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KRMFREEONE Posts: 1,005
6/17/14 6:40 A

i'm trying. I bust out a new fruit on her all the time, and she eats them all, but other stuff is such a battle even to try,,did i metnion she s 5?

MICHELLEXXXX SparkPoints: (12,347)
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6/17/14 3:45 A

I believe in limiting options; they can only eat what I provide. I am responsible for their health.

KKKAREN Posts: 12,754
6/16/14 2:15 P

My "kid" is a grownup now and she eats better than I do! So I guess yes I did teach her well. She is teaching my Grandkids well too. We all eat very healthy.

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6/16/14 12:30 P

My son's newest thing lately is he likes to help me cook. This gives me a great opportunity to help him learn healthy eating. He is also starting to help more in the garden.

However, he is also in the stage of "all green things are terrible." We don't battle over foods but vegetables are provided at every meal. He will eat carrots, so he gets some carrots and a green vegetable. He always asks why I give him the green one and I state that someday he will try it and find out it tastes good.

There is a deli we like to eat out at sometimes, and the sandwiches come with either fruit or chips. I'm happy that he usually asks for the fruit. His diet is perfect, but he is growing up healthy and strong.

TRYINGHARD54 Posts: 5,292
6/16/14 8:55 A

my grandkids, yes when i can. but i won't push the issue a lot. I heard my grandson say the other day how many calories are in that. he's 7 my daughter is a healthy eater.
i don't want my grandkids to worry about how they look at such a young age. They are not overweight . Yes they will eat lunch cakes ,but they also like fruits and veggies.

6/16/14 8:37 A

Well, there's the idea situation and reality. I can offer my kiddo the best nutrition around. Whether he eats it is another matter completely. Sometimes you're just glad they eat anything at all (he's 2, so I'm hoping he grows out of this.) Right now my kiddo loves Larabars. So essentially sugar and fat because they are just dates and nuts. He also loves any kind of carb-potatoes, bread, crackers. At this point I just keep offering the healthy options along with the sure things, and hopefully he'll at least try the other stuff. Also, offering it all together just makes it all food, not that some foods are more "special" than others. For example, kids are more likely to eat the carrots and the cupcake if the cupcake is just part of the plate rather than something "special" eaten only after the meal. At least that's what I've found. (Ironically, my kiddo isn't into cupcakes and sweets when I do make them, he wants the bread and such, lol.)

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6/16/14 8:29 A

My mother actually attempted to prepare healthy meals which usually included vegetables, unfortunately, the portions were far too big and the healthy part was supplemented with lots of baked goodies. A meal was not a meal unless there was a large portion of fattening dessert at the end of it.

As a young adult, or even while still an adolescent, I realized that portion/calorie control was essential in order to maintain a healthy weight, but by then I had also learned to comfort myself and cope with life by overeating, especially the richest most fattening sweets.

When raising my own children, I tried to set a good example and teach them about nutrition. I know my own struggles and examples were not entirely a positive influence on them, but one thing I tried very hard to instill is "moderation in everything." I feel that strictly forbidding sugary sweets would not be helpful since I could not be with them every second and they would likely "love" these things when they tried them outside my watchful eye and control.

However I do recall when my oldest was a toddler, we attended a cousin's birthday party. I gave my daughter a very small piece of cake (because she was basically a baby!) and my sister informed me that she would get fat some day, and that I was "starving her!" She would get fat when she went to school, because then she would make up for it all, and then some as soon as she was out of my site. My daughter was not starving. But the bigger takeaway is that my children were not overweight in their K-12 years but my sister's children were.

I did not force my children to eat any food that they hated, but vegetables were served as normal parts of meals and generally they were NOT allowed to have special meals because they didn't like what was beings served. My children most definitely did grow up liking vegetables and even expected them with any good meal. My son's children also like vegetables. I'm sure there are exceptions but I believe that children do learn by example and encouragement to eat healthy foods. I think in most cases, somebody is doing something wrong when they have a child growing up who absolutely refuses all vegetables and maybe even fruits too.

Also, if a child is obviously overweight, I don't think diets are necessarily the answer, but a very conscientious effort to steer the child in healthier directions is warranted. A start would be to replace all caloric drinks with non-caloric drinks (preferably water). Getting fattening snacks, chips, cookies out of the house completely would be the next step. If a child insists he/she is hungry when you suspect the child is really just bored or wants to eat because they are sad or happy, or it just tastes really good, then make sure that all is available is fruit such as an apple. If they are hungry, they will eat it. But they are not going to need five apples the way they would feel they "need" five cookies to feel satisfied.

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6/16/14 6:23 A


BANKER-CHUCK Posts: 6,781
6/15/14 9:47 P

I try but very difficult. Parents need to set good examples themselves. It cannot be a "don't do as I do but do as I say".

