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Don'T Ask, They'Ll Tell



When my husband was first diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, I would ask him his "numbers" every time he tested himself. I quickly realized that this was stressing him out in a situation that was already very stressful because my reaction often reinforced his anxiety. Now, I never ask. I let him tell me, and he does. As a result, we are both more relaxed about his health. (His A1C was 6.1 last time it was checked. He's doing great!)

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When he was diagnosed with diabetes, his A1C was over 13 so his A1C reassures us both that he's truly taking care of himself.

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  • Thank you for this post. I have been guilty of regularly asking my spouse about this and I often see that stressed reaction. I won't do it anymore! emoticon - by MEANDERBLUE
  • I'm in total agreement with this, but I also know that if no one is paying attention to me I'm apt to pay no attention to me either. I sometimes need someone to rattle my cage.

    On the other hand, I once had a pharmacist ask me what my morning BS was when I went to pick up my Metformin prescription. I told him where he could go with that question. - by CGFIELD
  • Excellent advice! When I was first diagnosed, my DH and DD would stand right over my shoulder as I was doing my morning FBS. Drove me nuts! I made a deal that if they didn't bug me by doing that, I'd tell them my blood sugars when I was READY TO! Well, they kept their work, I kept mine and the stressing about it stopped. I don't mind telling them now! - by 1CRAZYDOG

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