Sounds like you and your girlfriend have a very stable and mutually supportive relationship. 6 years and both improving in physical fitness. Great going!
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305 10/3/12 6:51 A
MY GF is my training partner and accountablity buddy. I was very Ill a few years ago and she agreed to come to classes with me to support me even though she did not like fitness stuff. 6 years or so later she is down to half her dress size without losing much weight, has got over a muscular imbalance caused by a childhood accident, and if I am working will go on her own to classes.
We're all into virtual community here -- hey, we're posting message to folks we can't see. So the idea of a virtual workout buddy or accountability buddy makes some sense. At least to me. Anyone interested in that kind of thing?
I think all my stuff is public. I want the accountability. In the past, I've even posted my weekly goals and progress toward those goals on my Facebook page. I stopped that when I moved to Spark.
I do have a friend and my brother holding me accountable. I check in with both of them at least weekly. I also use my brother as a sort of sponsor a la a 12 step program. If I feel the pull of a binge, I'll text or call him and he helps me stay on track.
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9/27/12 9:50 P
Sadly, I have learned over the years that those "buddies" don't work so well. I use my inner strength and faith in God to get me through.
I think it's a great idea, and for some things, maybe a virtual accountability buddy would work. I'd like to try that right here on SparkPeople. Who's game?
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23 9/26/12 1:12 P
There's different levels of accountability. You have to pick a partner that meets your needs. If you need someone to make sure you drag yourself to the gym, then a workout buddy or personal trainer is fine. If it's the "gentle reminder" that you just took a portion big enough for three people, then your other is perfect. When you're needing to completely change your mindset or perspectives, that's when a coach can offer you the most.
Ok, so SO is out, but it can be, but isn't always a good thing to have someone helping you on it.
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262 9/21/12 10:13 A
Totally agree (re: SO being the AP).
I life coach once told me: no one wants their SO to coach them, because that's not the type of intimacy you want from your SO.
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12,630 9/20/12 11:16 A
When I first started a "biggest loser" competition a couple of years ago, I had a personal trainer for a couple of days per week. It was ok, but I find now I work better on my own. My wife, on the other hand, needs that accountability that a trainer provides - not wanting to let the trainer down if she slips backwards.
Having your SO as the accountable person scares me, because there is a fine line between support and nagging!
I'd suggest trying different options to see which works best for you.
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262 9/20/12 1:11 A
I do believe in personal coaches, because they're skin in the game (paying the person).
I've not had success when the person holding me accountable is a buddy, since they're typically not motivated to call me on my crap (they're a buddy first, right?).
I'm just curious, has anyone here ever enlisted another person to help them stay accountable for their health and fitness goals. This may include personal trainers, significant others, or even pen or e-mail pals that you would communicate with over the internet. For people that have pre-existing relationships with their accountability partner, how has that effected your relationship with them?
On a related note, I noticed on the front page today a thing about making your tracked diet and fitness public. Have you done this? Apparently mine has been public this whole time, but I cant imagine someone looking to see what I have been doing without having a good reason to do so.