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WINSTONSUZ Posts: 5,715
1/27/13 11:54 P

I started in January 2010..... my goal to lose 50 pounds.....I was nearing that 200 pound mark....... and I had lost 25 pounds by mid-2011...... then things just went wrong...... my 3 yorkie children died within 1 year...... my Mom was diagnosed with colon cancer and my brother-in-law was being treated for non-hodgkins lymphomia..... with all this, and yes it's easy to blame it on things, and dealing with a stressful job I gained it back ... and I was really upset with myself for gaining it back........ I worked really hard to lose that 25 pounds and had felt really good and got some new clothes in a size 2 sizes smaller....... everyone noticed and said how great I looked....... then I'm back to the beginning again.....

Last year I didn't work at it as hard as I could have...... my Mom was still having health issues...... and my brother-in-law died....... I retired and thought I'd have more time now to work on my own needs........

I have renewed my pledge to myself and I'm getting a treadmill tomorrow to add to my tony little gazelle so I have no excuses for NOT exercising or walking in any weather...... I've worked out every day since Jan 1st ...... and hope this year I regain my momentum....

you're only a failure if you stop trying.......


FENWAYGIRL18 Posts: 5,868
1/26/13 4:43 P

I had lost a lot of weight before and gained it back due to being sick and dealing with painful muscles and joints. It's tough when you gain it that way and really can't do anything about it, you can do something about this and you need to take a good look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself your worth it!
You've done it before and you know you can succeed, you just have to dig deep within you and find what motivated you before and do it again... Good Luck! We all have bad days , just take it one day at a time...

ASHLEYGILLE SparkPoints: (12,749)
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1/26/13 4:24 P

I just watched an interview on 20/20, Dateline or 60 Minutes (I forget which one!) with a man who lost a lot of weight on the Biggest Loser a few years back. He's managed to keep it off, but admitted that it's not always easy as he (like many of us) has a food addiction. He said that while he's kept the weight off, he's had some really "off" days when he's eaten a lot more than he should. Anyway, he said that the trick, which he has to remind himself of everyday, is getting right back on track- after a "bad" meal or "bad" day (or two or three) before he and his weight get too out-of-control... I know, easier said then done, but it does make sense... I've been trying to remember this comment/advice after I overeat.

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1/26/13 3:58 P

It's my biggest fear to put back what I lost since it has taken me 3 years and not the first time in my life I had to lose to hit a normal BMI. I play with 5 pounds up and back and panic when 5 pounds up but that makes me go right back on track with consistent exercise and not eating out.

The good news you didn't wait till you gained all of your weight or even half your weight back. You are thinking about it now and will reverse what you did. Maybe try a new sport or physically active meet up group ( to get you motivated again.

SPORTYLAWGIRL SparkPoints: (11,853)
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1/26/13 3:49 P

I love the guilt free money idea!

ANELAKANOA Posts: 4,221
1/26/13 3:39 P

Thanks! I think I just get so depressed because I feel like a failure. I feel like everyone close to me can tell I've gaining again. I know it's just gonna be one day when I wake up and decided enough is enough!

SKINNYMISSKASEY SparkPoints: (114,139)
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1/26/13 3:34 P

I lost 120lbs by May 2011, and have gained right at 65lbs of it back. I didn't have the surgery, just lost it on my own. I developed a binging problem and the mental part of losing weight messed me up as well as messing up my hips (bc of running but I've had it fixed). Im slowly trying to relose it, but its more difficult than the first time.

TACDGB Posts: 6,136
1/26/13 3:30 P

put yourself on the list of things to take care of. I am sure you are so worth it. take small steps to get this done. use all that sparks has to offer. Find a reward you like and use that as your motivation to get it done. YOU can do this.............!

ASHLEYGILLE SparkPoints: (12,749)
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1/26/13 3:07 P

Hi Angie,
First of all, I see your pic and you are absolutely lovely!

As for losing and gaining some weight back, I think we've all been there. I remember losing weight and then gaining it ALL back and feeling so awful b/c it was so obvious; I felt like such a failure when I saw the same people who had been complimenting me just months before.

But the thing is, you care,and that's why you here... And that's the first, biggest step! Just think, you can put an end to the gaining and even start losing again with just a few small changes... Then as you get more comfortable with your program, add a couple of more changes. Hopefully then, the positive changes (how you feel, look, etc.) will be motivating...

You can do it, I know you can, because you clearly love yourself and care about your health; that's why you started this journey in the first place. Now rock on, woman! And do keep us posted!!! :)

xo Ashley
P.S. I did this years ago with smoking... I kept saying, "Okay, I'm going to quit tomorrow..." And I didn't follow through several times... But eventually, when the time was right, I quit and now it's been at least 8 years!

ANARIE Posts: 13,200
1/26/13 2:50 P

Also, use money as your second motivator. Think of something that you really want but haven't bought (or done) because it's "too expensive" or "too frivolous." Get a pretty tin or a cute little box (maybe decorated with pictures of that thing you want.) Calculate how much you're spending on soda and junk food. Every day that you DON'T spend anything on soda or junk, put that day's junk money in your special tin instead. You'll be amazed at how fast it starts adding up, and it will give you a double reason not to waste cash and calories. When you have enough saved up, keep that promise to yourself. Go out and buy your special item with ZERO guilt. A penny saved is a penny earned, so you will have EARNED whatever it is you want by those little daily sacrifices.

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1/26/13 2:34 P


Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and start all over again. I'm going to give you a piece of advice I give to all new members and those looking for motivation and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water. That's still a step in the right direction.

Start with some simple changes first. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Set some goals. Example, if you're not eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you're not getting any exercise, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved those goals, then you set new ones.

And that's how good health starts. It starts with a few simple changes. No "all or nothing". Every little bit really does make a difference. As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

JOYCECAIN SparkPoints: (137,945)
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1/26/13 2:31 P

I gained 10 lbs. back after losing 30. I have lost 5 so I am still working on the other 5 lbs. With the weather like it is I can't get out to do my walking.

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1/26/13 2:26 P

This is the 3rd time in my life I've had to start over. This last time I was eating out all the time and pure couch potato. I started by cutting back on eating out & focusing on being more active. Just those steps helped me tremendously. Now I'm starting to keep track of what I'm eating. Try making one small change at a time.

ANELAKANOA Posts: 4,221
1/26/13 1:51 P

Okay so this is something I have been struggling with for about 4 months now. I started my journey at 268 pounds and managed to get down to 181. Well with drinking soda, eating fast food and just eating yuck again I have gained back almost 20 pounds putting me close to 200. Everyday I say today I'm going to eat healthy, go to the gym and then something happens and I don't. I spend way to much money on food (and not the healthy kind). I need help! Why can't I seem to find that "Spark" I had a couple years ago. I don't want to gain back all the weigh I have lost but see that is where I'm headed.

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