk about how much fun they had.

LOVE4KITTIES Posts: 4,690
9/27/13 1:18 P

IMO, there is not much that's important about the wedding day. The marriage is what's important. I think that way too many people place way too much importance on the wedding and they spend way too much money. It's just a party and it only lasts a few hours.

Bridezillas and groomzillas... Their weddings never make them happy because nothing is ever good enough and their marriages probably don't make them happy, either.

SUZIEQUE77 SparkPoints: (9,271)
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9/27/13 12:27 P

The most important part is showing up, and sincerely wanting to be there (I think some don't really meet that criteria).

I am not impressed with Bridezilla types at all. I enjoy weddings that are traditional with good music, dancing, good food and fun. But having planned some of my children's weddings and my own two wedding plus a vow renewal, I know that you can have a very nice and mostly traditional celebration with a full reception for a far more reasonable cost that many feel they "must" spend. I have no sympathy for those who borrow money for a lavish wedding they cannot afford.

I have a tendency to think that the Bridezillas that are really that selfish and materialistic, are likely that way in other aspects of life.

But even of brides that are not to the point of being a bridezilla sometimes mess up with their ideas of perfection. For example, my step-daughter somehow messed up with plans with her hair dresser and the timing of things. There was plenty of blame to go around from the groom not helping enough with their baby son at the time, and other matters but to me, she has very pretty, long hair that needed no styling. I know if I had been in her shoes, rather than be an hour late for my own wedding, I would have combed my beautiful (describing hers, not mine!) long dark hair staight, put the veil on, and I'd have been on time. Can you imagine anyone offering criticism years later because she wore her hair long and straight? I would image most would think she planned it that way, and would probably admire how beautiful it was.

But she was an hour late and that caused a lot of restless people and griping. It also threw off the timing for reception events with dinner and the band. I'd like to think if in her shoes I would have just told the hair dresser to forget it, and I'd have been on my way. But I know it is a stressful (but exciting) day and I have to admit I have not always done my best thinking and decision making when under that kind of stress, so maybe I would have done the same thing she did. In retrospect, I truly believe being late for your own wedding sets a bad tone and puts a damper on things and that is something I would definitely want to avoid.

HAPPYCPA1965 SparkPoints: (344,394)
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9/27/13 11:45 A

Having recently attended a lot of weddings this past summer one thing I noticed is that an overbearing photographer can actually detract from the joy and splendor of the true meaning of the day.

LADYCJM SparkPoints: (57,456)
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9/27/13 11:43 A

Marrying the right person is the most important thing!

After that, I think keeping a sense of humor is important.

And yes, I think there are Bridezillas and Groomzillas. Too much importance is placed on small things and that they are the one and only important thing in the world.

I think one of the reasons some brides go nuts is the groom is uninvolved. Just showing up isn't enough. If one person is trying to do everything and trying to make the day perfect and make every one happy the stress becomes overwhelming.

EMPRESSAMQ Posts: 5,077
9/27/13 9:55 A

The most important aspect, IMO, is that one is marrying the right person.

CJGODESS101 SparkPoints: (30,781)
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9/27/13 8:59 A

Most brides stress easily to make sure everything is perfect. I wanted the least stressful day so I planned ahead for everything I could think of. I also had a very supportive and helpful hubby to be. Make sure the people in your wedding are reliable and know their roles. Who has the rings, how am I eating and when, is everyone there. I thought of just about everything, and it was a stress free day. Most importantly, I included my hubby and his family in the preparations.

PARKSCANADA Posts: 4,802
9/27/13 8:49 A

marriage is a celebration, so it should be a joyous occasion for the couple and their guests

9/27/13 8:18 A

the actual ceremony where you pledge yourselves to each other

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,459
9/27/13 8:16 A

to me the 3 important things are
that the happy couple has a great time
that everyone enjoys themselves (seating arrangements)
that the music is good but that people can still hear each other

some of the best weddings are elopements

9/27/13 6:44 A

The ONLY important aspect is choosing the right spouse. Everything else is soon forgotten, but you'll have to live with your choice

9/27/13 6:25 A

In your opinion, what are and/or were the most important parts of the wedding day (yours or someone else's)?

For me (a guy) it was showing up on time.

Also, are there really women who deserve the title "Bridezilla"? I think every one has a right to make sure an important day should go the way they want it to go and some folks are a bit more intense than others, right?


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