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ESSENCERENEE20 SparkPoints: (122)
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2/19/14 9:27 A

Thank you. I guess he just doesn't take me serious yet. I'll put my foot down :)

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2/19/14 9:26 A

My bf is the same exact way. We have a mini fridge in the room since we have roommates. He eats baked cookies everyday! I have never been big on sweets, but he wants me to "taste" new foods that he likes. *Sigh* I guess I'm going to have to put my foot down when I say no. He doesn't take me serious yet. He thinks I'm "perfect" as I am.

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2/19/14 9:21 A

Thank you for your advice. We go shopping together, but he's the one with the cash. lolz. The problem is fast food. He knows I love taco bell and pizza. I guess I'm going to have to look up healthy recipes because I can't live without my pizza! haha

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2/19/14 9:16 A

Thank you. I didn't think about the portions. lolz and he LOVES cookies. Yesterday he had me baking some at 12am for him. I stayed strong and didn't eat any. Yay me!

KELLYFIT123 Posts: 1,312
2/17/14 5:24 P

I live with my BF and he is a much less healthy eater than I am. The only meal we share is dinner. I make my breakfasts and lunches to be super healthy. We agree on dinner that is usually less healthy, but it ends up working out OK because I stayed healthy the rest of the day. If we have pizza, we'll usually also have a salad. If we make tacos, I usually have an avocado for myself on the side. And when he's not home for dinner, I usually make fish. :)

He snacks on his own junk food -- but that's on him.

Where we struggle the most, actually, is eating dessert. I think I was the bad influence. :) But we talked about it and agreed to only having official dessert twice a week.

Good luck. I'm sure you'll figure it out -- just remember to communicate!
And my philosophy is always -- you should be able to do what you want in a relationship that is best for you, as long as it's not hurting the other person physically or emotionally.

2/17/14 10:04 A

My husband is getting better but he still eats a few things that I wish he wouldn't keep around. He has his own shelf in the fridge, freezer and pantry where he keep his stuff. It's not mine so I avoid it. He is a very bad influence at times to be sure, other times he's really good he'll remind me of why I said I'd never eat X item again. (Sore tummy etc.)

I always keep a bar of 80% dark chocolate in the fridge for my treat.

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2/17/14 10:00 A

Well I had to check out the thread to hear the advice because I too have a husband that eats what tastes good and as much as he wants (of course he's 50-60 lbs overweight and ok with that). He does now hide his cookies, etc (not very well sometimes) and I have to keep reminding myself I'm eating healthy for me, not him. emoticon

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2/17/14 9:50 A

I try to maintain focus by visualizing my goals, positive reinforcement, acting as it, making a game of it, focusing on the positive.

HOUNDLOVER1 Posts: 8,869
2/16/14 5:50 P

Get a second fridge/cabinet/shelf for your boyfriend to store foods that tempt you. Ask him to not eat them in front of you. If he cares about your health he should be willing to be part of the solution rather than being part of the problem.
Also, for social situations take food along that you can eat or eat beforehand. If possible avoid parties with junk food.

EELPIE Posts: 2,700
2/16/14 12:44 P

lol @ Dropcone - I did the same thing!! Hey you put the food on the plate....everyone get's equal servings, makes sense, right?

Wrong!!! I didn't even realize what a mistake I was making, yet putting on weight! He was bigger by a foot, weighed more, and while I had a desk job at the time - he was an excavator - which meant various times a day out of the equipment using a shovel..... we burned and needed different calories, yet I was giving us the same amount!

MOTHERBOARDER SparkPoints: (284,058)
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2/16/14 11:10 A

be on your side

SIMONEKP Posts: 2,764
2/15/14 6:07 P

You are definitely going to have employ some will power. Dropcone has a pretty good outlook.

DROPCONE Posts: 1,592
2/14/14 12:48 P

I had that problem when I moved in with my guy. Another thing you might want to watch out for is "matching" his intake at meals. Because our relationship was "equal", we ate "equal" portions of food. This meant I overate drastically, because he's a foot taller than I am and male, and it is OBVIOUS to anyone using their brain that OF COURSE I would not need to eat as much food as he would! I was, however, not using my brain!

