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Beware Of Emotional Vampires

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You know the type. Everything is horrible. It's all drama and it's all bad. You want to listen. You want to help. But your suggestions fall on deaf ears. They don't want help. They just want to complain. And drag you down with them. Don't let them do it. Be strong and say enough is enough.

- Submitted by RUNNER12COM 4/1/2010 in Staying Positive | 5 Comments
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RUNNER12COM 4/1/2010 2:15:00 PM

    To clarify, this does not mean that you should ignore your friends when they need help. We all benefit from the assistance of others. But when you find yourself hearing the same complaint again and again ("he's so mean to me") but no response to your suggestions ("why don't you tell him that this bothers you?"), you can be sure the person is comfortable playing the victim. They don't want to change. They enjoy the drama. And they like the attention that it brings them.

But you can't save someone who won't take action to save themselves.
VALERIENEAL 8/25/2010 9:16:00 PM

    Awrsome, now I have a name for them!
PCW452002 2/11/2011 2:11:00 AM

    I think it is OK to set limits, if your friend keeps harping on the same thing over and over again, it is OK to say, hey I really would like to help but you ignore everything I suggest so I would prefer we not discuss it anymore. If it costs you a friendship so be it, you do NOT need a friend like that.
TIMLINLUVER 10/17/2010 7:55:00 AM

    I'm dealing with someone like this and I try to stay positive but sometimes it's hard not to get sucked in. Lately I've been having conversations with my inner-self and found that I've stopped listening to the same negative stuff.
VRCATON 8/28/2010 10:26:00 AM

    Too true .. and they drain your energy .. sucking the life out of you!! I try not to get sucked into that, but I agree that you need to be there for your friends. It's a fine line .. just don't get all cynical about all your friends! lol

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