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AZULVIOLETA6 SparkPoints: (0)
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10/13/13 3:37 P

Swimming is a great activity when you are very large--the support of the water can help you to build muscle while reducing the chance of injury because of the support of the water.

You sound VERY isolated, and for that reason alone I think that you might want to consider getting out to go to a gym or pool at some point. Being so beholden to your children that you can't even get time to yourself to shower doesn't sound very healthy mentally or physically. Can your husband not help you out so that you have an hour a day to yourself?

SELENITYLUNARE SparkPoints: (16,509)
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10/12/13 12:35 A

I Love Fieldworking's idea! Getting several of you together and having one person watch the kids and play with them as an 'off' day for exercise while the rest of you exercise might be awesome.

Also, the idea to get the kids involved is ingenious. You can get a PS2 or a Wii used for $50-$60 and buy DDR, Wii Sports, Dance Party, and tons of other games. I use my PS2 for DDR and it is a lot of fun with a workout mode that tells you how many calories you burn and how many miles that's like jogging! If you do not believe the program, you can grab a heart rate monitor like the Polar RS100 and it is usually within 1% for me!

Games, Punch It!, Shaun T's dance party, Zumba, they can all be fun ways of getting exercise without anybody seeing you. I understand that since I am also very self conscious with weighing 265 pounds. But just remember, if they even pay attention to you... think of what compliments you'll be getting a few months down the road when you are looking even better than you are now!

Every time you give up, think about your kids, too. I work in the medical field so I see what happens when you don't take care of yourself. The leading cause of death in women is coronary disease. Eating healthy and maintaining a healthy weight can help keep you with your kids. So think about how much they love you and how awful it would be for them to watch their momma suffer.

JRDUPREE Posts: 79
10/12/13 12:12 A

My fitness is taking longer to start. I am tracking my food and eating good quality foods but just have not started moving on a regular basis. I do take walks but due to my size my knees will hurt for a couple of days after even a 10-15 minute walk. I have found a seated upper body workout that is 9 minutes long on the video section that is working for me. It may be a slow start but I feel I am moving and that is a step in the right direction. Good Luck on your journey.

DANCEMOM1970 SparkPoints: (44,190)
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10/11/13 11:03 P

I started this journey well into the "morbidly obese" category. At that point, carrying a basket of laundry up a flight of stairs caused me to need to stop and rest. My fitness level was BAD! I didn't have the same issues with car/no gym but I had to start with something extremely simple, and that for me was aquafit. It could easily have been walking, which is definitely something you can do. I did this a few days a week for 7 months before it became fun and something I truly wanted to do, not something I had to force myself to do. Then I was ready to branch out, and now I do Zumba full out 3-4 days a week plus other cardio machines 3 days a week and one toning/weights class a week. My family calls me a "gym rat" now. LOL Whatever you do, make sure it's something you can keep up with or that you really enjoy.

MRSPRINCESS2007 Posts: 44
10/11/13 9:37 P

I have PTSD and anxiety issues also. I have found that exercise that is enjoyable it very good help for that. If it is dreadful I don't relax and unwind, I become more tense and very tired.

As far as suggestions-

DVDs! Whether you buy then, rent them from Netflix, or the library, these are a great option! Leslie Sansone and Debra Mazda DVDs are a great option for Cardio. Gilad has some wonderful strength workouts. Leslie and Gilad have several options for 30 minutes or less too. How much you consume is far more important than how much you exercise. However unlike what another comment said, you CAN lose weight eating anything. You'll feel better if you eat a varied intake and keep the phrase "all things in moderation" in mind. Too much of anything is not the best option including the "good" foods that so many tout when dieting.

I suggest not looking at this as a diet or lifestyle. I say this bc many people begin to blur the lines between diet and lifestyle and eventually without knowing the two become one. I've done and most people I've seen on this site have done so over the yrs. Take it one day... no scratch that... one bite at a time. Some habits might have to be unlearned and others learned. Over time progress will be made and you will begin to see and feel a difference in your life and clothing.