AMARISRON Posts: 1,205
6/17/13 6:05 P


6/12/13 3:36 P

So true - you must lead by example!
Try the old standbys, like keeping healthy snacks on hand such as cut up fruit and veg ready to go. Sneak veg in where you can (in a smoothie). Engage them in the kitchen by including them in food preparation. Helping make dinner can be a nutrition, math and science lesson all in one while also spending time together.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
6/11/13 6:44 P

I don't believe in forcing kids to eat something
I believe in training them to eat healthy.
I think you do this by providing healthy options and making fruits and vegetables a normal part of their diet...(even if you need to add a little sauce). I know a lot of families pressed for time that resort to processed convenience foods. The problem is a lot of the nutrition has been processed out of their diets at the most crucial time. Healthy eating is a family affair...but some of us never truly outgrow our love of junk food...and we pass that tradition down. When you look at other cultures and compare their to ours, we often lag behind in the nutrition department because of what we choose to put on the table in front of them

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6/11/13 5:12 P

I am one of those people whose food issues began in childhood. My mom was always trying to get us to eat healthy, but her idea of healthy was whatever she read on the cover of a magazine while in line at the grocery store, crossed with whatever was cheap. She is a big fan of fat-free, sugar-free everything. I used to be so hungry when I was a kid that it would wake me up at night. Whenever my dad was in town and my mom was busy, he'd take us out to eat. So she was nearly starving us, and he was overfeeding us.

My sisters and I are all extremely overweight. I haven't lived in my mother's house for many years, I know it's not her fault that I'm overweight at this point. She's still at it...I can't convince her that my father needs more than 1100 calories a day and needs some real food, not just chemicals, to stay healthy. I have to tell her to leave my kids alone about what they eat or what she thinks of their shape. My grandmother was anorexic until the day she died, so I'm sure my mother got her share of food issues from her mother.

I have a different attitude towards food with my kids. I let them eat what they want to eat and I don't make an issue out of food. We have healthy options and not-so-healthy options, and they seem to go for the healthy options just as often as the junk food. I never make them finish what's on the plate if they're already full. I don't force them to eat things they think are gross. So far, it's working. They're both a healthy size and youngest is very short for her age, but that's not from what she eats. My goal is not to make food an issue...let it be what they eat when they're hungry, not a source of conflict or comfort, either one.

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6/11/13 4:57 P

Each kid is different. All 3 are teens now.
My oldest is overweight. Since he was a baby, he never had an "off" button for food. (He even overate breast milk!) My 2nd doesn't want to be like his brother, so he has had periods of presenting as anorexic. He doesn't want anything "green" or healthy. My 3rd at least attempts to listen, but the veggie intake is sadly lacking.

I don't stop having good-for-you foods in the house. DH and I continually make healthy choices for the most part, but the kids are not following our example. We grow a lot of our own food, and the kids don't even access the quality foods when they have the chance. It is very disappointing...

HOLLYM48 Posts: 19,541
6/11/13 4:50 P

yes, by example and by buying and eating healthy foods.

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6/11/13 4:19 P

Trying my best

BUNNYKICKS Posts: 2,433
6/11/13 3:48 P

I tried very hard when my son was a baby... even when he started school, I went to a lot of effort with the lunch box. But then came high school, his own freedom to buy junk that I couldn't control, and this all coincided with my own personal slide into poor eating habits and weight gain.

So, he's 17 now, almost 18, but living at home probably for at least 1 more year... and i've been making it my personal mission to make up for lost time and the errors that occurred over the last 5 years. It's a LOT of work, I get up each morning and make him yogurt with fruit and an egg mcmuffin type thing, or some similar healthy breakfast, and a sandwich for his lunch. "He should learn to make his own" - wellll yeahhh but if left to his own devices, he'll eat cold cereal for breakfast and pack a processed-cheese-slice-and-mayo-sandwich, get starving by 10am, eat his lunch for a snack, and hit up McDonalds with his friends for lunch. So. I bite the bullet for now and just do what I SHOULD have been doing, but didn't.

He is now used to the nice breakfasts, lunches and of course home-cooked dinners, and he's even getting a bit more adventurous with the vegetables... and slowly but surely I'm making him learn to do it himself (he gets the choice - helping cook the meal or helping clean up after it... since he hates cleaning, there's some motivation to learn to cook). I'm going to make him a cookbook of Cheap Easy foods at some point before he moves out, in the hopes that his Default Options once he's on his own will be for "easy! delicious yogurt and granola!" and not "2 packets of ramen noodles."

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
6/11/13 1:58 P

I know too many people who blame a lack of time for just buying lots of processed food and snacks so they don't have to deal with food issues with their kids. I think kids respond the way that they are trained. Teach them that fruit is their snack and they will be more likely to eat it. Have them at least try something and they might like it. I had an aunt with 6 kids, she had to make 3 different meals because of different tastes...they never dared pulled that nonsense on my mother (their aunt). And getting them involved in the kitchen gets them more interested and teaches them life lessons.

