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SLIMMERKIWI SparkPoints: (254,056)
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9/1/12 8:56 P

I am GLAD that you had a night out! EVERYBODY needs a break at some stage - it is called letting your hair down - unwinding, etc. etc.

I actually suggest that people ALLOW one day every two weeks to have whatever they want. It may seem strange but it actually works because you are less likely to chuck in the towel because deprivation is too hard to live with and doesn't work. I practice what I preach and it works. I am now at my goal after having been overweight for about 30 years, and have been maintaining quite a long time. I still mainly eat in my 'weight-loss' range, but now I have my 'whatever I want' day (generally) once a week - sometimes a bit further apart and occasionally a bit closer. I still weigh all my food and use the Nutrition Tracker for everything.

Keep up the good work because you have achieved a lot so far :-)


TANGOKATE Posts: 662
9/1/12 8:44 P

What I do is try and plan cheats. If I know that I am going to be over my range on a certain day or for a certain meal, I just eat well the days before and after. If I am over my range by accident on a day. I do my best to get right back on track the next day and not look back. It happened. I had fun. Can't do it all the time. Today, I am back to my plan.

IWANT2SLEEP SparkPoints: (0)
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9/1/12 4:00 P

I never understood this "feeling guilty" about eating or drinking too much. To me guilt seems like something that should be felt if one does something that is morally wrong (lying, cheating etc) not because you just ate or drank too much, nothing morally wrong with that. So the way to get over it is, as others have said, log it, blog it try to learn from it but don't feel guilty!

ARCHIMEDESII SparkPoints: (200,147)
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9/1/12 2:48 P


You can't beat yourself up because you over indulged last night. The problem with drinking too much alcohol is that people aren't very mindful of what they ate. This won't be pretty, but you need to log all that alcohol and fish. You need to be honest with yourself. So, log it all and then put the evening behind you.

When you want to go out again for drinks, take a good look at that entry from last night. It might make you think twice. Also, you don't have to have multiple drinks to have a good time with friends. It is okay to say,"no thank you", when you've had enough. Have a drink or two, but take your time sipping the drinks. don't down them or someone will come by and fill up your glass again. As they, nurse that drink.

Also, no one says you have to have multiple alcoholic drinks. After one, you could have mineral water with a twist of lime or lemon. that would decrease the amount of calories you intake as well as keep you from mindlessly eating.

So, no more guilt. Do your best to eat more healthfully today. And like I said, be honest. Log all that food and drink so that the next time this happens, you might reconsider over indulging.

ATHENA1966 Posts: 3,990
9/1/12 1:58 P

First, I would stay off the scale for a few days. Alcohol can actually make your tissues retain water. Weird because I always thought of it as a diuretic. I am guessing goldfish probably have a fair amount of sodium. Both of those things are contributing to water weight. Don't beat yourself up over having a night out. There is no way one night has undone all your hard work.

JLCAMP09 SparkPoints: (975)
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9/1/12 11:12 A

Agreed. A single night of indulgence isn't going to put you back to square one.

Sparkpeople hasnt been teaching us how to diet, its about teaching us a new way to live life and get the most out of it, to make smarter choices when it comes to eating and exercising. Now say if you went out for the next three nights and partied as much as you did last night, that's a different story, lol.

So enjoy yourself, dont beat yourself up about it. Goodluck!

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9/1/12 9:48 A


Guilt keeps us trapped in a diet mentality. To think that no one who is at a healthy weight ever indulges from time to time is an unrealistic way of thinking. Remember too, that none of us gained our weight from an occasional indulgence, but by eating that way day in and day out.

The one thing I try so desperately to stress to people is that your weight is NOT a static can vary by as much as 7 pounds in the course of a single day so to put so much importance on it, versus the positive changes you are making is not giving yourself credit for losing the weight you have lost up to this point. This is why I stress to people not to allow the scale to be your be-all-end-all tool of success.

Hang in there! I hope you had fun last night. Life is meant to be lived and have fun--it shouldn't be about guilt and shame for having fun.

Coach Nancy

9/1/12 9:27 A

Last night, I went out with some friends for drinks, and probably had more than I intended. I was feeling gross last night from all the alcohol, so I had some goldfish crackers... half a bag of goldfish crackers... which I then finished off this morning. I know yesterday wasn't TOO bad, it worked out to just under 2000 calories so it shouldn't make me gain weight, and today is still salvageable if I eat at the higher end of my range.

But I feel so guilty! I hate that I feel bad about a night of fun that I really needed, and I hate that I feel guilty about trying to spare myself from feeling sick this morning. Mentally, I'm freaking out a little because I stepped on the scale and went, "OMG! I gained three pounds!" even though I know full well that around this uh... time of month... I always gain five pounds of water weight that goes away immediately after.

My question is, how do you deal with these kinds of cases without mentally beating yourself up?

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