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9/2/12 3:38 P

Thanks a lot for your encouragement and kind words :-) I feel better already. It is frustrating to have to accept that weightloss is going to be a slow process, but I know I'm getting healthier just by exercising a bit more and eating more healthy. I'll try to think in more positive ways, focusing on what I choose not to eat, instead of what I'm "not allowed" to eat :-) That is wonderful advice.

Thanks again!

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9/2/12 2:59 P


I'm sorry to hear about your medical problems. But you can't beat yourself up because you gained some weight. That's something that has happened to every single member of Spark People. We're all experts at gaining, losing and regaining the weight. You can't change the past, but you can influence and change the future.

As the old song goes,"accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative". Give yourself credit for the positive things you do for yourself and don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. You don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

Also, because you're already at a healthy weight for your height, it's going to take a while to lose that weight. Ask any member trying to lose that last 5-10 pounds and they'll tell you it's slow going. Someone who is morbidly obese could safely lose 1-2 pounds per week. Not so for someone with less to lose. You might only see a half a pound loss or less per week.

And that doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It's easy to gain weight. it's awfully hard to take it off. that's why you can't beat yourself up because you're not losing as fast as you'd like. there is no fast way to lose weight. I wish there were. weight loss is a slow steady process that takes time.

However, if you continue to eat right, watch your portions and get some regular exercise that includes some strength training. You will see change with time.

Be patient with yourself and your body.

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9/2/12 2:07 P

I am sorry to hear about your medical stuff. I am sure after going through all that, I've had my own medical set backs, it's very hard not to feel sorry for ones self. I've put on 38 lbs. so I hear you and did the same thing in the mirror. We are only human and we will learn from this too. I am focusing on the fact at least I can walk and make my food intake healthy. It takes time but the woman in the mirror is strong and don't you forget it. Make sure you eat enough for your exercise not eating enough is just as bad. And I read here on Spark People the more we use "I" the easier it is with the cake for example.It sounds like the cake wasn't the problem as you ate it to be nice and it wasn't even good. That stinks!You can do it and it just takes time and medically I hope you feel better. You keep up the good work.

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9/2/12 2:07 P


Life is full of set-backs, but we should try our best not to let those set-backs define who we are. When you made the comment, "I feel so hopeless at this dieting thing" that may be precisely what is causing you to abandon your resolve. Diets don't work for the long haul. They may allow us temporary losses, but it is by incorporating permanent healthy habits into our lives that will get us off the diet roller coaster. This means you do not have to live in the all-or-nothing state of mentality. All foods are allowed in any nutrition program, but it is done so with careful planning and in moderation.

A recent study showed that our perception and wording can have a lot to do with how successful we are at not just losing the weight, but keeping it off. When we say I can't have (fill in the blank), we lose control with our food and our empowerment over it. HOWEVER, when we say, I DON'T want (fill in the blank) this empowers us to have control over what we choose to eat. I have found this to be a very powerful tool. When I say I can't have say M&M's it's as if I am an outsider, but when I say I don't want the M&M's, this doesn't mean I can't have them, I just elect not to.

Hang in there! Glad to hear you are feeling better and getting back to your routine.

Coach Nancy

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9/2/12 1:47 P

I'm feeling so low today. I've been lashing out after myself for allowing myself to gain this weight I'm trying to get off. In March, I weighed 57 kgs and was training for a marathon. Then I caught a bug and got reactive arthritis, which meant serious joint pain for over a month (it took the doctors a while to figure out what was wrong with me). I had to stop my training - and as I felt seriously sorry for myself, I began pity-eating.

Since then, I have managed to gain 7 kgs!!! And I was actually fine by late June, but I just kept on with the bad habits and didn't even dare look at the scales all summer. A couple of weeks ago I finally pulled myself together - and found out how much I had gained. And instantly, I was on a diet. I have NEVER gained so much weight so fast!

I've managed to shred 1.5 kgs (about 3 lbs) since, but I feel so hopeless at this dieting thing. I constantly think I'm overeating, and I don't trust my nutrition-calculations. Today we were invited to a birthday party and I took a slice of cake, just to be polite, and then later I regretted it so much. Why should I eat cake I don't really want, and therefore will not enjoy, just to be polite?

I just feel it's so hopeless. I know it really isn't much I need to lose, but I'm afraid I'll never get it off. I can't really understand I've gained so much so fast, so I'm a bit scared that my metabolism may be changing due to the fact that I'm now much closer to 30 than 20 years old, and with to kids and all...

Well, by now no one is bothering to read this meaningless self pity, so I guess I'll stop. I just wish someone would say "Of course you are going to shred that weight, you can do it and you are doing the right thing," because I'm just so much in doubt. I'm eating no more than 1500 calories a day, bicycling, running, resistance training, doing the Jillian Michaels 30 day shred - and I feel great physically - but when I look in the mirror I just can't help hating myself a little. When will the results begin to show?

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