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6/22/11 6:22 P

I feel for you and hope that things are going better for you today.

DINGDONG55 SparkPoints: (79,337)
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6/22/11 1:27 P

I can get easily depressed sometimes because as I have gotten older I dont have as many friends when I was younger. I go on here everyday even if its just to spin the wheel and that lifts my spirits. This site is a God send.

GYDGET Posts: 6
6/22/11 11:32 A

Yes, I agree that SP can be a better source of inspiration than friends and family sometimes, because everyone knows what each other is going through!

I have been battling feelings of sadness and loneliness lately, with my female friendships not being as intimate as I'd like, and a recent breakup. And lots of nights, I just want to sit at home and drown out my feelings in a pint of ice cream, but instead, I try to get out and walk my dog or go to the gym and I always feel better afterwards.

Also, when you don't feel good about yourself and where you are, it's harder to put yourself out there to meet new people, engage with your friends and family, etc.!

SAXYSAI Posts: 664
6/22/11 10:09 A

If you won't get the support from home, get it here. I'm the same way. I find that I get better support on here.

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6/22/11 9:14 A

I hope things get better for you soon.

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6/22/11 8:56 A

I find when I start desending into the gloom as I call it that I try St Johns Wort which is a herbal remedy and also Bach Flower Rescue Remedies which have an amazing effect on me. Might be worth having a go if you don't fancy going back on regular medication.

DJHS121655 Posts: 494
6/22/11 12:34 A

i am in a similar situation i am on antidepressant medicine i still get really sad and my family does not want to heat it so i do understand i just keep plugging along i have been gaining and losing the same 10 lbs for about a year now but i do not know what to do

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6/22/11 12:20 A

I am also sorry that you don't feel you are getting support at home.

I also have read a book called 'The Feel Good Factor' by Patrick Holford which I found at my library. Holford is a psychologist and nutritionist, and has some really interesting stuff to say about diet. He is on the net at

The main things I took from the book was that the following can help with moods
1. Exercise
2. Vitamin D (from the sun, but can be supplemented)
3. Good sleep (8-9 hrs per night)
4. Balance blood sugar (avoid simple carbs, eat low GI)
5. B vitamins
6. Omega 3 fats are essential (from fatty fish like salmon, tuna, sardines)
7. St John's Wort

Interestingly, even it you get a good diet, he was suggesting that taking supplements for a short period of time can be beneficial to get you up to a good base level . . which can then be supported by a good diet.

There was heaps more in the book, so if you think it sounds interesting, it might help you avoid other drugs. Worth a try. Good luck

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6/21/11 9:57 P

he sounds alot like my boyfriend. talk to your doctor about prozac, it doesnt make you gain weight and has very little side effects.

SUNRISE14 Posts: 5,216
6/19/11 5:55 P

emoticon wow thats a shame. I AM REALLY SORRY FOR YOUR HUSBANDS ATTITUDE ! Is he always that mean about things? Sounds like verbal abuse to me ! IF I CAN HELP YOU IN ANYWAY I AM HERE DAILY !

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6/19/11 1:38 P


I know things are stressful at the moment for you, but you can improve your health. Do you work with a therapist ? If you're not working with a therapist, that might be a good option for you if you don't want to go back on the medication.

A good therapist (especially one with a background in treating disordered eaters) can help you work through your issues. Because the hubby is right on one point, constantly talking about food and how many calories X has isn't healthy. You want a healthy relationship with food and right now, you don't have that.

I'm going to recommend a good book that can help you. It's called Making Peace With Food by Susan Kano. You ought to be able to find it at your local library or even on amazon. It has exercises to help you, as they say,"make peace with food".


FROGGY80916 Posts: 110
6/19/11 12:53 P

I can understand where you are coming from, little or no support, feeling isolated and alone, and worried about medications and weight gain. First, talk to a doctor, there are medications that will not have weight gain associated with them, also track your food and proportions. Second, get moving, it helps to get endorphins going and multiplying, plus you will just feel better about taking care of yourself. Third, keep finding support here on Spark People, we are here for you and each other. (((HUGS))) emoticon emoticon

ACECHURA Posts: 226
6/19/11 11:39 A

I have some similarities to your situation. I also have no support at home. I have tried to get my husband to work out with me, but he just refuses. It makes mealtimes more difficult when you don't have that support. I talk to others about my goals, and even though he really doesn't say much about it, I still tell my husband when I lose weight, or that I am going to exercise. I also try to stay active in the communities I joined here. There is tons of support available here and I highly recommend taking advantage of it.

As far as the medicine, I would suggest talking to your doctor. See if there is a different medication that won't cause you to gain like your current one. You have to be really careful with anti-depressants in that you are not supposed to continuously go on & off of them. So definitely see if there is a better one out there for you.


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6/19/11 8:15 A

I have been feeling lately that I am slipping back into depression. I fell into a depression after I got into an accident and was in constant pain. I fought it because I didn't understand. Finally, I gave in and went on antidepressants. I gained 25 pounds in a matter of 2-3 months! After a year, I got off of the pills and lost the weight. Now I am fighting the flab and the weight is creeping back on. I am scared to go back on antidepressants because I don't want to ever gain that much weight again.
Last night at dinner I playfully said "guess how many calories the corn on the cob has?" and my husband let into me. He was sick and tired of my mention of calories all day long and at every meal! Apparently I am obsessing over it all. I see it as a game and was taking a playful approach. Well, ok, so I won't talk about it even thought it is a hugh part of who I am right now...working hard to get back to my old self. I don't get much support from my husband and kids.
All I ever want to do now is cry. I'm sad.

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