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TISTEN23 SparkPoints: (31,222)
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6/19/12 11:35 A

I am very sorry!!! Stress and babies can make you gain weight!! Start small, go on a family walk/bike ride. Join the local gym with the family, or just for yourself. Once you start feeling a little better about yourself, things wiht the hubby will probably get better. Look at your finances, see if there is any extra spending that you dont need to be doing. I wish you the best!!!

DAWNDMOORE40 Posts: 3,826
6/19/12 8:49 A

emoticon There are no words Brendena that can take away the emptiness that we feel when we lose someone who was very close to us! It doesn't matter how long or full of a life they lived, it still feels like a part is missing. The best advice I can give you after losing both of my parents by the time I was age 28, is one day at a time! There are going to be days you want to cry and days you will want to be angry, but eventually you will be able to look back with fond memories! You will always have those memories and that is something not even time can take away! I am not sure how strong you are in the faith, but God is my rock and he is always there for us no matter what we are going through! We just have to open our hearts to him and believe that he is our heavenly father and that he loves us unconditionally! If there is anything else we can do, let us know! I will be praying for you! God bless you! emoticon

BRENDENDA Posts: 118
6/19/12 8:27 A

i just lost my mum...she was 86, while i was away, to my hometown, I gained 9 pounds, i want to lose the weight, but I am so down, i need to feel happy for the life she gave me, and yet..i feel like things dont matter....I am a grandmother of 6 and I know life has to go on...but, how??

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6/3/12 9:36 P

Hi there I am sorry to read about the difficult situation you find yourself but I am glad that you shared it with us instead of keeping it inside. I too have found myself in a simiilar situ situation. I don't pretend to know what exactly you are feeling but I want to let you know that you can do this for me I found out that I was depressed and medication helpped somewhat the rest was up to me. I found that not over thinking it and just getting to the gym made a difference even when I get to the gym I have to fight myself to finish the workout but I find it getting easier with time. I hope that you will find success a the world would miss out if you are not the best you you can be.

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6/3/12 12:51 P

emoticon Jtall! Here is some things I have tried: Writing in a journal when your emotions start to try and take over your eating!
I take things one day at a time! Don't try taking big steps, but baby steps! Remember God never forsakes us! So I believe prayer is very important on this journey of life!
Try cutting down on your cigarettes and not trying to quite all together, all at once! I know life can seem overwhelming, but you have to be positive for yourself! You have to stay true to yourself because if you don't, who will? I wish you the best with your situation! God bless you and we are always here for you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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5/22/12 1:25 P

for me it has been one minute and literally one decision at a time. Give up the cigarette just this one time...or deciding I will work on folding laundry for 10 minutes then "watch the next show". Just to try to get myself moving again. Sometimes once I get started I can keep going onto something else...or forget that treat I was wanting. Slowly it is getting better. Hope this helps you.

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5/18/12 6:51 P

You need to discover what will motivate/drive you. For me it was terror that I wouldn't be alive to care for my partner and children - and be like my mother. She is literally addicted to sugar, and it's led to her diabetes and recent pancreatic cancer that she is suffering now. I couldn't have given, initially, two hoots about looking beautiful etc., though that has been slowly working its way in as I lose the weight...
And it's also about how I feel. I feel amazing, healthy and vital - even with my current health issues (sjogren's is definitely the worst!) I am coping better with bad news and other upsets in my life.

Goo luck! It's very worth it whatever sets you off in the right direction, you'll find countless other motivations to keep you going on the way!

