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2/15/13 4:43 P

My question for you is, why can't you find the time or the energy? My guess is, it's because you're letting other people/things/etc. come first in your life. And while it's important to meet our obligations - you can't blow off work to run, no matter how nice the weather is emoticon - it's also important to recognize the difference between activities that are "musts" (work, classes if you're a student, taking care of children if you have any), and those that are "wants" (and by this, I don't necessarily mean just things that you personally want to do, I also mean things that other people want you to do that you end up feeling obligated to do). I'll bet your "must" list is littered with things that aren't real "musts" for you, but are obligations imposed on you by (or that you've taken on willingly for) other people. Don't be afraid to stop doing some of those things, or to do them less. The world will not stop spinning if you tell a friend you can't go to lunch with her because you need to hit the gym, or take a night off from seeing someone you care about so you can cook yourself healthy meals for the week. The people in your life who love and support you will respect the boundaries you set, and those that don't respect your boundaries aren't the kind of people you should be surrounding yourself with anyway.

I know this sounds cheesy, but when you make your own health and well-being a priority, you will be amazed at all of the wonderful things/people it attracts to your life. So many of us - women especially, I think - have had it drummed into our heads that it's "selfish" to put ourselves first, that we're only worthy when we're serving others. That, frankly, is cr@p. You can't be the most successful, most fully realized version of yourself without taking care of yourself, so don't be afraid to make YOURSELF your number 1 priority.

2/15/13 2:38 P

Hey Jen,

I can totally relate to how you feel! Getting motivated is definitely a struggle for me, too!

I am not a success story (yet)... I have been a member of Sparkpeople for quite a few years (on and off). I only just started back up again two days ago, and I am still trying to convince myself that "This time will be different." But I really do believe that - because I am finally committing to focusing on the victories and not the failures. If I have a day where I completely fall off the rails with my food, I will still find some kind of positive, like maybe I still did even a small workout, or I read an article and learned something. I think my problem all along was that I was trying to be perfect, and that's not achievable!

I believe that if I can make consistent small changes for the better then it will start paying off soon, and for the long run! I even signed up for the 10-minutes of exercise a day challenge. No matter how busy life is, I am sure I can handle that! And once it becomes a habit, maybe I can increase it to 15 minutes.

Hope this helps!


NEWRUNNER2 Posts: 542
2/15/13 1:59 P

Hi, Jen!

You're not alone. SparkPeople is a great place to find others who are also at various stages of a healthy-living journey.

Do you have specific questions or concerns? You mentioned motivation. That's a struggle that I can relate to. I've tried different things with regard to this:

*Getting other people to support me or join with me
*Giving myself "points" for doing healthy habits and then rewarding myself at certain point goals
*Keeping goal pictures (of an outfit, for example) in front of me
*Keeping motivational sayings in front of me

Sometimes these ideas help me. Other times I need to find something else and switch things up. In the end, it just comes down to knowing that I need to do something and just beginning--Just taking even small steps that definitely add up.

Take care and let us take this journey with you!


Edited by: NEWRUNNER2 at: 2/15/2013 (13:59)
LILAJAY Posts: 6
2/15/13 1:48 P

My name is Jen, and I have not used sparkpeople in a long time. I am that person that lost about 80 pounds between age 14 and 18, then gained a little bit, and dropped a little bit and most recently, gained a lot and have only had moments of motivation to do it all again. I am a full time student and have a busy life, and sometimes, as much and as bad as I want it, working out and losing weight just doesn't fall into any immediate priority. I am unhappy when I am not fit, and I really want that summer body so I can enjoy vacation and warm weather. But I can't seem to find the time or energy. The best advice I have heard about losing weight recently was to stop hating my body and start loving it... But that's really hard for me to do since I've spent most of my life hating it and working hard to make it better! I hope someone responds to this... because I could really use a support group. Thanks. emoticon

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