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Dealing With Negativity


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I choose to not respond when someone is complaining to me, egging me on to join them in their misery. I think it's an unconsious thing that people do, but the saying is true... misery loves company. I CHOOSE NOT TO BE NEGATIVE. Find the good in your day and hug it close!!

If you can't find anything good... it's time to move on.
- Submitted by HEIDIBB 7/28/2010 in Everything Else | 9 Comments
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SWEETMOMMY41 3/7/2011 7:46:00 AM

    i also choose not to respond to someone else's negativity.
SKINNYMINI247 3/3/2011 10:03:00 PM

    Hi Sparks Teammate, I do the same thing, totally ignore them until they get the picture. I also stay away from them, I don't need the bad vibes. emoticon
SUNRISESUNSET 1/16/2011 11:05:00 AM

    I don't mind when someone is feeling miserable, but if they're ALWAYS miserable then it definitely pushes people away. Rant/vent and do something constructive. For the rest of us, don't let them suck you in. It's sad when people enjoy others' misery, but it happens every day e.g. a famous celebrity has a tough time, divorce, gains weight and the media and public bash them.
AZDREAMS 7/30/2010 8:27:00 AM

MARYJOANNA 7/29/2010 5:32:00 AM

    I agree with you. Positive is the key word. It is a word that bui9lds up not tear down.
SAFETYSUE 7/29/2010 2:24:00 AM

    Very well said, and so well said! It takes some life lessons and time to gain this perspective. Wise words.....

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MIDWESTQUILTER 7/29/2010 1:05:00 AM

    Negativity is contagious--I, too, choose not to join in and have found that no response to someone else's negativity often moves the conversation in another direction.
KEEPONMOVIN2 7/28/2010 3:29:00 PM

ITGALLO 7/28/2010 1:25:00 PM

    I have truly learned that you get more with honey than vinegar. Being diplomatic has made me more thoughtful and happier. I never feel better when I am negative, so why do it.

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