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JOGSWITHDOGS SparkPoints: (184,234)
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10/3/13 12:23 P

Yes, regularly. We eat most of the same things, but one of us is a vegetarian and the other is not. Consequently, there is generally at least one item on the menu that is only eaten by one of us.

CARRIEK33 SparkPoints: (1,588)
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10/3/13 12:04 P

Yes, we eat differently as my husband is from another country and prefers his own food. Though his food is relatively healthy, it is way too spicy for my tastes. Overall, he is a healthy eater so he does not hinder my health goals. I am actually the only culprit to my current state!

SIMPLYME80 Posts: 406
10/2/13 7:36 P

NO! Since no one in our family has allergies or requires a special diet, My menu is always "take it or leave it" I Don't cook twice!

KRAFTYKRAFT SparkPoints: (101,015)
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10/2/13 2:14 P

I don't have a spouse, but when I visit my family, I sometimes eat different meals since I am vegetarian and they are not. Usually it isn't a big deal - I may have a veggie burger and salad when they grill chicken or a sandwich and yogurt when they get pizza.

LDAVENPOR4 SparkPoints: (29,233)
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10/2/13 1:59 P

We kind of have the same meals only I don't eat the bread.

10/2/13 1:44 P

just less carbs and bread, same meals.

DANCEMOM1970 SparkPoints: (44,190)
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10/2/13 12:24 A

Fairly often, but I think we're getting closer to where he'll eat the same things I do more often. When I cook something, I have to make extra servings because I put single servings in individual containers for hubby to take to work (he works out of town for 4 night shifts at a time and is gone for the whole 4 nights...if I didn't provide these home cooked meals, he'd eat fast food every day and I'm not having that....). Many of the meals I make for myself wouldn't work for that....tuna salad, buffalo chicken salad, etc..

He is supportive of my efforts, though and is starting to look at the food I'm making as I'm learning to make even more tasty things for myself with longing. When I made the buffalo chicken salads last week for myself he was jealous but was heading out of town that night so I promised him I'd make them this week for him when he was home. He is looking to leave the night shift job which would allow me more freedom to make things that don't necessarily have to be frozen for him.

MNNICE Posts: 17,639
10/1/13 4:23 P

Sometimes, but usually the same.

8HEATHER Posts: 63
9/30/13 7:46 P

double post

Edited by: 8HEATHER at: 10/1/2013 (09:39)
8HEATHER Posts: 63
9/30/13 7:42 P

Most of the time we eat the same meals since he is trying to change his eating habits also. I do usually add more veggies though because I find the volume of them helps keep me from eating too much of the higher calorie dense parts of the meal.

Edited by: 8HEATHER at: 9/30/2013 (19:43)
9/29/13 11:18 P

almost always yes, I can not eat what he eats, he is a junk food eater

HOTTIE41465 Posts: 113
9/29/13 9:22 P


IAMJOYFUL2 Posts: 4,029
9/29/13 3:28 P

we are working on this.

BRENNA84 SparkPoints: (54,570)
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9/28/13 6:13 P

yes I do. I can NOT eat the food that he can without ruining my health severely. so I eat differently than him.

KKLENNERT809 Posts: 10,742
9/28/13 12:39 P

We used to but I gave up on that, now I oook healthy and if he eats, that's great! If he doesn't, then he has to make his own meal. It's amazing, but now he eats pretty much whatever I make.

FNEWSOME81 SparkPoints: (636)
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9/28/13 11:21 A

Yes I love to try different veggie and my family doesn't like to try new things. emoticon emoticon

TRIMLAW SparkPoints: (28,473)
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9/28/13 10:49 A

Yes and it can be so annoying! He will bring donuts, ice cream, you name it into the house (and he has twice the weight to lose that I do--he simply doesn't care about it).

9/28/13 8:47 A


BOB5148 SparkPoints: (540,760)
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9/28/13 7:41 A


KAPLODS SparkPoints: (2,571)
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9/27/13 8:07 P

Hubby and I both are trying to eat healthier and lose weight, but we have very different food preferences, so mostly we have a "fend for yourself" policy. He eats what he wants to, and I eat what I want to. If one of us cooks a full meal, we ask if the other is interested.

We've eaten two shared meals this month. I made a reduced fat spaghetti pie about two weeks ago, and hubby made frog legs yesterday.

