Thanks everyone for All of the Advice. I told him Friday night that it is time for him to move out. I tried to hang in there for a month after our last talk. He was still totally taken back by this and says that I making him leave for no reason. I have a million reasons but they are all really mean and hurtful to say SOOOO I didn't say them. He did not come home last night so I guess it FINALLY got through. Today he stopped by to pick up a few things. Unfortunately I am stuck with packing up all of his stuff because he wont do it. I know this is the right thing to do But I am still heart broken.
The best way is to be kind and prayful with these situations and for coldness you have a part to play - i hope you sort it out without too much pain on either end
8/21/13 11:29 A
Wow some pretty harsh advice for a guy you said was a good man at heart. You said he was surprised by what you had to tell him. It's common for people to stew about their feelings and issues and believe that the other person in the relationship is on the same page and knows that things are awful, but they just aren't there and are thinking everything is going good. You need to keep talking to him, you need to give him the time to digest and reflect on what you've told him so that he can catch up to where you are. Maybe if you give him the opportunity, he can come around and the two of you can work on the relationship together. You picked a time to talk to him, maybe deciding together a time and place to talk might work better. In the end it may be that this relationship will not work out. But as you said, you want it to end civilly, so treat him as you would like to be treated and maintain your dignity and grace through-out the process of either renewal or dissolution of your relationship. Good luck with whatever path you choose.
8/21/13 1:23 A
Yu have to do what you need to do to make yourself happy. If it hurts him, well so be it. I agree move his stuff out and change the locks. You deserve better.
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8/11/13 9:18 A
change the locks and throw his stuff on the front lawn.
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21 8/10/13 8:00 P
I agree I really think it is time for you to be blunt and tell him that its over. It seems like he doesn't care about your feelings especially since you have tried to talk to him. You do deserve better than this. I hope things work out for you.
I am a single mother of twins. They are now 23 years old BUT my son is severely disabled and my daughter just graduated college this year so, they both live with me. I have a boyfriend who moved into my house about 3 years ago. Things are not going well between us. We are like 2 single people living In the same house. We work different shifts so we don't even sleep in the same bed together and sex is nonexistent for at least a year now! I have told him several times that I am unhappy But he just does not get it! We had a long talk on Sunday and I told him once again how I feel and that I think he needs to move out of my house. He says he is totally surprised by this! He is a good man at heart but I feel like I am living with a brother not a significant other. He also has many Bad habits that I used to overlook and now just Piss Me Off! I know the relationship is over and I am trying to end it civilly without fighting and hate forever BUT HE JUST DOES NOT GET IT!! how do I get him out of my house with out destroying him?? Talking it out obviously wont work!