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BMCOLLEY SparkPoints: (83,269)
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7/27/14 7:07 P

Congratulations, Sam, sometimes all it takes is to commit to yourself and understand that you have to be accountable for you. We here at SP are here to help you. That means we would love to help you if you need help with your accountability.


SEDREAMS Posts: 12
7/27/14 6:56 P

Thank you for the advice everyone, I appreciate it. Everything's been very helpful.

I started taking Prozac again two days ago, after having to stop for about two months due to financial issues, so I'm hoping that getting back on will help. I take a small dose, but it definitely helps me be calmer and less emotional. That's a definite asset when I'm stressed out. I might check and see about talking to a therapist or something like that too. I just need someone in my life to help me calm down, gain more perspective, and not worry so much when I consider the past, present, or future. It's not doing me any favors. Working on some more crafting and cross stitching is a good idea as well, thank you ArchimedesII.

I'm also considering yoga or mediation, because centering or calming myself more might be super helpful for me.

Today's been a rough day for eating as well. White pasta, full fat ground beef instead of the lean (without realizing it), accepting and eating a McDonald's wrap and fries after I had two servings of pasta (why did I do that?!). Ugh. Well, at least my breakfast was weighed and measured again, plus I'm working on my water now. Also planning to do at least a 10 minute SP workout video shortly, just to get myself started on that path again. I almost used the treadmill at my cousin's house, but she wasn't home and I couldn't figure out how to turn the thing on! emoticon

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7/27/14 3:48 P

Hi, Sam;

You have received some excellent advice. You mention in your introduction that you have joined SP many times. Has any of this helped you?

If not, you should probably seek professional help. We, and the teams you joined, are hear to help you as best we can. I am not a medical professional so I can't make recommendations.

You mention that you are suffering from several mental conditions. This is the type of advice you should be seeking. We all know our parents are great as parents; however, no matter how hard we try we usually cannot live with them. The only advice I have is that you should work as hard as you can to get your own place again.


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7/27/14 1:23 P


Welcome to Spark People !

You can't beat yourself up because you turned to food for comfort. This is something that has happened to every single member at one time or another. Eating food is a common way to relieve stress. We've all done it.

I am a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline.

What you need to do is to find way to vent your stress that don't involve food. The next time you feel an urge to walk to the kitchen, take a walk outside. Walking is not only great cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce stress too. If you don't want to take a walk, how about sitting and sipping some tea if it's not too hot. sipping tea is way to reduce your stress. Do you knit or sew ? Doing a craft of some kind can help reduce stress because it keeps your mind and fingers active at the same time. When your mind is busy, you're less likely to think about food. So, consider taking up a craft like knitting or sewing or painting or something else you mind enjoy.

Do you have hobbies ? If not, having a hobby is a great way to reduce stress.

Do you have a gym membership ? If so, take a class. I find a good workout also helps me deal with a bad day. There really are a lot of different things you can do to reduce your stress, but that IS the point. If you can reduce your stress, you'll reduce your waistline.

Mostly, I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". if the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

One week of less than perfect eating habits WILL NOT make or break your healthy lifestyle.

Be kind to yourself as you would to others.

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7/27/14 8:45 A

Sometimes we feel as if we can be the only one going through the misery. If you have a close friend you should call on them. Their observance of your actions and thoughts can be invaluable.

I would also suggest that you seek the services of professional: a counselor and doctor. You have slid down deep and you may require professional assistance for you to regain your control. Tell them what has happened in your life recently that could cause such a change in you. Don't forget to ask them if they can make a recommendation based on your symptoms. emoticon


7/27/14 8:44 A

I have been right where you are more times than I care to count. Everybody has their own buttons that get pushed, stresses get out of control, etc. There is this inner strength that we all have, and you have it, too. You may fall down now and again, but fight back. You are worth it. You're a beautiful person and the world deserves to have you in it. Write off last week, another one is beginning. So, step up and turn the page of a new day and new start....again. Just don't give up on this. The weight will come off. Make it your passion instead of your demon.

I was a nerd before it became a lifestyle, so I get it. I sit at this desk every day trying to make a living at it, but i force myself to get up, get out, and smell a few flowers. It helps.

I know, words are easy. If I were face to face with you, I'd add a hug. Keep posting....

Edited by: NODAKROSE at: 7/27/2014 (08:45)
MISSRUTH Posts: 4,299
7/27/14 7:06 A

One of the things that really helped me, came from the book, The Spark. It was a vision collage. Where you put together a collage showing your goals and dreams for yourself. I dragged my feet over doing it, because at the time it seemed sort of silly. Finally did it-- and I'd look at that collage every morning and every evening. And it was really motivating.

If you haven't read The Spark... I'd suggest checking to see if your library has it. It's a very good book, talks about the history of SparkPeople and the Spark plan, and gives a bunch of little exercises (listing your goals, breaking them down into long-term & short-term, the collage thing, etc) to do. I found it REALLY helpful when I first started out.

SEDREAMS Posts: 12
7/26/14 9:47 P

This week's been stressful, and I've lost my way because of it. I'm picking at food, not eating fruits or vegetables, finding it hard to get myself to exercise. Portions are getting bigger and less healthier. The only day I did really well this week was Tuesday.

I've lost my sense of awareness and focus on the fact that I do want to get healthy and feel better. My mood's been worse because of it. I feel like a failure.

How do I get my desire to do this back? When I fail, I stop caring about myself at all, so my want of a better life fails me completely. I don't want to fall back to step one, but I just feel like I'm wearing concrete shoes when it comes to my desire to do this. I want to step forward and move on, but it feels impossible and like I'm going to fail regardless.

Any help or advice would be appreciated. I guess I just need to hear from someone else.

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