Even if you are living together, you are still different people with different needs. You might have to tell him more explicitly about your goals. So, when he says "Here, have a cookie", you will have to tell him right out "No, thanks hon, I've already eaten all my calories today." If he continues with "Aw, come on, it's just a cookie, I don't want to eat them all myself", you can stand firm and say "Well, stop eating them, then! Don't want one. I'll have it tomorrow."

It's part of the larger task of carving out boundaries and individuality within a close relationship. It's better to get in the habit of sticking to your guns early, in a respectful and kind way, than to have to backtrack after letting bad habits take over. Believe me I know!

ICEDEMETER Posts: 1,332
2/14/14 10:53 A

The thing about "peer pressure", especially within a couple, is that you have the ability to exert just as much "pressure" as the other does!

So, here's the question: which of you does the shopping and cooking? If it's you, then you are the one who really holds the "power" in the decision process, and what you do now can be what sets the stage for how things will be in the future.

I wanted to have a permanently "healthier" diet, so I focused on finding and making healthy foods that I absolutely love. I also like "treats", so I made a point of including relatively healthy ones in to every day. I want the Man to be happy and healthy (and here!), so made sure that he loved everything as much as I do.

A few examples:
- we like to share some munchies in the evening, so we have a massive bowl of air-popped popcorn (80g of kernels, less than a Tbsp of butter, and a few dashes of salt) between the two of us
- we still occasionally have ice-cream, but more often will have a bowl of yogurt (plain) that we've tarted up to whatever we're in the mood for (vanilla extract, almond extract, raspberries, blueberries, almonds, pistachios, cinnamon, cardamom - whatever!)
- we have desserts of home-made self-crust pumpkin pie with whipping cream, or plum cake, or apple strudel (we get those from our favourite German bakery, who use all real ingredients), but I am just careful with the portion sizes
- for a warm "sweet", we'll thin slice an apple, cover with a generous sprinkling of cinnamon, nuke for a minute and serve with a dollop of yogurt that has been doctored up with a wee bit of maple sugar and some vanilla extract (good substitute if you don't have whipping cream) and some sliced almonds
- we end every evening with a cup of hot cocoa (2 Tbsp natural cocoa powder, 1 tsp maple sugar, 1 cup skim milk - nuked) and a square of really high quality dark chocolate

Seriously, the Man's tastes changed as quickly as mine did, and neither of us have any desire for what we used to consider as "treats". Our meals are delicious and filling, and we made sure that we always have the flexibility to include the above goodies when we want them. Neither of us is good with deprivation or discipline, but putting the focus on "delicious" has made this a pretty easy transition!

Our only issue has been that the Man has a killer metabolism and needs to eat at least double the calories that I do to maintain. We deal with this by him having larger portions and with him adding more calories throughout the day when he's at work (usually goes out for lunch, and he always has snacks and goodies at his desk or in his vehicle).

Seriously, figure out what choices will work well for you and will make you happy, and exert some "peer pressure" of your own to set the stage for both of you to have a healthier diet for always. Good luck to you both!

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2/14/14 8:19 A

Yeah, my BF has the kind of metabolism where he can eat a full package of oreos in a night and not gain a single pound...highly annoying. When I visit, I just keep telling myself that the junk food is *not mine* and therefore I can't eat it. Don't buy junk food when you go grocery shopping and ask him to keep the junk food in a separate cabinet, preferably one that you don't go into.

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2/13/14 8:43 P

I started doing the same thing but I do not live with mine. I had to stand firm and tell him I can not be around them. He still buys them but doesn't offer them to me any more and tends to hide them.
Sorry I don't have any other tips

ESSENCERENEE20 SparkPoints: (122)
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2/13/14 7:45 P

I am trying to lose weight, but I'm struggling to fight peer pressure. My boyfriend and I just moved in together a couple months ago and I noticed that I am picking up some of his bad habits such as eating sweets. What are some tips to not lose focus on my goals?

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