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10/14/12 7:43 P

I really feel your pain! I look at my friends that seem to have endless energy and wonder why I seem to struggle just to get basic things done. What is their secret??

I am trying to get restarted right now too. We can do this!

DIANE7786 Posts: 5,071
10/14/12 6:04 P

Don’t be so hard on yourself. Make a list of all you’ve accomplished. Read it when you feel overwhelmed. There was probably a class or two you thought was impossible and then it was okay. Transitions are part of normal life and they are seldom easy.

Training is stressful until we learn the new information. Your trainer wants to have lunch with you because she likes you. That’s a good thing. A healthy lunch improves energy. Many restaurants have on-line menus. Know what you will order before you enter the restaurant.

Batch cooking saves me. I plan my menu and make my grocery list on Thurs and shop on Friday. It would be good if someone could watch your son for about three hours on Saturday morning so you can cook without interruption. The kitchen is a mess one day a week. I put everything in 1/2 or 1 cup freezer containers. Three days of food goes in the fridge and the rest in the freezer. I even put foods like cottage cheese and jello in individual containers. Food stays fresher in small containers that are opened once. At breakfast and dinner you can grab several choices to heat and serve within minutes. Cleanup is quick. You’ll have a few hours each night to enjoy your child while doing one load of laundry and one task like dusting and vacuuming one room. Everyone needs rest so try to keep Sunday free for relaxing with family and friends. A few weeks after training ends you will be in a new routine and your life will seem easier.

BRITOMART Posts: 8,305
10/14/12 9:08 A

Sugarchic, first, take a DEEP BREATH. It's always easier to think when you have oxygen. Seriously...I'm not kidding.

Coping with stress is a lot like learning to lose weight: if you try to do it all at once, it's very discouraging and overwhelming. Take it in small pieces. To do that, step back from your daily routine for a few minutes. What can change? what simply can't? (and don't believe that second category because quite often things that seem written in stone CAN change, but you need to think outside the box, or even redesign the box--but that comes later).

Just like with your weight loss, make one simple change in your lifestyle--doesn't matter what. Maybe find a grocery on your way to/from work, and do a tiny bit of shopping each day rather than all at once. It doesn't matter what the change is, the point is to find the stress points and to make them more flexible.

As far as've had wonderful suggestions. When my job gets out of control (about 3 of every 10 weeks, I've discovered) I go to my stress plan: no elevators, park at the other end of the world, like a pp suggested, strength exercises in the office or the ladies'--and that's my exercise till things settle. I clear the house of temptations--not permanently, but till the tide rolls out again. With a new job, it's harder because you don't know the patterns yet, so ride it--AND YOURSELF--easily.

I want to close with a quote I just received myself: "Take care of yourself; you never know when the world is going to need your help."

I wish you success.

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10/14/12 6:43 A


It sounds like you're experiencing some overwhelming emotions as a result of the change in your career. Don't beat yourself up because you've been eating emotionally. this is something that has happened to every single member of Spark People at one time or another. You don't lack will power. You're not out of control and you're not Wonder Woman either. There really is only so much you can do.

It takes some practice and experimentation, but you just need to learn how to schedule your time more efficiently. Juggling family and a career isn't easy, but it's not impossible either. Once you've adjusted to your new job (and that does take time), you will find ways to keep everything in order. Let's why you might consider a schedule. Write down all the things you need to do and allot time to each of those things. Does it mean there may be days you don't get everything done ? Yes, we all have those days. Set your priorities. what is the most important thing that needs to be done first. Then go down the list.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others. Because you are under an unusual amount of stress, now is the time you really do have to take care of yourself. Too much stress is no good. I'm a firm believer that if a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. Do your best to eat right and watch your portions. But don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.


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10/14/12 4:16 A

First I want to congratulate you on a fantastic job losing that weight. That is NO mean fete!

You are in a new job situation and I understand the stress. I also understand that you are letting this other girl influence your choices - I would be inclined to tell her that you can/will only eat out once a week and the rest of the time take your own healthy lunches.

