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MISHOWIE SparkPoints: (0)
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2/8/11 8:35 A

I'm going to answer my own question. What you do is be patient with your loved ones. Sometimes it's difficult to to adjust to an entirely new way of living. My husband still loves me, and last night, he told me he was proud of me. :) I just started reading the Spark and I think maybe....just maybe....if I lead by example and reach my goals, my husband will get sparked. I mean, how could he not?

MISHOWIE SparkPoints: (0)
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2/7/11 11:05 A

So I've been on this life changing journey since August. Fitness and reaching personal goals has been a huge part of my life. I'm a stay at home mom, and in the next year, I'm thinking of going back to work, so I'm trying to use this time I have to conquer fears and really change for the better. Next month, I'm running (I hope) my first 5K, and I've signed up for an all women sprint triathlon this summer. My husband works hard and cares very little about his health. The only fluids he consumes are cans and cans of pepsi. He's also a smoker, and has tried to quit what seems like a million times with no success. He hasn't sabotaged me in any way, and is a good sport when I try new foods, but he isn't interested in what I'm doing. I don't expect some cheerleader. I expect a "hey, I'm proud of how hard you're working"....or something maybe sometime. Last week I told him I needed to run to the gym for 40 minutes so I could complete my 5K training run, and he got very angry. I make it a point to work my training and exercise routines around his schedule, so that it's not inconvenient for anyone. He seems very irritated when I need to go do anything. I just don't get it, because if he was doing something to improve his health, I would be SO excited for him. Things in my house are pretty strained right now. It's not like I just started doing's been 6 months. I don't know if he's threated or what? He asked who I was doing all this for and I was quick to tell him that I'm doing it for myself and to be a good role model for our kids. He wanted to make sure that I wasn't doing it for him, which I thought was just plain stupid to be honest. I just feel like he's been a bit controlling's strange. Anyway, if anyone else has been in this situation, some guidance would be great. I'm sure I'm not the first person to go through this! The real hardline question is this....what happens to a couple when only one person changes? I try not to think about that, but I feel like it's a legitimate question. Anyway, thanks in advance for the help!

Edited by: MISHOWIE at: 2/7/2011 (11:10)
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