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Stop Drowning!

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... in other people's sorrows! We all have loved ones and friends with problems, but there is a fine line between helping someone and sharing in their change or temporary venting...and drowning in their sorrows. If you are left deflated and defeated, it's ok to cut the toxic ties!

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Some people need much more than we can ever give, and they can ever receive to fill that deep dark hole. Some people have very toxic behaviours. Give yourself permission to shed the toxic relationships, so that you can heal. Surround yourself with positive people. Good for your health and sanity!
- Submitted by TURQUOISELOTUS 8/11/2010 in Staying Positive | 2 Comments
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2TEN8US2QUIT 8/12/2010 8:45:00 PM

    Thank you for sharing this!
I have a family member that called daily to tell me her problems, before spark I had time to listen. After spark, I tell her I am preparing for my workout but, I invite her to join. Of course, she never joins and has since started calling me at work and again I explain I am busy and if she would like to talk, she is more than welcome to join me for my workouts. She wants me to listen to her problems but I would rather address a problem she ignores, my family member is morbidly obese. I explain how relaxed and calm I am after I take care of MYSELF. I hope she gives in because I want to share the joy with everyone.
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JRDIAMOND4 8/11/2010 3:20:00 PM

    I had a phone call recently that really made me stop and think. The caller said Sorry I haven't called lately but you are my shoulder to cry on and I haven't had any thing to cry about.

Are you happy for them? Do you take it as a compliment or a slap? You are good enough for my sorrows but not my every day life. My heart is saying Be a good friend but my head is saying DUH? Hello!

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