Am I correct in thinking that you are a solo mum? If so, this would make it harder for you because you don't have a partner to share the work-load and child-caring with. IF you DO have a partner at home, then does he help you at all? do you get any time for yourself to do what YOU want to do? Blob out and relax, take a long relaxing bubble bath, visit a spa or whatever? We all need to have this time for ourselves, so hopefully you have someone who can care for your little guy on a regular basis to allow this.

Sometimes it is a matter of sitting down with pen and paper and writing a list of ALL that you do. Then go through it and make THREE lists out of what you have on paper. The first are the things that NEED to be done - the second list the things that only need doing SOMEtimes and the third list the things that really don't matter if you don't do them.

If motivation to do these things is a problem, then work on just one or two things. It might be going and getting a week's worth of groceries, ensuring that the bulk of it is healthy - plenty of fruit/veges, and remember, frozen veges are often more nutritious than so-called fresh, and also often cheaper. The other might be doing a sink full of dishes, and leaving the rest for the next day, slowly catching up. Just working on something like this every day you will soon catch up and not feel overwhelmed. Perhaps you might be able to choose one day per week where you can bulk cook meals and have them containerized and in the freezer for when you are busy or really tired. I do this all the time and it works well - and it saves money too, because you can take advantage of good specials, AND save power/gas and cleaning up too, because it is all done in one hit.

The other thing is you may be suffering from mild depression called Dysthymia. Below is a link to the Mayo Clinic for you to check out:

Bearing in mind I am NOT a professional and NOR am I trying to diagnose, merely providing food for thought, if need be, you might consider talking with your Dr about how you are feeling.

I am SURE that you can do this - you are catching this early in the piece which WILL make it easier!

BIG hugs,
Kris xx

Edited by: SLIMMERKIWI at: 10/14/2012 (04:18)
JAH1977 SparkPoints: (10,415)
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10/14/12 4:05 A

Wow, you have been dealing with so many transitions...I don't know of many that could just step into all that and immediately know what to do. A new job is difficult, but you are probably alson experiencing separation anxiety from your child. I completely understand how difficult that can be. When I'm with my son, now 6, I tend to snack with him during activities. It's one of the reasons I have so many rice crispy treats on my tracker.

Please stop beating yourself are a contributing member of society and to your household. You are a beautiful lady and mom. I don't always get to the store to buy all the healthy food and pack a lunch. What I have found that what is really working for me, is a list of food items I can pre-pick from possible restaurants, that I know the calories of. I have them saved in my favorites. This way, I stay in my calorie range better. I try to stop eating, once I get close to the top of that range.

Given all the stress you have, during this training period, perhaps set a goal to maintain or only loose a very small amount, such as 1/2 pound per week, and once you are able to transition into your own schedule, then make more small changes to loose a bit more.

Be proud of all the amazing things you have done and continue to do. Be proud of yourself for reaching out for support.

On a final note, exercise does help me with stress, but sometimes all I can fit in is 10 jumping jacks and 10 squats when I run to the sounds silly, but it does help and you can even do it at work :)

Edited by: JAH1977 at: 10/14/2012 (04:08)
SUGARCHIC9985 Posts: 40
10/14/12 3:24 A

Over the last few years I went from 220 lbs to 148. Yay for me.

Unfortunately, in the last two months, I've managed to gain 16 of it back.

I started a new job recently, and I knew going in that it would be stressful and that the training situation would be extremely awkward the first few months. The girl training me insists on eating out every single day. And I sure don't make good food choices when we do.

I'm totally overwhelmed. I can't seem to adjust to working full-time. Over the last few years I was the primary caretaker of my toddler son, going to school full-time with a 4.0 GPA and working a fairly stressful part-time job. I figured that things would settle down when I had a full-time job routine. Instead, everything is just spiraling out of control. I can't seem to function normally, I can't get into a routine, I can barely handle dealing with my son, can't seem to do the grocery shopping or house cleaning or any of the other things that people just have to do. I have no idea how I'm going to fix the unhealthy habits on top of all of this. My relationships are suffering. How in the world does everybody else manage to survive? I feel like such a failure that I can't deal with normal every day life.

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