When I start to feel stressed, I take a few deep breaths, and ask myself what things I can control, and what things *I* personally own. For those things, I do everything I can achieve positive outcomes.
For things that I don't own, in particular, other people's drama or reactions -- I detach myself.
This is in alignment with many philosphical/religious perspectives including Christianity, AA 12 Step programs, Eastern thought ...
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If you already wear a badge on a lanyard at work, why not add a pedometer? I wear a cute handmade lanyard from Etsy with my badge and an Omron HJ-203 ($20 @ Amazon) "pocket" pedometer. I like not having to connect to my waist, and my dress shoes lack shoelaces, so the lanyard is the way to go. Plus it's cute, and it has a handy clock to boot!
I added a jump ring (very cheap, used for jewelry, see your local craft store) so the pedometer can be detached & worn in pockets on evenings, weekends. They come in pink (mine), yellow, purple, and black. When you make 10K steps, there's a little guy in there that cheers!
Toxic "Friends" - Let Them Go, Give Yourself Permission--It Is OKAY, I Promise!
Letting go of toxic "friends" is just as important as surrounding yourself with positive people. All it takes is that one person that will delight in the back handed compliment or saying cutting or disparaging things. It is OKAY to distance yourself, in fact, you NEED to keep the negativity away.
Friends are supportive and kind and want the best for you. Your happiness makes them happy. Hugs to all of you that have someone toxic in your life. I'm slowly detaching myself from them and wish for all of you the strength and ability to do the same.
I do what's called 'urge surfing' (an ACT technique). Basically it means I become mindful of my thoughts about food. I observe them then accept them. I feel where they are in my body. I sit with them for a little while.
Then I detach from them. I see them outside of me--like they're floating away in a hot air balloon, or like they're a caricature of me.
After I've detached from them, I go do something I find valuable. I become willing to do something I value for 15 min.
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