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JADOMB SparkPoints: (134,622)
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8/14/12 8:10 P

By the way, I just realized I forgot to address the logging issue. Well, just do the best you can. Maybe help him to do a few days so he doesn't feel it's so daunting. He isn't the only one that is living in the immediate gratification generation. My wife and daughter haven't done so well at logging either. My daughter really has a good excuse right now with her summer finals coming up this week and her GRE exam about a week after that. So sometimes other things do have priorities. Hopefully they will eventually be able to shift their priorities when they can.

Maybe if you have him just write them down for you and you show him how to log them in, or even do it yourself for a week or so. Enough to show him how far off he is from what he should be eating. Once he sees that, hopefully he will also see the importance of it. If that doesn't work, bribe him for a short time. LOL

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8/14/12 7:34 P

Positive reinforcement!

Make sure there's a non-food incentive to tracking. Think of some way to sit down and reward him for longer and longer periods of *accurate* tracking. Make it a fitness related reward!

You really need to be on the same page with his dad with this, too; Sit down with him and talk about what you can do together to ensure consistency no matter what! Dad needs to get on board, or you're going to be fighting two boys instead of one.

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8/14/12 6:05 P

This is probably the toughest age for our children. They need to eat to maintain their healthy growth, but they got to be careful of what they eat and how much. But in trying to bring attention to their weaknesses, it is easy to hurt them or even get them more depressed about self perceptions.

My son gained his weight at about that time also and he didn't need our help to see he was heavier than he wanted to be. So we just did our best to provide good healthy foods in the house and that helped. In 20/20 hindsight, I wish I would have started my SP journey back then. I think it may have helped him when he saw how well I was doing in getting back into shape. Then again, like I said, during these ages, they don't think normally, so I don't know if that would have helped or hurt.

So just be a good roll model, keep healthy foods in the house and try to encourage and not nag when there are any teaching moments found. By the way, my son finally found that driving force to make a change and within a year of so when he started college, he transformed into a rock hard health nut. So give them space, time and love. Keep the faith.

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8/13/12 7:39 P

I think you have a great plan! : )

good luck!

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8/13/12 4:26 P

Hi everyone,

First off, thank you so much for the suggestions. I've asked my son to do it for one week, Monday through Sunday.

As for exercise, he plays water polo. It is a great sport and he has a lot of endurance from it. But as we all know it's just not exercise that does it. I know my son already makes comments to himself about his weight. He is not happy about it. I am doing all I can not to do more harm than good. Trying so hard not to do that.

I will back off and be an example. I am glad to be able to bring him fruits and healthy snacks. We tried a nutritionist already but it is difficult to do it when his father wants things simple. He asked if they could just eat the same thing everyday. He has horrible ADHD and memory issues and will do nothing to help himself. I conceded to Lean Cuisine lunch sizes and dinner sizes. I told my son if he still feels hungry after 20 minutes have some fruit, drink some water, have a snack.

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8/13/12 10:46 A

I agree with Zorbs. I would also worry about giving him a complex or self-esteem issues. This is something you should take up with his father to keep an eye on, which it sounds like you've done.

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8/11/12 9:07 P

i think it is great you are providing the fruits and snacks and concerned about your son's health.

Since he isn't interested, i am not sure you can get him to track. perhaps take him to the dcotor, where the doctor can explain to him health risks of being overweight. you control what is in your house, so if thre are things you don't want him to have, don't buy a lot of it.

i am guessing your son consumes and probably needs more calories than me-i am 5 ft 6 and 132 pounds and a lean cuisine for lunch wouldn't fill me up. at the very least, i would need a salad and/or fruit to go with it.

the eating out and ordering in is probably a big part of the problem. Many restaurant meals have my calorie intake in one meal. would his dad agree to look up nutrition before going out to eat?

encourage him to get some sort of exercise. is there a place he can swim with his friends?

Edited by: CLARK971 at: 8/13/2012 (15:30)
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8/10/12 9:39 P

your son doesn't sound interested. You shouldn't be forcing him to diet...if he wants to lose weight and be healthy he'll do it. Until then, fighting and forcing him to do it will just cause rebellion.

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8/10/12 1:36 P


My son is 14 years old, is 5'8 and weighs 213. I started on this site about two weeks ago and showed him how food logs work. I suggested he log food and fluid intake for two weeks so that he could see for himself what he is taking in. I would like for him to lose weight -- at least get under 200. He has been a swimmer for 2 years and started Water polo last year. Unfortunately, he eats poorly -- he lives with his dad (and no bashing here, just the honest truth), his father rarely goes shopping for food. He orders in or they go out.

Since I brought this site up with my son, his father has agreed to Lean Cuisines at home for lunch and dinners. I've agreed to purchase the fruits and snacks. How can I be a support to my son without coming across over-bearing or "looking over his shoulder". He started logging three days ago (breakfast and lunch) and then missed yesterday completely. I'm so afraid he will say, "Screw this, it's too hard."

I need help.

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