Both were "splurge" meals that were a little higher calorie than usual, but far lighter in fat and calories than our old recipe versions.

CERTHIA SparkPoints: (22,539)
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9/24/13 12:56 P

Nope. We basically eat the same things for most of the meals I prepare. His portion will be larger, and he sometimes likes to sprinkle cheese on top. I am not willing to prepare junk-food for him and health-food for me. He is normal weight, sure, but that is no reason to eat rubbish ;)

LOTUS737 Posts: 4,380
9/24/13 12:04 P

absolutely not. i do understand how hard it is- we have a roomie who likes to eat all kinds of horrible things (and said roomie works out a ton and is very built too), so sometimes it's hard to avoid the fatty 'happiness' smells wafting our way. i think the hardest thing for DH was portion control- both of us were definitely hungry for a bit while adjusting down to proper portions! since he has higher caloric requirements than me, he supplements with an extra snack or two throughout the day, and sometimes adds on to a meal (like a few chips and salsa with his burrito last night). those add-ons are sometimes very tempting (i had two chips) but i usually do pretty well avoiding them.

you can try prepping meals ahead of time- some people i know who don't like to/don't have time to cook during the week dedicate a few hours on the weekend to prep meals for the week- think egg 'muffins' with different veg/cheese/meat combos, a batch of rice or whole grain something, sautee/roast off a bunch of veggies, and cook of meat- you can do a lot with chicken once it's already cooked- shred and add bbq sauce, dice and use greek yogurt as a base for chicken salad, etc.

it's the prep work that usually sucks all the fun out, so sometimes it's easier to take the (more expensive) pre-sliced route and get those diced onions and veggies! and honestly that sacrifice is worth the benefits of eating properly.

also, what if you make healthier versions of these foods? it's pretty quick and easy to make killer burritos/fajitas/tacos at home and they'll have a fraction of the calories. oven-fried chicken won't ever be quite the same, but it might satisfy him. and homemade pizza is easy (there are healthy pre-made crusts if you are not into making that from scratch!).

finally, does he know about your efforts? if you ask him to support you and limit the pre-prepped foods will he do that? maybe you guys can take turns making a healthy meal? or compromise some other way? he can help meal plan too by suggesting some things he wants to eat during the week.

ALBERTJON SparkPoints: (3,133)
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9/24/13 11:25 A

SONICB: I completely understand that about your BF and the dilemma that makes for you. In our younger days, the first 1/3rd of our married years, my wife would cook healthier meals or pack healthier meals when we went to softball or basketball tournaments, etc to watch the children play. But invariably I wanted to eat fried chicken, or burger and fries, or steaks, or pizzas in taverns/restaurants. So too often my wife caved-in to doing that. I also wanted to go out drinking and eat fatty tavern foods.

I wish I could offer words of wisdom; but the only thing I can think of is just that you have to stay the course, and eventually he will probably change, too.

SONICB Posts: 4,381
9/24/13 10:01 A

Sometimes. I am much more health-conscious about the food I eat than my boyfriend, but he will eat healthy homecooked meals that I prepare, mostly out of laziness on his part. But he often gets cravings for pizza & wings or Mexican food, and in these cases, I will eat smaller portions. It is tough to stay on track with the bad influence from his poor eating habits though. Usually I will make some progress and then he'll want to go out drinking or eat out, and then it's back to square one.

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9/23/13 10:52 P

Sometimes. I have a green smoothie for breakfast every morning, which he hates, so he makes his own breakfast.

Lunch we usually have sandwiches or whatever, so we just make them the way we like them.

At dinner we usually eat the same thing, although I might modify mine to be lower calorie or add more veggies.

ALBERTJON SparkPoints: (3,133)
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9/23/13 2:55 P

My wife and I seldom eat the same meal, although occasionally we each cook something that looks good to the other.

CLARK971 SparkPoints: (29,686)
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9/23/13 2:12 P

We don't eat exactly the same. A lot of times the meal is modified for our different needs. My husband, my kids and I have different calorie needs. I made kale chips for dinner tonight. Hubby won't touch them, but the kids and I will. Kids and hubby will have a bun with their burger tonight. I will skip the bun or use lower calorie bread. My daughter will have cheese on hers but I probably won't.

If I make pancakes and eggs, I may have a smaller portion of pancakes than the rest of my family, no syrup, or skip them all together.