LOUNMOUN Posts: 1,334
6/11/13 11:07 A

I've discussed nutrition with my dd. I plan healthy meals. Dh and I eat good food.
Most of our meals are prepared from scratch at home. We eat together as a family at the dining table almost every night.
We don't buy a lot of junk food. It isn't forbidden but is a "sometimes food".
My dd is anti-vegetable and wary of trying new things. I encourage and provide opportunities but I don't force her to eat something. I encourage her to pick out fruit at the store since she likes fruit.
We eat meatless meals often.
I don't want dd forming a habit of skipping meals so I encourage her to eat at regular times.
I encourage her to portion out food into a dish rather than eating from a container.
I feel that dd has been given the information about what is and isn't healthy, has access to a variety of healthy food and can make her own choices. Sometimes she will not make the healthiest choice and we have discussed that. I know that tastes change and she may eat something as an adult that she refuses now. It isn't a battle. I'm not stressed about what dd eats.

I grew up in a meat and potato house with limited variety of canned vegetables. I wasn't forced to eat anything particular as a child. I eat differently as an adult but don't feel I ever had a problem with food other than skipping meals.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
6/11/13 8:59 A

does that mean she still doesn't listen to you
(since you continue to preach to her)

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6/11/13 8:49 A

My daughter is 38 now and I still preach fruits and veggies to her.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
6/11/13 8:26 A

I love watching parents interacting with their tots in the produce section teaching them the names of different things and getting them interested.

It bothers me that so many people don't even try to push veggies (or even different foods) a little more. Some parents just keep giving kids junk food snacks to pacify them and then struggle trying to get them to eat healthy meals. At least make snacks nutritious
As they say..When one is hungry, anything will taste good

Edited by: SHERYLDS at: 6/11/2013 (08:26)
MATTHEW0498 SparkPoints: (32,853)
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6/11/13 7:56 A

Moderation is key in my opinion. I think if you make anything completly off limits, it makes it more appealing. My oldest son has never liked pop so I lucked out there. I never said there was something he could never had, but I always limited the amount.

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6/11/13 7:37 A

Yes in order to teach children to eat healthy -- you must lead by example. Our son drinks no pop, sugared drinks of any kind including juice....water or milk and that is by his choice -- his big splurge is chocolate milk. He is almost eleven and has avoided the two biggest sugar mistakes which cause obesity in children -- POP AND JUICE

Proud to say his parents led by example

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6/11/13 6:21 A

Many years ago when my children were small (now daughter 36yrs and son 32yrs) I told them what carbs, protein, healthy fats, fibre, etc. were. When I asked them what they had to eat today (when I came home from work in the week-ends) I was generally told that they had had carbs, and protein, and fibre and then they would tell me what the foods were. Sometimes I would say things like "was there much protein in that?" and I would get a 'yes' or 'no'. My son is 32 and he STILL does this - LOL!


6/11/13 6:04 A

My daughter eats more fruits and veggies than my son does. I also try not to keep the bad foods in the house forcing them to make better options.

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6/10/13 10:22 P

My kids are awesome eaters, and they love their fruits and veggies. We eat some "exotic" foods and they're usually pretty open-minded about trying new things. It makes me a very proud mama.

I struggle a little with how to discuss food/nutrition with them in our fast-food world. I try to avoid labeling foods as "good" or "bad". I try to explain that we limit sugar/sweets/fatty foods because they don't have any nutritional value, rather than saying they will "make you fat." I read nutrition labels with my kids (7 and 3) and let them measure out a serving so they realize what is a proper serving size of cereal/crackers/peanuts. They're often shocked at how little they get, and I explain that what they have is an adult-sized serving! We don't eat out often, but when we do, I steer them towards the healthier choices while letting them keep some semblance of control of what they order. They'll often choose a cheeseburger off the kids menu, but they have to choose one of the healthier sides (applesauce, carrot sticks, steamed veggies) instead of fries. This works well for us.

We run into some problems when they see how my rules are more strict than their friends' parents, or they want Lunchables in their lunchbox or soda with dinner because someone else gets to have it. Honestly, I don't want to give in once because I'm afraid of the slippery slope. I also hope that my "rules" don't give them a complex, and make them bee-line for the nearest McDonalds they day they get their driver's license!

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6/10/13 9:37 P

When my daughter was little, I did teach her to it healthy; and today, at 25 years old, she is in great shape!!!!

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6/10/13 8:10 P

I must have by example, because as adults they are! emoticon Also, all are into fitness, too.

SHERYLDS Posts: 17,523
6/10/13 7:55 P

Some of us 'blame' our parents for bad food relationships (begun in childhood).
Some of us grew up on meat and potatoes with a token veggie on the plate.
Now that we are grown-ups

How are you handling food in your family with your kids or your grandkids?

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Andrew Zimmern: 4 ways to make your kid an adventurous eater

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