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MARYGOLD5 Posts: 3,700
12/20/12 1:11 P

Don't give up. I have no family support because I don't have a tremendous amount of weight to lose. They don't seem to understand that I need this to be healthier. When I get discouraged, I just look at how far I've already come and how much better I already feel. I am not doing this for anyone else. I am doing it for myself. You are worth doing this for yourself. Take one day at a time and don't let a setback cause failure. Get back on track stay strong. emoticon emoticon

TURNERBOY01 SparkPoints: (2,978)
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12/19/12 5:29 P


12/19/12 10:20 A

Love all 196 lbs of you!!! Yes, you want to loose more and I believe you will. But first, just take a mini vacation. Walk in the woods, listen to a stream or anything other thing that you can easily find that will mentally remove yourself from the stress. Get away from it all, even if it is just for 30 minutes. Take time to remind yourself of all of the good things that are enclosed in that wonderful body of yours.

Then remind yourself of the famous turtle that won the race!! If you have fallen off the wagon, just get back on and remember that a sprinter always burns out eventually. It's the long term that counts.

You can become the healthiest possible YOU!!! Don't allow outside influences to get you down. They all thought the rabbit would win the race!!

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12/18/12 8:24 P


Don't you dare give up hope and don't even think about stopping your progress.
Three weeks is HUGE! You should be proud of yourself - not stressing because of some family members decree that you must lose weight. Allow me to give you a pat on the back right now! ((pat)) ((pat))

Everything Archi and Nancy said is 100% correct. I gently ask that you go back and re-read their suggestions.
Only when I began to listen to what these experts said and put it into practice did I succeed.
When Archi speaks about eating 6-9 servings of fruit and veggies a day, heed it! That is what made all the difference for me. I cannot overstate how important that has been and continues to be for me. It has allowed me to quit dieting forever (!!) and to finally *get* this lifestyle thing.

I just had a two day baking session for Christmas. Did I eat Christmas cookies? You bet! I ate more than a few but not like what I would have done pre-Spark. And I made SURE to eat my 9 servings of veggies as well. I'm telling you: they act as an insurance and seem to allow me the freedom to "go off plan" on occasion and not suffer the consequences.
What's more: I didn't fret or stress about the cookies! I enjoyed them and then just got back to my now normal healthy way of eating. And guess what - having treats is a part of that!

If the last three weeks have been tortuous for you, please rethink "dieting" and opt for lifestyle instead. You'll be much happier, you'll see steady progress and you'll never "diet" again.

One last thing: consider ditching the scale. I don't use one at all nor do a lot of members. Imagine - no scale stress! Some people do use a scale but if that's a source of drama for you, why put yourself through that? Your clothes will tell you what you need to know. You could always tell yourself you'll weigh in a month. When the month is up, decide if that's still what you want to do.
I haven't weighed since I started and only then to get a calorie range.

Please don't give up. Spend a lot of time on the success pages and Woo-Hoo board. I want you to imagine the person succeeding is YOU because it can be and will be if you don't give up. So many of us are living proof.

You can do this!
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12/18/12 2:44 P


It's only been three weeks. While a safe weekly weight loss would be 1-2 pounds per week, there may be weeks you don't lose. There may even be weeks you gain ! And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. This isn't the Biggest Loser. The weight doesn't magically drop off the minute we decide we need to lose. It really could take 6-8 weeks of healthy eating and regular exercise before a person sees a change in the scale. And that too is perfectly normal.

So, don't assume something is wrong because the scale isn't moving as fast as you'd like. As Coach Nancy noted, the scale is only one way to measure success. there are many others. Are your clothes starting to fit a bit better ? Do you notice you have a bit more energy ? Do you notice that you're endurance has improved a bit ? Can you do more push ups today than you could three weeks ago ?

While we'd all love for the weight to be gone overnight, it's just not that simple. It's true that most Americans eat too much and need to eat less, the problem is that they are eating too much of the wrong food and not enough of the right food. The fact is, the QUALITY of the food you eat impacts your waistline more than you'd think. It's not just move more, eat less.

You have to move more AND eat right. If I were to go back in time and give myself one piece of advice that would help me lose weight, it would be to increase the amount of fresh fruit and veggies I ate. If you really want to see a change in your health and your weight, do your best to eat 6-9 servings of fresh fruit and veggies. Weight loss is nothing more than a byproduct of a healthy lifestyle. In short, if you're eating right, the weight will come off on its own.

As the Coaches all say,"trust the process". Don't expect miracles in such a short time. You didn't gain the weight overnight, it's not coming off overnight. thus the reason to be patient with yourself and your body.

I'm sorry that your family is pressuring you to lose weight. Unfortunately, I can tell you what's going to happen. You will lose the weight, but you'll also regain all of it plus extra. That's what happened to me (and many other SP members) who were pressured by their families to lose.

You have to lose weight for YOUR own reasons, not theirs. Because if you do it for them, you won't have any reason to keep it off for yourself. You can't make them happy. You have to make yourself happy first. So, don't beat yourself up because you're not losing as fast as they want you to lose.

Let me ask you, why do YOU want to lose weight ? When you can answer that question, that's the motivation that will keep you going beyond the three week marker.

One last piece of advice,"don't look at weight loss or good health with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Every little bit really does add up. But once again, you have to decide why you want to lose the weight. this has to be for yourself. It can't be for anyone else.

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12/18/12 1:48 P


The scale is just one tool for measuring one's progress, unfortunately it is not the most reliable in telling one's 'REAL' progress or one's true health/fitness picture. Sticking with a sound nutrition plan, exercise including, cardio, strength training and flexibility workouts, managing stress, and getting plenty of sleep is a surefire way to get you to meet your goals sooner than later.

The worst thing you can do to break your motivation is by stepping on the scale all the time. This journey is so much more than losing weight and getting is truly a journey of self-discovery-I call this, the why I do what I do when I do scenario. When we start to make a conscious connection to doing what we know is not in our best interest only then can we change.

I hope this helps!

Coach Nancy

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12/18/12 1:00 P

Help! The scale is not moving.It is glued to 196 lbs. My family is pressuring me to lose weight.
I know, eat less, exercise more....I am feeling very fatigued, not sure why!

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