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5/18/12 2:20 P

I understand where you feel how you do because it wasn't that long ago (and I mean a few months) where I felt similar to how you fee. I was so unhappy with myself and it showed in everything I did. And like the others said, when you look at everything that's wrong all at once it is incredibly overwhelming and makes you want to give up before you start. Taking little steps forward really does work because once you achieve one small goal you will want to achieve so much more. I decided that I had wasted enough time being miserable since it was me that was doing it to myself. I didn't want my kids to think I was unhappy all the time. I wanted them to have someone to look up too and not a mom that they felt sorry for. Don't give up and keep trying, and if you fall again, pick yourself right back up. Because no one can change you except for you and everyone of us has it in us to change. You just have to dig deep and find yours. Good Luck on your Journey

JENMC14 Posts: 2,786
5/10/12 10:04 A

I think step one is to quit smoking. It will benefit your health and your finances. I suggest chewing sugar free gum. It's what I do when I start to feel snacky, but know I'm not truly hungry. I know it's not the same as a smoke, but it's not food, and it's something to replace the cigarrette. Next start to lok at, I mean really look at, what you eat and when. Add movement, any movement to your day. Throw on some music and dance with your kids, even if it's just a few minutes. My kids LOVE to play "Dance Party". Start with small steps and you will get there!

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5/9/12 6:22 P

I agree that you need to just take baby steps and start working toward you goals. The first thing you need to do though is find the driving force that will carry you through. You need to find that thing that makes you serious about going forward. I know most folks talk about motivation and I agree, we all need it. But to me, motivation is the folks on the side line cheering you on as you run past them in a race. The driving force is what got you to want to train and run in the race in the first place. It can really be a silly thing too, but if it's important to you, then it will keep you going.

You have a young family and kids (and a husband) that need you. For many, that would be a driving force. But that doesn't mean it is for all people. So did deep and figure out what you want, how bad you want it and what is going to drive you to attaining it. Then you can start putting the other pieces to the plan as you go along. Keep the faith.

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5/9/12 5:32 P

There's a lot going on, and I mean A LOT! And when you look at the big picture, it is overwhelming. I'm sure you feel like it's close to impossible to fix everything.

Here is the good news. You don't have to fix everything. Just one thing, pick one small thing to work on. Maybe it's take a walk after dinner. And you can start with a small walk, this does not have to be some kinda crazy marathon. Just a leisurly stroll. Add on a little bit more distance, when you feel ready. Or maybe your first goal could be to make sure you get enough cacium in your diet, everyday. That's easy to track, here on SP.
Pick a goal, that is good for you, not to demanding & easy to succeed at. Once you've been meeting that goal for a month or so, add another goal to it.

Please remember, it took 6+ years to get here. So it's just not fair to yourself to think you'll be able whip yourself into shape in 6 weeks. You can obtain all your goals...but you need to go slow & steady. That's the very best way to be acheive your goals.

You Can Do This!

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5/9/12 5:08 P

First figure out how you gained weight. Do you eat when you're bored or do you eat large portions etc... Then you have to find something that motivates you whether it's keeping up with your kids, you desire to be healthy and active again etc... My motivation was more medical related. I had a stroke while 7 months pregnant with our second child. Having a close encounter with death, I realized that I am here for a reason and I have to take better care of my body. My stroke wasn't because of anything I did, I was born with a hole in my heart. After you find what motivates you, stick to it and hopefully the rest will follow. It might also help to seek out a close friend whom you can talk to about your current struggles. You don't have to announce it to everyone but just a close friend who will support you! Good luck! You can do anything that you set your mind too!

JTALL6205 Posts: 1
5/9/12 4:01 P

I'm 5'3" and now weight 212 lbs. In the last 6 years, I've gained approximately 60 lbs. and 3 children :). I have always been a very positive,bubbly, and fairly active person. I now find my old self slipping away from me. In the last year, I have become a shell of the person I used to be. I am not motivated to do things. I began smoking again. In short, I've started to hate myself. I don't have the energy to do things with my kids. My nights and weekends have become time that I sit around, watch TV, play on the internet...doing only what absolutely needs to be done. I feel terrible for my kids. My husband and I are having financial problems, which only makes things worse. I'm logical enough that I know that I need to motivate myself to confront my weight and financial issues head on, but for some reason I just won't do anything about it. I'm too embarrassd to share these thoughts with friends and family I continue to act like everything's fine..Please share the things that got you you started. I can't stand the thought of my life slipping away like this.

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