Start small and make small progress steps. Slow and steady wins the race.

ERINTFG SparkPoints: (45,448)
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10/11/13 8:48 P

I think a lot of people here can relate to you. I am 34 years old, 5'8", and was 211 when I started this journey. I have 3 children whom I homeschool, so I'm home with them a lot. I also have rheumatoid arthritis, which can make exercise a challenge.

If I can do this, you can. Diet is THE most important part of weight loss. You can till you pass out, but if you're constantly overeating, particularly on junk food, you aren't going to lose weight.

Cooking healthy takes time and involves a learning curve, but you CAN do it. Do it for yourself and for your kids. Involve them if you can in your new healthy lifestyle.

My main form of exercise is Leslie Sansone (Walk Away the Pounds) videos. Her older stuff especially is all low-impact (she is doing more high impact in her newer DVDs) and easy to follow. You can try out some of her workouts on YouTube to see if they'd work for you.

You can do this! You will feel SO much better when you start eating better and moving your body more.

FIELDWORKING SparkPoints: (29,946)
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10/11/13 6:34 P

Are there other stay at home moms in your neighborhood? What about retired women? If you know any women in your neighborhood that you know (or know has kids), maybe see if they'd be interested in walking with you. What about play date with some other kids the same age? If it's a day when a dad (or parental figure) is at home, the kids could play while you guys go for a walk, bike ride, or to do some strength training. If the other stay at home mom has a car (or van), maybe, after getting to know each other and if money is not a problem, see about joining the YMCA (or another place that has free child care). I'm sure that some places have a family option. I don't know about every YMCA, but the one here in town has an option for families or individuals that want to join but are financially strapped. There are some dvd's that might work well (Billy Blanks is one that I like). If you want to shower after working out, could you get up and workout (dvd, walk, bike, etc.) before your husband goes to work? You could workout while he's getting ready for work and then shower just before or as he's leaving. What about in the evening, after supper or when the kids go to bed? Do you have parents or relatives that are nearby so that they could watch your kids for about 30 to 45 minutes? You could do a good 15 minute walk and take a shower. You could go for a walk a few days a week and then on other days, do some strength training. Staying motivated is something that comes from you. Think about your kids. Let them be your motivation. Tell yourself that you want to be healthier so that you can be around to see them grow up, get married, and have a family of their own.

Are you being treated for your PTSD, depression, and anxiety? If not, then it would be a good idea to treat them. Talk with your doctor. Exercise and a healthy diet will probably be mentioned but the symptoms of PTSD, depression, and anxiety may get in the way of you actually doing anything about it.

Like others have stated, eating well is always a good thing. When I first decided that I was serious about losing weight, I made small changes. The first thing I did was quitting Mtn. Dew. About the same time, I switched from white bread to whole wheat and from 2% milk to 1% milk. I eventually got to where I don't eat fast food. On occasion, I've eaten a small cheeseburger or a jelly biscuit, but that was when I was traveling. I did drink the little 7 ounce cans of coke for the longest time. I quit drinking that about 2 months ago. Now, I drink water, milk (white milk and Nesquik chocolate milk), and Gatorade. Again, I may drink a Sprite or a Coke if I go out to eat, which is less than once a month.

CRAZYBEANY26 SparkPoints: (9,194)
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10/11/13 3:24 P

I'm not sure how old your kids are, but you could always throw on a dance party DVD or Xbox Kinect/Wii Dance games if you have access to either one. I got a xbox on black friday last year and a dance party game, you burn calories like crazy and it's REALLY fun! Best part to keep you motivated is that if your kids are old enough to dance, chances are that they will also enjoy it. My niece is 7 and she loves dance videos and whatnot- even if it's just to silly dance sometimes. So you and your kids can have lots of fun and a good workout for all of you! :)

RAVELGIRLY SparkPoints: (115,652)
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10/11/13 1:43 P

When I started exercising and eating right, I weighed 67 pounds more than I do today.

