My wedding is quite a bit a ways from yours (10/12/13), and my goal is to lose 37 lbs (although, I think I'd be happy if I just lost 30). And when I "diet," for lack of better terms, I become obsessive. I think that's why I yo-yo so much, I go hard, balls to the walls for a good month,m and ultimately just burn myself out because I get so sick of thinking so much about what to eat today, tomorrow, what machines to use at the gym, how many calories does this burn compared to that, etc. That being said, one thing that I'm trying to keep in the *front* of my mind is...
I will never get this time back! God willing, I will never be a bride to be again. And I *know* this is a time I will look back on and want back, and I'll be damned if this is just another one of those times that I completely wasted by 1) hating my body, 2) obsessing over my weight and/or weight loss. I can't tell you how many vacations I've ruined just inside my own head that way-- and ya know what, I can't get those back either!
So just try to remember that regardless of your size or your goal size, what you're going through right now is a once in a lifetime thing, and you should try to enjoy every minute of it!
My wedding is at the end of July, and I'm hoping to lose 30 lbs by then. Every time I think about wedding dresses, I just get really anxious and upset, which made me realize that I really need to address this insecurity. Laneybird, I really love what you said about self-love; I think that's the hardest part, sometimes!
One big thing, for me, is planning my food ahead of time, so I have a set series of options for breakfast (fruit smoothie and/or chocolate protein shake) and lunch (turkey sandwich or healthy choice soup and piece of fruit) and snack (fruit or veggie or greek yogurt) each day. Dinner is flexible, but my fiance and I are cooking healthy together, so it should be easy to stay on track. My fiance and I both have a new rule that we're only eating out once a week, too.
I'm also scheduling workouts 3x a week, at least. I have anxiety issues, and wedding planning is obviously stressful, so I really need to get to the gym to combat the anxiety that tends to build up, make me unhappy, and causes stress-binge eating. The willpower for getting to the gym will, I think, be the harder part, so anyone who has tips, I'll take them!
Good luck, everyone!
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10/15/12 3:25 P
One thing I found helpful during the wedding planning and with losing weight is making exercise a priority. It's a great stress reliever, gives you some 'me time', and of course helps burn fat. If you have limited time a little exercise is better than nothing, just increase the intensity.
I love the spark recipes. Very easy to enter in your food for the day. I'd fous on filling, low calorie main ingredients like beans and winter squash.
my wedding is just over a year away and ideally i would like to lose over 100 lbs. not sure if that is do-able, but ultimately i just want to be feeling more confident on my wedding day.
i also would love any tips, as i haven't technically lost any weight yet...
as far as my own advice to give, i suggest focusing less on the weight and more on self love. find appreciation for yourself and take care of yourself in a variety of ways. this has been my main goal and i hope that no matter how much weight i lose i feel beautiful on my wedding day.
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10/5/12 2:40 A
Hey! So good to know there's other people out there feeling the same way!
Sure! It will be great to share some experiences and thoughts with each other! I've added you as a friend :)
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38 10/4/12 2:26 P
Hey we are in a similar boat, I am getting married dec 22 but I havent been engaged long so my goal to lose 15 lbs is sooner than later. I know I can focus on 2lbs a week and reach my goal its just buying and altering a dress that concerns me. If you want a buddy cause we have similar goals let me kno!
My best advice is to not get your hopes too high. My wedding is in 31 days and I can tell you that dropping that much weight too close to your wedding is probably not going to be healthy. You will be stressed and overworking yourself at a time in your life when you will look back and wished you relaxed. Plus you want to have your final fitting 4 to 6 weeks before the wedding. Your seamstress will not be happy taking in the dress the week before, not to mention the cost of it.
Good luck but do not ruin this time for you and your fiance by working out too much. A couple times a week and eat right. SparkRecipes are awesome, just search through them.
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10/3/12 4:49 A
Hello everyone! I've just joined Spark People and enjoy reading all your posts! So i'm getting married on 8 December... That's a mere 66 days away from today! My aim is to drop 15 pounds... Not sure if I'll make my goal in time, but I'll sure as hell put up a good fight! I simply refuse to be a chunky bride :) What is your best weight loss advice? Best Spark People recipes? Would love to hear from you!