When we have tacos, mine is a taco salad with a lot of lettuce, and a smaller amount of cheese and sour cream than my husband.

If I am making tuna salad, my husband's has just mayo. Mine has less mayo, celery, onions, cucumbers.

KENDILYNN SparkPoints: (22,924)
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9/23/13 10:53 A

My husband is an adventurous eater luckily, since I am an adventurous cook. When I'm cooking meatless (which is a lot lately) he may add a chicken breast or a steak, as his calorie and protein needs are quite a bit higher than mine. He probably wouldn't be to pleased with boring *diet* food, but he loves healthy food prepared in new and different ways.

LYNNIEV Posts: 394
9/23/13 9:34 A

Always. Mostly because he won't touch anything I eat.

9/23/13 9:23 A

I cook healthy foods for the house, if he chooses to eat something different that is up to him. I love the crockpot or big casseroles that I am package up for later (or lunches). Being thin doesn't mean that you can everything and anything, good nutrition is important for everyone.

MISSRUTH Posts: 4,300
9/23/13 8:56 A

DH and I usually eat the same things, but he'll have larger portions or maybe a slice of bread with his meal while I skip the bread altogether. And I usually eat a lot more low-starch vegetables than he does.

There are times though where we eat different things, and I do what Becky suggested-- I'll have stuff that I previously cooked in the crock pot and then froze in single-serve containers. Or I'll make myself something quick & easy, like tuna salad. And every once in a while, I'll do a store-bought frozen dinner, adding extra vegetables.

9/23/13 8:36 A


CMCOLE Posts: 2,667
9/23/13 7:59 A

Yes, we do.
While we share SOME items; there are others that are not part of my menu.

Plus, there are things to which he is allergic, and I could choose to eat these as part of my menu. Cheese is one thing - he's lactose intolerant.

He's allergic to white fish; so I usually avoid this at home, though.

YOJULEZ SparkPoints: (15,981)
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9/23/13 12:39 A

Nope. He eats whatever I eat, he just takes a bigger serving than I do. He also has snacks in the house that I don't eat, or even care to eat. He is thin as well, and is always trying to gain weight.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
9/22/13 5:38 P

Our shared meals at home are the same.

Plan ahead. Have several healthy and quick options figured out.
Cook or do some of the prep work in advance. You might cut up vegetables in advance or pre-cook a portion of the meal. Cook double the amount you need of a recipe and freeze the extra for a busy day.
I often cook more than we need for one meal and freeze the extra for future. If I don't feel like cooking I usually have 2 or 3 things I could pull from the freezer for a quick meal.
I do use my slow cooker.

ROBBIEY SparkPoints: (424,052)
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9/22/13 5:00 P

no, but I do have less of the foods that he eats and skip the deserts like ice cream that he likes.

9/22/13 4:11 P

My husband is a vegetarian and the kids and I are not. We all eat a lot of vegetables at meals and the kids and I eat meat and my hubby eats beans or cottage cheese instead.

9/22/13 4:05 P

There are several solutions and use them all to give variety.
1. Use your crockpot and start the meal in the morning---ready when you arrive home.
2. Find 5-10 really quick meals that you can prepare in 15 minutes or less. Keep the ingredients in your pantry always.
3. Find some frozen meals that meet your needs: lean cuisine, health choice, even shelf stable meals from HMR which you can purchase on-line. When he has his---you can have yours. Add a salad and/or fruit.

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9/22/13 3:42 P

Just because he's skinny doesn't mean he is healthy. Thoe pre packaged meals have a lot of sodium, which is bad for heart health. I usually make cooking light recipes, which my husband enjoys. He may eat two servings, I have one, and then have a leftover one to take to work for lunch!

I can't get him to eat veggies sometimes, but that means more for me :)

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9/22/13 3:39 P

Yup. It doesn't bother me, but I worry about my husband's heart health and risk for diabetes when he eats bad. Ultimately, it is a choice about if you want to be healthy, so when you think of that, the bad foods you stay away from most of the time isn't so tempting.

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9/22/13 2:59 P

This is the hardest thing for me. He is skinny and while he shouldn't eat unhealthy meals he chooses to. He'll eat prepackaged foods for dinners and actually ask for them. After a hard day at work then going for a quick workout its so much easier to fall victim to making that quick meal than to make something healthy for myself.

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