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BUBBLEJ1 Posts: 2,981
8/10/12 3:00 A

Say these words

No, thank you.

Say them again. And again. What goes into your mouth is your choice and yours alone.

My boss tries to push food on me, too. She says I'm skinny enough and I go to the gym, so it'll be fine. I'll either grab a wrapped, mini chocolate bar, or just say no and stick to it. If I grab a wrapped chocolate bar I stick it in my desk, which my workmates know is full of the chocolate that I grab at these events, so they usually come by and raid it before I have a chance to eat it!

SCTK519 Posts: 2,086
8/9/12 10:43 P

That's a tough one since how birthdays are celebrated at work is very much a work culture thing. At my work, for example, people bring in their own birthday treat and leave it in the break room, so you can choose to go get some or not without any pressure. If your work place is like that, then just wish the person a happy birthday and call it a day. Otherwise, I'd say just tell them you're not a cake person, lots of people aren't and it shouldn't be a big deal. Partaking on occasion would probably keep them at bay too; it's like inviting someone to do something, if they always say no, you'll stop inviting them, whereas going sometimes keeps you getting invited.

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8/9/12 2:59 P


I have used a lot of the Spark Recipe's and they are all really good. I found a Spinach & Artichoke dip there that looks low fat.

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8/9/12 2:27 P

Lucky you! And yes it's magnesium that we're craving.

I would just say no thank you over and over until they get the point.

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8/9/12 2:26 P

Your metabolism hasn't stopped. :) I know you probably meant that as a bit of a hyperbole, but if your metabolism stopped, you'd be dead! It may have slowed, but it can't stop.

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8/9/12 2:16 P

I don't PMS. I don't have the girly parts that cause it. Glad I don't except that was the beginning of my metabolism stopping. Correction stopping means tortoise like function it wasn't meant literally.

Edited by: HENDRICKSSISSY at: 8/9/2012 (14:58)
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8/9/12 2:07 P

Mmmm, spinach and artichoke dip... It's pretty easy to make a low-fat version at home with nonfat evaporated milk, whole wheat flour, part skim cheese, spinach, artichoke hearts, garlic and onions.It's been on my list of things to do! You can dip in whole wheat pita or other veggies. YUM. Such a better comfort food than cake. Did you know that if you eat spinach when you're PMSing, it provides the same nutrient that we crave when we want chocolate? (magnesium maybe? I forget).

I do the same thing, with saving my sweet treat till the evening so I don't crave it later in the day! It really works.

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8/9/12 1:33 P

Unfortunately if I took a Slice I would eat it because my mother inbedded in my brain you must eat all of the food you take. I think I would rather save the calories for something I really want like Spinach and Artichoke dip! Ym.....and you know what else I'm not good at the one bite thing either.


CHEETARA79 Posts: 3,913
8/9/12 1:19 P

Can you take a slice and not eat it? I know that's wasteful but I see lots of people do that at corporate birthday parties. Usually if you take the food that's offered, that satisfies the food-pushers enough even if they don't see you eat any of it.

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8/9/12 1:16 P

Thanks to all for the good advice. Eating anything sweet does just make me crave it more which is why I try to avoid it. I did indulge and had a extremely small (wafer thin) piece this time and true to form I wanted more sweets later and ate too many calories for the day even though they were all healthy choices. I do like all of the advice but I think this is the rule I will use for future birthday parties:

: Yes, I know I can have it and I know how to work it into my healthy eating plan, BUT I am saving my "extra calories" for a XXX later in the day (or my evening bowl of ice cream, an appetizer at the restaurant tonight, or whatever).

I do like to save the calories it seems to be a trend. I kind of plan my meals in advance most of the time and leave a few calories at the top of the range in case I make a less than desirable choice..

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8/8/12 2:49 P

There is nothing wrong with saying, "No, thank you." No one will actually force food into your mouth. If they're offended, that's their problem. If you really want to take a piece of cake, take a small one, take one bite (I find one bite is enough to remind me of how disgusting bakery birthday cakes are, really), and throw the rest away when no one is looking. Or just take it and throw it away, period, as Panda says. And good luck!

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8/8/12 2:46 P

Make a rule: You eat cake for a birthday once every... (week, 2 weeks, month, etc.), but only when YOU want it. Stick with that. When someone tries to push cake on you and you've eaten it, you can say, "Sorry, I've already had my piece for this month, but I look forward to next one!" And if they still try to push something on you, or you feel the social urge to take a break and celebrate, have a piece of fruit or a cup of tea or coffee in the break room with everyone else.

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8/8/12 2:28 P

DRAGONCHILDE: In theory you are spot in, but realistically, some people just *can't* have those types foods because it will trigger a binge.
I am one of those people. If I would have listened to this advice 6 months ago, I would still be eating (and rationalizing) a pint or 2 of Ben and Jerry's ice cream every week. I *had* to take a break from it to be able to come back and eat a reasonable portion without triggering a binge - and even now, I still must be very careful because the urge is still there, but is much more easier to work through.

If I worked in an office setting where a food that I know I *can't* eat will be commonly available, then I would try to avoid it if at all possible. If people are pushy, I would take a piece, go back to my desk and discard it. Or I might go so far as to tell people that I have a food allergy or sensitivity that I just found out about and am trying to regulate that.
It always seems that if people know you are trying to watch what you eat, be healthy, or lose some weight, they try to sabotage it.

It is ok to walk away. And when you feel comfortable fitting that piece of cake in to your day and are confident that you can do so without negative consequences, then make it a planned choice and go for it!

8/8/12 2:27 P

It is when these celebrations turn into "almost daily" occurances that "eating sweets" can easily become an issue. And I also understand that perhaps you are "saving calories" for later in the day. And perhaps if you want to spend your calories on a "sweet treat" you would rather go for something really good, not a sickening sweet store bought cake smoothered in a plastic frosting.

Anyway....I would use a comment such as: Yes, I know I can have it and I know how to work it into my healthy eating plan, BUT I am saving my "extra calories" for a XXX later in the day (or my evening bowl of ice cream, an appetizer at the restaurant tonight, or whatever).

Do not let others push food into your mouth. Stay in control of what you really want to eat and when you eat it. These folks are diet saboteurs.

SP Dietitian Becky

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8/8/12 12:54 P

Why can't you eat it? You're given a range for a reason. Use it!

As long as you stick to reasonable, SMALL portions, and track it, there's no reason you can't. slices of cake run 200-300 calories.

Sparkpeople is not about deprivation at all. If you're denying yourself occasional treats, it's because you're still in the diet mentality... right?

There's nothing wrong with budgeting the occasional treat. One piece of cake won't hurt you. :) In fact, it'll do a lot for your happiness level. Some diet plans I've read include "happy calories" for the day... these are calories that you can spend any way you like, as long as you eat healthy the rest of the time. You can even "bank" them to spend all at once at the end of the week. I like the idea, though I don't diet; What matters is your intake over the week, not the treat now and again once in a while.

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8/8/12 12:37 P

In my office they are always celebrating someone's birthday and we have some permanent dieters in this office. They tell me oh only one piece isn't going to hurt you and I can seem to get them (especially my boss) to understand that I can't eat it. I just have looked all over for a reasonable amount of cake to eat that can still make me feel ok about eating it? Any idea's? emoticon

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