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Learn To Live With Your Partner




When I started to get healthy with my eating, I would go crazy when my partner didn't want to eat the things I did. He'd cringe over vegetables, wanted a hamburger instead of a black bean burger, and wouldn't go near fruit and veggie smoothies. After exhausting myself with trying to force my partner to take on my new habits, I just let go, did my own thing, and let him eat what he wanted.

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After a while, he even showed interest in healthy eating because of my motivation! So, show by example, not just talking.

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  • I totally get this! I've actually used it as an excuse to NOT make healthy choices! In my deepest self I've always known I'd be happier and more at peace if I was a vegetarian. (And probably MUCH thinner! LOL!) But I married a Montana boy 27 years ago who DEFINES 'meat & potatoes man'! He has always, always said he's more than willing to make separate meals for himself and our daughter, and now our granddaughters that we're raising.

    I know that now is the time to do what's best for my health. And I'm lucky enough to share my life with someone who will encourage me in my journey, though his path is different than mine. :-) - by TCJEAN
  • I hear you! I used to get frustrated as well - I even created an SP sign on for him and logged all his food and activity to try to get him to "see it". He was kind of interested in the results, but not enough to take on the process himself or be accountable. So I quit doing it because not only was I frustrated, but I was wasting my "me time" doing this for him. I still make healthy food and he does eat it without complaint (usually), but I'm not going to harass him and force my lifestyle on him. I just do what I can for him and hope that one day he'll hit his "I'm going to make a change" moment in life. - by KCHRISTY6

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