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MARIE219 Posts: 63
12/2/12 1:00 P

What about making the trophies on SparkPeople one of the measures of the competition? That sets you free from being the tracker, and gives them a long term tool. To up the ante, you could add rewards to the various levels, so that each of them wins something for moving up through the levels. Lots of great prize ideas posted already.

DROPCONE Posts: 1,592
12/2/12 11:38 A

I would not get involved in specific prizes for them & make them think up their own prizes. I don't know where they are at fitness-wise, but a big part of my journey has been mental, like learning how to reward myself without food, and learning what rewards work for me, as opposed to using rewards that are effective for others.

You have proven results, but what works for you might not work for them. The competitive environment you describe would destroy my health and happiness, and if I did it with my husband our marriage would be on the rocks in a week. It might work for your sis-in-law, but what if it doesn't work for your brother?

The massage reward you describe sounds more like a Fifty Shades of Gray thing and would be so creepy if anyone outside our relationship suggested it!

I would step away from the role of personal trainer, and just share your story and be supportive when they formulate their own goals. You can work out with them, teach them how you eat & guide them toward resources for better eating and exercise, but I'd stay out of their relationship! If they want to do it together, they can, but maybe they each approached you separately because they don't want their marriage partner to also be their fitness partner! Basically, that whole thing is something I would stay out of.

LOTUS737 Posts: 4,380
12/2/12 11:26 A

I think it's important to reward effort in addition to results- competition for who met/exceeded fitness minutes for the week, or hit a target number of miles, etc. Track it on a chart daily and at the end of the week the 'loser' makes dinner or gives the other a massage or does some task that neither ones to do around the house, or contributes $5 to the other's fund for new clothes or something. Then they can set new goals for the next week or change the challenge- mileage v. calories burned/target, etc. They can also incorporate longer term monthly challenges to track overall health changes as well!

STARDUST2K4 Posts: 1,376
12/2/12 11:11 A

That's wonderful that they've asked you!
If they want to get REALLY competitive, they can put a dollar (or a 5$ bill) each in a jar for every pound they lose, and whoever loses the most (percentage, not pounds) wins the pot?

Edited by: STARDUST2K4 at: 12/2/2012 (11:12)
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12/2/12 9:13 A

My brother and sister-in-law have both approached me (separately) and have asked me to help them become healthier/lose weight.

I'm both excited and honoured they asked me to help. Makes me feel like maybe I'm doing something right even though I beat myself up sometimes.

Here's what I need help with - can you shares ways you reward yourself that don't involve food! My sister-in-law is competitive so I plan to come up with challenges to pit them against each other - thinking whoever "wins" gets a massage from the "loser" kind of thing. Thought it would help them enjoy the process together.

Anyone have any other "prize" suggestions for me? Thanks!!

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