I started out using Leslie Sansone Walk Away the Pounds DVDs. You can do them in your living room and they aren't very expensive. There are also great videos here and on YouTube. Cafemoms on YouTube have some nice videos for easy, stress-reducing workouts.

I agree that setting a series of specific goals is important but I encourage you to frame them in a positive light. Positivity will build you up and keep you going even on the tough days. Once you get past the "getting started" hurdle", you are going to love how good exercise makes you feel!

If you truly don't have time for a shower, you can find moist towelettes in the feminine care aisle. I use them to freshen up on international flights.

NANLEYKW SparkPoints: (76,244)
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10/11/13 1:11 P

You're about where I was when I started (but I was a pound heavier and am an inch shorter). The most important factor in losing weight is going to be diet, and the tracker here was awesome for me.

In terms of exercise, I started with a Couch to 5k program. At first, running for 1 minute (which is the first week of the program) was so, so hard! But I kept with it, repeating weeks as I needed to, and now--only 17 months later--I am 70+ lbs. lighter and am about to run my first half-marathon in a week.

I run early in the morning, which has two benefits. First, it's before my husband leaves for work, so there's someone home with the (still sleeping) kids. And second, it's dark, so if you're worried about being seen, nobody would be able to see you! (But really, nobody out there is looking at you, I promise. People are so much in their own worlds that they don't pay nearly as much attention to other people as we always think they do. And if other runners do notice you? They're just thinking you're doing something awesome!

MAGTASTIC103 Posts: 588
10/11/13 12:12 P

Along with exercise, make sure you're sticking to good eating habits. You can exercise a lot but if you're filling your body with junk food, odds are that you're not going to lose weight. Use the nutrition tracker and make sure you count everything you eat...hold yourself accountable.

ZORBS13 SparkPoints: (196,863)
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10/11/13 11:18 A

It is impossible to stay motivated without clear goals that are meaningful to you. So think of the WHY. If you hate being a fat nasty unattractive slob, then think of that every time you don't want to exercise, and if it bothers you enough, you will change.

I have a 3 year old and I have NEVER been unable to shower after a workout. Put your kids in front of the TV for 10 minutes and go shower!

ASHLEYAMBER0710 Posts: 244
10/11/13 11:18 A

We have a similar situation. I have 3 kiddos and my hubby takes our car too. We are a one car family. I downloaded an app called mapmyrun it uses gps to track home many miles you walk/run. I walk/run 4-5 miles a day. Its great because its right there with me in my ear blaring music that encourages me to keep going. Also finding a buddy really helped keeping me motivated. The days I want to give up she tells me no way and vice versa. I think the most important thing is just find what works for you and keep on top of it. Read articles, journal, meditate. These are all things that keep me going. But they don't work for everyone. You have to find your own nich. When you do something and it makes you feel good just keep doing it. And don't let yourself slip up. That's how I get though it. Good luck. Hope that helps :)

MOMMAJ90 SparkPoints: (1,478)
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10/11/13 10:38 A

I need some help. I am about 5'6 and I weigh 198. I have had two kids and I'm a married stay at home mom. Going to the gym is not an option. We only have one vehicle and my husband uses that for work so I really don't have a way to get out unless he is with me. I am not bothered by the numbers on the scale but I am however bothered by how I look and feel. I feel like a fat nasty unattractive slob. My clothes don't fit my anymore. I don't feel confident in anything I wear or even going out for that matter. I have been trying to drink more water lately. Everytime I try to start an exercise program or workout, I always end up giving up. I can't stay motivated. Since I have kids to take care of, I don't always have the chance to take a shower after sweating and I hate walking around without a shower after sweating. I also suffer from PTSD, Depression and Anxiety. I've tried Zumba, Brazillian Butt Lift, crunches, jump rope, you name it, I have tried it. I live in a subdivision and I was walking around the block, (about a 12-15 minute walk) but it has gotten to where I don't feel comfortable and confident enough to stick with it. I need some help on how to stay motivated and also finding the right program/workout that will benefit me. Thanks for all your answers.

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