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CECISMOMMY09 SparkPoints: (0)
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12/27/12 7:10 P

Hello there i am severly Bipolar and i deal with this on a day to day basis!!! Right now I am on a "low" because I gained a few pounds over christmas break BUT a couple days ago I was on a "high" because I was doing so well. What help me is intense writing i just let all my frustations out what i wish i could be eating whatever I also blast music and go walk or do yoga!!!! depression blows but when i am in a funk i def come on here!! the people are so nice. We are all going through the same stuff

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12/26/12 3:50 P

Hi Melodie

Depression is not something that many of us can get through without the qualified input of a Dr and/or Therapist. You don't mention either of these and I get the impression you are struggling without their input. If this is so, then you really need to speak with your Dr and explain everything that is going on. Ask for a referral to a Therapist, too, because they can be a big help, including giving you the tools to help deal with your stressors. They will be able to teach you some good relaxation techniques (including breathing), which can be a huge help with anxiety issues. They can also be an excellent help with getting you over the hiccups that come along with this healthy lifestyle change.

I tried to access your SparkPage to see if you belong to any teams dealing with depression, but unfortunately it is set to "Private". If you would like to open you page so that others can visit, you will find that this will help you a lot, too, because other members will be able to offer more support. Also, if you don't belong to any of these specialist teams, you are welcome to go through my link at the bottom, and have a look around the Dealing with Depression team. There are well in excess of 900,000 members, and it is very active and supportive.

Good luck and stay in touch on the message boards for the best support from our members.


ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (200,109)
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12/26/12 1:19 P


Dealing with depression is not an easy thing. Have you talked to your doctor ? Do you work with a therapist ? A good therapist can help a person work through their issues with food and emotional eating. So, if you haven't already done so, talk to your doctor and ask for a referral to a therapist who treats people with food issues.

As I tell all new members,"don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was to drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction.

Good health isn't all or nothing. Every little bit really does make a difference. So, don't beat yourself up if you don't think you're doing enough. Do what you can even if it's something as small as drinking your water for the day. One small change is all it takes to change your life. Don't try to do everything at once or you will end up frustrated. Take baby steps literally and figuratively.

Start with some simple changes you CAN stick with. Example, if you're not used to eating 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies, set a goal to eat 2-3 servings each day for one week. if you're not used to drinking 8 glasses of water, set a goal to drink 2-4 glasses each day for one week. if you haven't been exercising, set a goal to take a 30 minute walk each day for one week. Once you've achieved these goals, then you set new ones.

And too encourage you to try to get some regular exercise. Many studies have shown that regular exercise can help boost your mood and decrease depression. So, how about taking a 30 minute walk at lunch time ? it's something simple you can to to help make your daily life a little more active and healthy.

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12/26/12 11:00 A

my greatest defense is exercise!! I have Generalized anxiety/panic disorder as well as Major Depression--when I feel it hitting-I get moving--when I am exercising--I dont have time to feel sad because I concentrate on breathing and pushing myself!! Im not very social so its hard to be around people outside my family--Spark has helped!! Hugs

MELODIERSA SparkPoints: (482)
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12/26/12 10:49 A

Thank you, I needed to hear that! I have added you :-)

YOUGOLALA SparkPoints: (5,746)
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12/26/12 9:25 A

I have been exactly where you are for decades. I'm not now, so I'm proof it can change. I know it's the hardest thing to put distance between you and your feelings when they're happening to you now, but I'm asking you to put a gap in between your depression/sadness/self sabotage and your response to it. These things LIE TO YOU and they've been lying to you for TOO long. You're on the right track being here at Spark and the depression tends to hang on even harder when you start seeking ways around it. The neural pathways of the brain are like grassy roads. You've walked over and over the depression/self-sabotage road for so long that it's well worn and well known & when you get the least bit stressed, there you are walking down it again. It's not joyful, but it's familiar, so it feels like YOU even though it feels bad. But there's another path in your brain: a path of joy, peace, goal setting, laughing, gratitude. The first few times you walk it will feel like someone else's path & you'll want to go back your old way. But don't. When the urge to cave hits me, I say out loud: STOP. You're lying to me. I don't HAVE to be miserable. Focus on one step at a time if you have to but begin to walk a path of gratitude. Name the things you're thankful for every morning & night (there's a message board for that right here on Spark). Try to find the humor in your situation every chance you get. People take themselves SO too seriously. Somewhere, God must smile sometimes about how much unnecessary pain we put ourselves through. Find friends who support you in your desire to change, if not nearby you, then here at Spark. Add me. I'll help. Right now you're going to have to learn to live in this MOMENT & to deal with only the tasks & challenges that are in the here and now, minute by minute, hour by hour. Eventually those minutes and hours will add up to a different and happier life. I promise.
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MELODIERSA SparkPoints: (482)
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12/26/12 8:30 A

Help! I seem to keep doing this to myself. I start to succeed and then sabotage myself. I am suffering from depression and anxiety at the moment and can't seem to pull myself out of this. On the surface I am functioning fine - at work with a smile on my face but inside I want to curl into a ball and cry. The issues contributing to my depression and anxiety are not within my control and there is nothing practical I can do to change these factors, I need to find a way to deal with them without resorting to self-sabotage.

This seems to be an ongoing cycle. Ideas and suggestions appreciated.


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