Feeling down about fertility problems

I am in the same boat. Hubby and I have been trying to have a baby since feb 2010 with no luck. I have been to the doctor and everything was normal with my ovaries and everything. My biggest issue is not getting regular periods. Doctor says if I lose weight it should kick my hormones into place and I should be able to get pregnant. There are some herbs that help with fertility that you might wanna read up on. They are Vitex and Dong Quai. There are a few others as well that I am gonna start trying. I wish you luck!

My husband and I are having the same problems. We had a miscarriage in January 2010 and have been unable to get pregnant since then, even with fertility. I do believe that weight plays a great part in infertility. It is sometimes depressing when it seems so easy for others and when I get depressed about not have children and being 33-I start to eat the wrong things. My husband is also overweight and it does not seem as important to him as it is to me to lose weight. I will trust God and continue on my weightloss journey into my healthy lifestyle on my own.

It is not uncommon, you are definitely not alone.
And please make sure you do not play the blame game. It does not matter why it happens, it does not matter if it is your husbdand, you or both of you, actually in most cases they do not find a reason. If they do not find a fixible reason, proceed to fertility treatments and do not apologize to anyone about it. They do not need to know if you are not comfortable with it.

Losing weight may also help. I got pregnant when I lost my extra weight. Coincidence? I don't know

Edited by: EN10011 at: 10/1/2011 (22:04)

I'm not sure from your post what research you have been doing but a book I loved and found very helpful and very informative that you can find on Amazon.

Taking Charge of Your Fertility, 10th Anniversary Edition: The Definitive Guide to Natural Birth Control, Pregnancy Achievement, and Reproductive Health

Also hopefully your doctor has checked your thyroid levels... lots of new research coming out regarding even mild hypothyroidism may contribute to difficulties in getting pregnant and miscarriages.

Just two thoughts from my own life experience. Good luck!

I just wanted to say it is nothing to be ashamed of. You would be suprised how many families are experiencing this problem. I understand your frustration. Remember you are not alone. Maybe find a site to join specifically for this problem. Also, make sure you research all your options rather than quickly jumping to any choices. I say this because in December my OB/GYN found 12 tumors on my ovaries and gave me 6 months to live if I did not have an immediate radical hysterectomy. Myself and my husband regret at the time not asking them to freeze some of my eggs so we could perhaps due surrogacy at a later time. Also, make sure you and your husband do not get so wrapped up in TTC that you forget to just enjoy making love to one another. Good luck!

Hi guys,

First post of my own and something that I'm struggling with at the moment. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 3 years and have now taken the massive step to start fertility testing. Its been rough up to this point as he finds it extremely hard to talk about it and I feel embarrassed to talk about it with my family/friends. I have confided in one friend recently and it felt better but still find it hard to speak about.
We're currently awaiting husband sperm count results but I don't think it is a problem with him...have always been convinced its something with me. Just want to know so I can stop lying to people when they constantly ask me 'whens it your turn then?'
Anyone got tips for diet changes that improves/stimulates fertility or any other advice? Anything muchly appreciated.
Sorry to whinge just needed a bit of a rant! x